Being kaali pakistani

inspiron · October 13, 2011, 10:33pm

Re: Being kaali pakistani

Please tell me you’re joking with this comment.

I know what you mean.

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Ladies, since when is being kaali a bad thing?

You will not change your skin tone, other peoples’ minds or the way our society thinks. So don’t try.

My mom is super fair. My dad is really dark. I am the darkest in my sisters. I used to think this was really bad because the same desi mentality…dark = ugly. I actually remember being 5 years old and praying to Allah to make me lighter. Even my ex-MIL made comments at me for being dark! I am an NC30.

It stops when you stop.

You look at what Allah swt has given you. The blessings. The personality. The opportunities. The chances. The face. The color you DO have. And you start to become grateful.

You can’t go through life letting other people dictate what you see yourself as. That is a waste of time because you will NEVER appeal to everyone’s sense to taste. NEVER. There will always be someone who thinks you’re not all that. Being fair will not make this go away.

I have a friend whose face and color is a perfect 10…but she is severely insecure about her figure.

What might help is understanding that Allah swt makes us all a certain way…he doesn’t make mistakes. He makes us perfect. Work on the health of your skin, your body and be the best version of you. That is enough.

That was honestly such heart felt words and made me feel so much better reha! x