Re: Before you turned the lights off on your Suhag Raat
I In fact I believe that couple should have enough time (2-3 hours) where they talk to each other and learn about each other before jumping on each other like bunch of sex starved teenagers.
All that exhaustion of our wedding rituals dont leave them with the time and energy to do any of such, I think
The only way to make sure that the only talk is to exhaust them physically they will have energy to talk to each other via their eyes only.
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HI MK !!! U WERE REALLY MISSED!!
My other question would be, do couples really turn the lights off nowadays when that time comes? I think that with the lack of sharm o haya in our society, that phrase may no longer be true.
So if a couple does it with the lights on, that's lacking sharam o haya?
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The only way to make sure that the only talk is to exhaust them physically they will have energy to talk to each other via their eyes only.
but when Nana jaan is stiiting in between them till the very end because he wants to be part of every pictrure, they dont even have that 'talk through eyes' opportunity.
HI MK !!! U WERE REALLY MISSED!!
So if a couple does it with the lights on, that's lacking sharam o haya?
HI SARA. Really !!!
No its not lacking sharm o haya. what if they are doing it doing during day time?
I was just trying to throw another curve ball to boil up some of the participants
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For me festivities are more important. not bothered about consummation. shaadi and the whole process of celebration (rishtedaar coming, halla gulla, dances, mehendi, food etc etc) is sooooo much fun that i am ready to leave consummation behind (for two days, for weeks or maybe if possible for ever)
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Yes really!!! 
Oh so…you’re just being a troll? 
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Psyah786
this is so humperdinkly
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t i am ready to leave consummation behind (for two days, for weeks or maybe if possible for ever)
God bless you hubby to be.
Sara, no I am not being a troll. I certainly hope not.
Hareem, what does that mean?
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God bless you hubby to be.
Sara, no I am not being a troll. I certainly hope not.
Hareem, what does that mean?
thankyou :)
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I was just trying to throw another curve ball to boil up some of the participants
Isn't that hte meaning of a troll?
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ommg omg omggggg, what a cool thread 
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I am not authority on the meaning of troll .. :D
yes Niksik, its turning into one
Re: Before you turned the lights off on your Suhag Raat
if the temptation and attraction is that strong for each other then a quick shower and a nap can refresh a person right? plus what does the couple usually do the day after the suhaag raat, nothing right, so a quick nap, shower, brush and off to make sweet love............see if that works for you and your pretty dulhan and report back to us whether it worked after after :p
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I want to keep the topic clean ... but I want to make some observations ..
Consider this (and the actual list is way longer than this)
Our weddings take such a toll on both dulha and dulhan that I am sure that they have very little energy (and even lesser time) left, if any to have a 'suhaag raat'. When you leave Dulha Dulhan alone at 4:00 AM in the morning, what are they gonna do but to sleep. Now I know that physical contact is not an obligation on the very first night but should that not be the most important thing?
Even if you leave them alone at 4 PM, they still dont sleep. Rather they hardly sleep much during first few days.
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if the temptation is that strong then a quick shower and a nap can refresh a person right? plus what does the couple usually do the day after the suhaag raat, nothing right, so a quick nap, shower, brush and off to make sweet love............see if that works for you and your pretty dulhan and report back to us whether it worked after after :p
a quick shower on wedding night to suppress temptation! really ..
and what do they do next day? This is what they do. Larkee goes back to her house (larkay walay bring her back during breakfast time) and she spends rest of the days till Valima day, with her family (usually there is a one day gap between shadi and valima).
In fact I am glad that you brought this aspect up because the whole philosophy behind girl coming back to her home next morning is to give her a break from the sexual stress she probably went through last night (virginity loss, hymen breakup and such). That just gives another indication that our legacy protocols of wedding (larkee walay setting the date, and larkee going back home next day) designed around the belief that consummation is going to happen.
Even if you leave them alone at 4 PM, they still dont sleep. Rather they hardly sleep much during first few days.
I agree to some extent. I am sure they are excited about getting to know each other so even if they are dead tired, they may go for it. But that still does not justify the 12-14 hours hour wedding rituals, starting from bridal make up
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a quick shower not to suppress temptation 
a nap to take away the tiredness and then a shower just to be clean and refreshed and then sweet love time.
does she go back the very next day??? then when do they have the honeymoon, isn’t the suhaag raat the honeymoon…if it’s not then that really sux
i think it’s just to delay it all just so the attraction would be even stronger when she does return to her hubby…maybe that’s the thinking behind it
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does she go back the very next day??? then when do they have the honeymoon, isn't the suhaag raat the honeymoon.....if it's not then that really sux
So on Valima day, she goes back with her hubby. I think that her family brings her back to Valima venue and her hubby and his family take her back with them after the valima.
They go on honemoon after valima (not that honeymoon is required, anyways) as valima is sunnat and hoenymoon is not. :D
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Look at the views go up on this thread ... haha
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Look at the views go up on this thread ... haha
yes Views vs Replies ratio is so high that I am sure that my arguments are leaving people speechless so they read and just leave without replying cause they dont know what to say :D
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sex threads always get the most attention…watch it go up to 100+ posts
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So on Valima day, she goes back with her hubby. I think that her family brings her back to Valima venue and her hubby and his family take her back with them after the valima.
They go on honemoon after valima (not that honeymoon is required, anyways) as valima is sunnat and hoenymoon is not. :D
when does the wedding stuff end then? around 5-ish, then that's perfect, nap for a couple hours, shower, and right around midnight-ish ...babooom!!! :D