Re: Being Avoided, I Don't Wanna Be
this is the best soap opera ever. someone call a pakistani playwright so they can add a bit of rona dhona and long gazes out into the nothingness. or an indian soap opera writer, to add a bunch of whoooshes and bollywood songs into it.
All this hoopla…and she ends going to the possessive Mr. D. 
I’ll be honest…I was kinda hoping the “dear one” would end up with our filmi hero (the thread creator)
But then again, AT LEAST, Mr. D sounds more sure of his feelings than the skowlboy. By the time he figures out what he’s feeling…the picture would be over and “dear one” would be the amma of several kids.
In all fairness, the age issue (being 18) only does and complicate issues. Sigh. Although, I do know of a Muslim couple, where the husband was 18 when he married his wife who was 7 years older (25) and it was a love marriage. They’ve been married almost ten years and have a kid.
Re: Being Avoided, I Don't Wanna Be
I just spent 1.5 hours reading this thread..
after feeling intensly for you At page 10 it all flipped when i felt you have tooken us for a ride.
Its hard to comprehend how you can let someone go that easily that you loved.
Anyways, dude analyze your feelings, I think you love her. Maybe you will not find anyone else as good.
You seem like a pretty good guy- who she got realised she is too attached with too just remain friends.
You should have made your call- Like I mean proposed. I think she would have reacted positivly. She is/was trying to do the right thing by distancing from you.
Think about it- Is mr D Really right for her? Not only financial-but emotional needs are important for girls.
It looks like you two have the according great understanding and care for each other. In taht case she likes you dummy- and you need to make your call if you love her. Otherwise you may regret it all your life.
Or have u indeed been trolling----LOL- at that. then
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I'd love to be with her, and yes, maybe she will react positively if i make my move.. We can be together for the rest of our life, but this is desi society..
What happens to her status in de society? In that case, i find that mr.D loves her, he has a good place in the society, and he's well settled.. He can provide her a good future, which i can provide her only later, but that is a long time..
She may not like mr.D now, but i think she'll eventually realize tat he is a good man..
And hey! I'm not ur filmi hero, i'm just tryna go wit the flow in my weird life..
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I am NOT TROLLING!!
I'd love to be with her, and yes, maybe she will react positively if i make my move.. We can be together for the rest of our life, but this is desi society.. What happens to her status in de society? In that case, i find that mr.D loves her, he has a good place in the society, and he's well settled.. He can provide her a good future, which i can provide her only later, but that is a long time.. She may not like mr.D now, but i think she'll eventually realize tat he is a good man.. And hey! I'm not ur filmi hero, i'm just tryna go wit the flow in my weird life..
LET HER DECIDE if she wants to be with Mr. D. You can't go around saying, "Look sweetheart, it's for your own good to marry D. You may not realize it now, but 10 years down the road, when you're the amma of his 5 kids, you'll finally realize that he's a wonderful man and that you truly do love him."
She needs to decide this for herself. She needs to figure out if she even wants to marry him. And if she doesn't want to marry him, then don't pressure her. She may find SOMEONE ELSE (besides Mr. D) who she thinks is attractive and will make a good life partner for her. A good friend won't pressure you about decisions that will affect your whole life. You've made your suggestion, now back off and let her make her own decisions. In fact, just don't even talk about Mr. D to her now. Let her sort out her own feelings for him on her own.
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thats what i've did really.. i've given her the space, its all done now...
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I agree with redvelvet, you can't persuade her or really push her to go to Mr. D. If she doesn't know about Mr. D's feelings, then you can let her know that he likes her. Say he's a good guy and like I said before, that you just want her to be happy- whether she gets that from Mr. D or someone else.
While I have been saying that you love your friend, you are 18 and your feelings for your friend may change when you find another girl around your age attractive. This doesn't mean that younger guys can't end up with or shouldn't end up with older gals, I'm all for it if the couple is right for one another. But keep your eyes open for other girls you might be interested in... the least that can happen is you'll confirm whether or not you're in love with your friend.
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OH FFS!!!!!!!! there other things in life then a girl. focus on ur family, friends, study. they should be ur main priority, not a girl. U av the rest of your life to focus on girls and why 'she no like me ?"
Re: Being Avoided, I Don’t Wanna Be
[note] Thread locked on OP’s request . According to him he got what he wanted 
Thanks everyone for your valuable input . :k:
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