Re: Being Avoided, I Don't Wanna Be
^ Ok here you are defining any other girl . I think you are trying to be a good friend in this time of need . Well usually when people seek for help they approach you . If she is staying away it means there is a reason behind it . Let her be and don't worry too much over it . If she needs you , she'll come to you . Chill .
and yea , stop being too emotional . They are good for nothing .
^ Ok here you are defining any other girl . I think you are trying to be a good friend in this time of need . Well usually when people seek for help they approach you . If she is staying away it means there is a reason behind it . Let her be and don't worry too much over it . If she needs you , she'll come to you . Chill .
and yea , *stop being too emotional . They are good for nothing .
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He is being nice!
This is a very complicated relationship. You’re saying that it isn’t romantic, you don’t love her in that way… ok, so you two are just friends, like siblings. But a really close friend wouldn’t text you saying it’s the last time they’re texting/calling if there is no fight beforehand. If she doesn’t want you to help, then she doesn’t have to tell you about her problem but can still talk to you. It doesn’t make any sense. This is what I think is going on…
***** You can read this, but I didn’t read RV’s post before typing this. Apparently, she wrote the same thing. ** 
or…
or…
or…
If you’re worried about her, then go to her house/school/workplace, wherever… but meet her so that you can find out why she’s avoiding you. If she flips out and tells you that she never wants to see you or talk to you, then just let her be and move on.
You can’t be nice unless you control your own emotions 
Didn’t even think about that possibility.** :k: **
Re: Being Avoided, I Don't Wanna Be
She doesn't have a boyfriend. . I mean she had one, but he ditched her, i helped her get over tat. . Her mom is a mean lady. . She hurts. . Its her character u know, stayin away when she's too much stressed out. . I somehow manage to get her out of her tensions, mostly it gets solved. . I rang up her cousin, he told she hasn't returned his calls too. . I'm sorry fellas i'm a lot concerned. . She's my only special person. . To everyone else in this world i have my own attitude. . I have that self respect **** in me more than a lot. . Its no use havin self respect wit the one who helped me get it. . It'd be like the moon sayin to the sun 'i look more beautiful than u'. .
She doesn't have a boyfriend. . I mean she had one, but he ditched her, i helped her get over tat. . Her mom is a mean lady. . She hurts. . Its her character u know, stayin away when she's too much stressed out. . I somehow manage to get her out of her tensions, mostly it gets solved. . I rang up her cousin, he told she hasn't returned his calls too. . I'm sorry fellas i'm a lot concerned. . She's my only special person. . To everyone else in this world i have my own attitude. . I have that self respect **** in me more than a lot. . Its no use havin self respect wit the one who helped me get it. . It'd be like the moon sayin to the sun 'i look more beautiful than u'. .
You're rather poetic about this friendship :)
Okay, so she doesn't have boyfriend and you helped her get over that. So, assuming that the boyfriend is NOT the problem...........then he would not be a reason for her to avoid you. Assuming that her mom really is cruel........even then that doesn't seem like a reason for her to avoid you.......unless her mom has threatened her not to speak to you for some reason. Maybe mom is searching rishtas for her and doesn't want her daughter to talk to a guy because that might ruin her reputation and make it harder for her to get a rishta.
^But if mom's not causing a problem.............then what else could it be? Financial problems doesn't seem to make sense. Seriously, sk3wlboy, she wants to cut off all communication with you and I think that it's either due to 2 reasons:
1) She may be receiving some sort of threat or pressure to stop talking to you....perhaps from her family.
2) If she wants to stop talking to you......then it seems to imply that talking to you/keeping contact with you is a strong emotional issue for her. If she wants to avoid it, that means that she wants to maybe eliminate that emotional stress. Which is what still makes me wonder if she has a crush on you (regardless of her age).
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I think it's most likely either my #1 or #4, and I'm leaning more toward #1. She probably had a huge crush on you. Don't give age as a reason, it happens between friends. I've seen it so many times. She tells you she's not talking to you anymore... it probably kills her... then she sends you texts, but doesn't answer her phone because she's fighting against her emotions. Either that or her problems are serious and can harm you if you get involved. Maybe it's bigger than the mother. You need to talk to her face-to-face.
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^ I too suspect the possibility of a crush from her end.
Here's a question for you Sk3wlboy.
Let's say (hypothetically) that we end up being right about her having a crush on you. Would you ever be able to think of her in that sense? Or are you pretty set in having only platonic feelings for her?
Guys its not a romantic relation. . its a lot of caring and missing and all that. . i'm not talkin about the love between a male nd de opposit sex, its somethin we shared in de heart. . i never saw her as part of a romantic relation, she wouldn have, actually she's de elder one among us two, so no chance of romance. . i'm sayin tat, SHE'S IN TROUBLE, THAT IS WHY SHE IS STAYING AWAY FROM ME, I'M NOT BUGGING HER, I'VE GIVEN HER THE SPACE TO MAKE HER OWN CHOICES, ALWAYS. . SHE'S VERY WEAK, EMOTIONALLY, THATS WHY I WANNA HELP HER. . PLUS, THERE'S THIS EX BOYFRIEND OF HER, AND HE IS TROUBLE. . HOW CAN I JUST GET HER OUTTA THAT MESS. . Oly** i know whats her true emotions are, and she knows what i am*. . If she's hurt then there's no use of me, i'd be ungrateful. . **She didn let anyone hurt me, its my turn*. . Pls understand fellas. .
What did I say to you yesterday????
Get a hold of your life, you can't keep on going on in life depending on a "friend."
And today I'll add, STOP BEING SUCH A GIRL.
Make yourself busy with something, READ NEMAAZ!!!!!
And if you keep on going on like this, you're on the right road to become a complete pathetic individual.
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Dear redvelvet,
I don't care if she has a crush on me. . It won't make any difference yaar. . if she's tryna avoid emotional stress, i might wonder on that. . .
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Dear Gaia,
i 'was' a pathetic individual. . i was probably the most naive fella in my class. . and as my dad passed away, i was totally demolished. . i was a coward. . i was like, afraid of dumb fellas in de class. .
but then, after i found her, i stopped bein a coward, she helped me get over it. . she made me a man. . i am not a pathetic individual anymore. . 'that is why i am stuck to her'. . really. . i'm not meanin to be a girl, but i'm possessive about her, i love her, i don't wanna leave her. . i can ditch her and leave, but what difference would it make from me and others. . ?
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^ So any news ?
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hmmm. . . not yet. . its too early to expect now. . but if i don't hear from her before tomorro nit, its time for a long travel. . face to face talks. . .
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^ I agree . I hope you have a destination to go to .
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Dear sk3wlboy,
Her having a crush on you might not make a difference to you, but IF we're right about the crush, it does make a difference to her. You already made it seem like it's impossible for you to like her in a romantic way. You also mentioned that she's older. This would mean that you are rejecting the possibility of liking her in a romantic way. And rejection hurts. If you continue to be close to her because you're "stuck to her," you would be leading her on. Like I've said, go talk to her in person. Also, don't be too attached to someone, let them breathe.
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okay if u guys got this right, and she developed a romantic feelin for me, i'm not gonna outrightedly 'reject' it. . she'll understand why things won't work out tat way if i talk to her for ten mins, but the troubl here is she just won't listen. . there were times when our minds were totally in sync. . m not gonna hate her for a reason lik this, its so not my type. . she knows tat. . and yeah, i'm gonna have a day's journey to do. . . :( she won't flip out and say 'i never wanna see u again'. . but if face to face talk is gonna solve this, i'll do the darn travel. .
hey redvelvet, i didn see ur post properly about me being poetic, was tat a compliment?
:k: Agree. If we are right about her having a crush on her, then respect her wishes to have some distance from you. That would help her in moving on. It’s not right to lead someone on, even if it’s unintentional.
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really i will totally help her move on, if she has a crush on me. . i respect her and she well deserves a better life than the one she has now. . but how can i just go ask her? i can't just go to her and say 'oh hi swthrt, r u stayin away cuz u've a crush on me?'
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^ well, it might be best if you don't start off with sweetheart. Tell her you've been worried sick about her. She means a lot to you. What's going on in her life? Why can't you help her? And why does she want you out of her life, does she hate you? Ask her if you've hurt her in any way.