sorry for picking on u..but just trying to get my point across
and if they dont mind asking the same question again and again why shld u mind answering the same way again and again?
because sometimes being asked the same thing,can really hurt someone else's feelings....
because sometimes ,some things should just be understood....rather than being nosey about it....
because sometimes,some things are out of one's own control.....
and people should understand that whatever happens,and whenever it happens,is God's will....so whats the need of asking the same old thing again and again....right...??...:)
because sometimes being asked the same thing,can really hurt someone else's feelings....
because sometimes ,some things should just be understood....rather than being nosey about it....
because sometimes,some things are out of one's own control.....
and people should understand that whatever happens,and whenever it happens,is God's will....so whats the need of asking the same old thing again and again....right...??...:)
i hope i made myself clear....:)
nope..u didnt
but i am not going to argue any further..
i asked why cant u girls be upfront with the aunties by telling them why koi khush khabri nahi hai..and u gave me reasons for something totally different
makes sense
per yahi wohi baat hogi..agar koi bura hai tu apsey aur bhi burey hojae..or something like tht..
i am still not able to understand it..maybe cuz i am not married yet..and dont have to worry abt aunties asking me for khushkhabri
It has become apparent after reading this thread that more and more men/women are using some of of contra-ohcrapmylifeisover-ibarelytouchedher-ceptive.
makes sense
per yahi wohi baat hogi..agar koi bura hai tu apsey aur bhi burey hojae..or something like tht..
i am still not able to understand it..maybe cuz i am not married yet..and dont have to worry abt aunties asking me for khushkhabri
then right now you should worry about the very initial shaadi kab ho gee question. lol
lol…sorry, i am not laughing at you, but laughing at the mentality of our own pakistani AUNTIAN and how their vicious minds work…they would do just about everything that is possible to make sure that you don’t live in peace…don’t let them bother you because the more you would allow them to get to you, the more intrusive and brash they would get…But the key thing is to understand that all this will never stop…you will have people like these at every stage of life who would like to and try their best to say/do something that disturbs you and torments you…So, disregard them completely…
P.S. i would narrate a funny yet discomforting story that happened with one of my cousins…You wrote that those auntian are going bonkers over your not having babies after about 1.5 years of marriage… Well, my cousin faced an exactly opposite situation..she was blessed to conceive her first baby in about a month after her marriage…When they heard this, a few of WELL_WISHER AUNTIES said to her **BETA, TUM DONO NE TO JET-SPEED SE KAAM KIA..AISI BHI KIA JALDI THEE..KUCH DIN TO ARAAM KERNA CHAHIYE THA…AB HER SAAL EK ADAD GOUD ME HOGA..FAMILY PLANNING KA NAAM NAHI SUNA TUM NE? **Saying that she was baffled, shocked, and pretty humiliated is an understatement…but, seriously, when we heard about this, we were like WHAT THE HELL YOU GUYS WANT, MAN!
Hey, i have thought a solution of this situation (at least i HOPE it will resolve this problem)
You know, when you get married, have your aunties fill out a poll..It could go like this:
Q) When do you want us to conceive our first baby? Please circle one option:
- Within the first month
- Within six months
- Within 1 year
- Within 1 and a half years
- Within 2 years
- After 2 years
And, along with thank-you card, send them out the outcome of the poll letting them know when you are SUGGESTED/TOLD/ADVISED/ to conceive..They wouldn't ask you anything then. Problem Solved :biggthumb
lol...sorry, i am not laughing at you, but laughing at the mentality of our own pakistani AUNTIAN and how their vicious minds work...they would do just about everything that is possible to make sure that you don't live in peace...don't let them bother you because the more you would allow them to get to you, the more intrusive and brash they would get...But the key thing is to understand that all this will never stop...you will have people like these at every stage of life who would like to and try their best to say/do something that disturbs you and torments you...So, disregard them completely...
P.S. i would narrate a funny yet discomforting story that happened with one of my cousins...You wrote that those auntian are going bonkers over your not having babies after about 1.5 years of marriage... Well, my cousin faced an exactly opposite situation..she was blessed to conceive her first baby in about a month after her marriage...When they heard this, a few of WELL_WISHER AUNTIES said to her **BETA, TUM DONO NE TO JET-SPEED SE KAAM KIA..AISI BHI KIA JALDI THEE..KUCH DIN TO ARAAM KERNA CHAHIYE THA...AB HER SAAL EK ADAD GOUD ME HOGA..FAMILY PLANNING KA NAAM NAHI SUNA TUM NE? **Saying that she was baffled, shocked, and pretty humiliated is an understatement...but, seriously, when we heard about this, we were like WHAT THE HELL YOU GUYS WANT, MAN!
Moral of the story... you can never please these aunties so don't bother what they say. Just live your lives the way two of you want. :)
I'm in the same situation as most of you, been married for barely a year and going to college...bas jee main bhi tang aayi hui hoon IN auntiyon aur auntie jesi ladkiyon say.....i just avoid them at all cost....some friends who ask me abt baby everytime i talk to them so i have limited my interaction with them....it's SO ANNOYING to keep answering a single question over n over! :(
Ok girls, just so you all don't feel bad, aunties wonder and care about me too. Yesterday we were invited at someone's house and this auntie is so worried about my hair. Everytime she sees me, she notices my hair (losing) and mentions the same thing everytime to mom and mrs. "Sohail k baal pahley sey kamm nahi ho gaye?". I can't do much about it because she doesn't say that directly to me. I mean come on, why does she care?!?!? The uncles I sit with and other guys I hang out with don't give a care about it, why aunties?!?
This particular aunty is in her 40s and just had a baby girl a month ago. If she ever tells that to me at my face, I have an answer ready. "Buss aunty kia karein, baaz dafa zindagi mein woh ho jaata hai jo expected nahi hota. Mein 20s mein hoon aur merey baal jharr rahey hain, aap 40s hain aur abhi bhi bachey paida kar rahi hain" :)
Ok girls, just so you all don't feel bad, aunties wonder and care about me too. Yesterday we were invited at someone's house and this auntie is so worried about my hair. Everytime she sees me, she notices my hair (losing) and mentions the same thing everytime to mom and mrs. "Sohail k baal pahley sey kamm nahi ho gaye?". I can't do much about it because she doesn't say that directly to me. I mean come on, why does she care?!?!? The uncles I sit with and other guys I hang out with don't give a care about it, why aunties?!?
This particular aunty is in her 40s and just had a baby girl a month ago. If she ever tells that to me at my face, I have an answer ready. "Buss aunty kia karein, baaz dafa zindagi mein woh ho jaata hai jo expected nahi hota. Mein 20s mein hoon aur merey baal jharr rahey hain, aap 40s hain aur abhi bhi bachey paida kar rahi hain" :)
haww don't say that to the Aunty! Just ignore her.
god ppl are so ignorant. Im having a baby next early next yr and i got marrid 2 yrs ago but ppl who got married after me already have their kids born!! i am amazed! i just tell ppl that ask...those ppl have nothing in thier lives and nothing to do ...a baby is the only thing in thier life...while i have so much going on.
dont be conned into thinking waiting is a bad thing. u are 22 for gods sake! not like ur 40 and waiting. ignore it and tell them u will have one when ur ready.i always turn it around on them and ask why thier kids are not married or dot have kids.
okee....on the weekend we were invited to this aunty's house...and there was this other aunty (my saas best friend) whome my hubby just mentioned above...lol....okeee i was eating dinner and she was holding her baby cuz she was crying....she was like "umer tou meri khaana khanay kee hai aur tumhari bachay sambhalnay keee".....and i just looked at her k AND?????? she started laughing and my saas took my side and said "tou hum nay thori kaha tha k baby kero"....i felt sooooo goooood....i felt like hugging my saas and saying her THANK YOU!!!!!!
