The great soundarya says the same thing as the great redvelvet.
Why on earth would girl X go around saying that you love her? Or why would people think you like girl X? Are you just as strong with girl X?
Also, if your girl doesn't think you're coming on too strong, when people on this forum do... then she probably does like you a lot. Her getting mad at something like you hooking up with girl X is strange. Is there something wrong with girl X- like does she have a bad reputation? Figure out your feelings for her, although I don't think there's much to even figure out, we've been telling you all along that you love her in probably a romantic way. Maybe you should watch movies showing older girls hooking up with younger guys so that both of you can have the confidence in accepting your relationship.
Actually i'm not tat good wit girl x, she sucks anyway... i have no blue why she said tat, but tat really annoyed my dear one... A new chapter has begun.. Another guy, who i know very well and is the nicest one aroun, is in love wit her... i don't know if tats good news or bad news...
So this is the deal.. This other guy, say mr.D, is in luv wit in my dear one... he seems lik a really nice guy, he's settled, he's well occupied, and leads a cool life... and he really likes her, not just attracted, but he really likes her a lot.. look, my dear one's 22, he's 26, and i'm just 18... its a long way till i'll get settled..... i think this, 'll be the best future she can have.. she's bein way too possessive on me, she likes me romantically but she possibly hasn't realized it yet.. so let those thoughts be buried deep down, we'll be still best friends, and she can have a spectacular future, isn't tat ryt...?
But we can still be as close as usual na. . . . ? I don't wanna u know, just give her away lik tat. . its time to concentrate on my own, and its pretty sure i'm gonna be happy for her....
sk3wlboy, this is what i think you should do... tell your "dear one" about mr. d yourself. tell her that mr. d is a really good guy who is settled, can provide for her, and he loves her. say that she's the closest person in your life, she's your best friend, and you only want her to be happy, you think she should consider it. see how she reacts.
yeah, it does seem like it sa-Nafooz... such a complicated story with so much masala.
finally, a solution!
too bad my life seems lik fiction.... anyways, i'm really happy for her now, mr.D seems to be a reasonable person, now i don't have to worry about her all the time... cuz mr.D 'll takecare of her well.. if not, then he's in troubl... if yes, he got lucky...
So, thank you everyone, special thanks for redvelvet, soundarya....!
Soundarya, u were ryt. . At first, she didn't wanna marry mr.D. . . Then, i took her to mr.D, talked to both of em, finally mr.D confessed tat he's in love wit her, first she was really confused, now i've given her de space, and she asked some advice, gave her the best i could, so its now a bit more clear, and she's understandin.. only thing in their way is her parents, and um, i can fix tat.. so i think its nearly solved... and yeah, i wanted to ask, this guy mr.D is possessive about her... any ways in which i can reduce his possessive behaviour?
My life ain't a fairy tale Gina, to end like 'and they lived happily ever after'. . I sure wish it could end like tat, but okay, i can live with this. . So yeah right, whats the advice to reduce possessive behaviour of mr.D?
My life ain't a fairy tale Gina, to end like 'and they lived happily ever after'. . I sure wish it could end like tat, but okay, i can live with this. . So yeah right, whats the advice to reduce possessive behaviour of mr.D?
Hmm, tell me something. Have you analyzed what you feel for her? Do you think you have romantic feelings for her and are "letting her go" because Mr. D can provide a better future for her?
OR....do you simply not have ANY romantic feelings for her at all? Cuz I've never seen a guy use such intense flattery/terms of endearment for a girl that was just a friend?
Just because she has talked to Mr. D and understands him a bit better now is NO guarantee that she is interested in him enough to marry him. She might not even feel ready for marriage. She may not even be attracted to him. Or she might marry him, who knows? Just keep in mind that proposals don't come with guarantees of reciprocation.
****Let's say that her and D get married. She is now someone's wife. And desi society DOES NOT quite readily accept or fully understand the idea of a married person having a good friend of the opposite sex. Society and plain common sense will JUSTIFY D's possessiveness toward his wife. Few people will understand or sympathize with you if continue the same intense chumminess with her after she is married. In fact your behavior (friendship, intense affection, flowery flattery) is more likely to land her in trouble with her husband. You say that you want to change D's possessive behavior. Well, NEWS FLASH, you can't do that! You can't change another person. The only thing you'll be able to change is YOU...and your amount of involvement in your dear one's life.....which will not be the same as it is now.
**** You said in your post that she hasn't realized her feelings for you get. What about you? What have you realized? Okay, fine, so you're 18, and you're not settled. But.....one doesn't have to settled and finished with school to have feelings for someone. Do you "love" her in that way or no?
She might have moved on to something else and may be more permanent . You should do the same . People come and go in your life . Never get too attached with them that it gets hard to leave them . :)
My life ain't a fairy tale Gina, to end like 'and they lived happily ever after'. . I sure wish it could end like tat, but okay, i can live with this. . So yeah right, whats the advice to reduce possessive behaviour of mr.D?
My advice would be to leave them both alone.. sigh and ask the mods to lock this thread.
mr. d likes her so he's going to be a little bit possessive, just like how you are. once you find someone who you also like in a romantic way, you'll also be a bit possessive. if you think that he's being possessive to the point that he doesn't want you to be always around her, then give them some space and find yourself a ms. E. give mr. d some time so that he can prove to her that she can depend on him too.
