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Never said that myself. No need to bring that in to equation. :)

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ARE YOU A DOCTOR??? It does not take 8 weeks to get back to pre-pregnancy size, but about 6-9 MONTHS in general- with healthy diet and exercise. Be careful of the advice you give my dear- women are already under so much pressure to get back into shape after giving birth-some gfo to extreme measures to do so and others just get depressed and thend up gaining weight. Im guessing you are a guy.
NADZ, eat healthy-lots of fruits and vegetables and add 30 minutes of Cardio exercise everyday...you will lose the weight, dont worry..but it does take some effort. And cut youself some slack- Your Body just gave birth to a beautiful baby.
Be careful of the advice

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Right, and I said, not every single woman is the smae. You, however, continue to spout the same thing over and over again. blanket statements don't apply to anybody, least of all when it comes to weight loss.

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I did exclude women who do need rest and who may gain weight for medical reasons. So how come MY statements be considered blanket statements?

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Your expectation that they should be able to get back into pre-pregnancy shape/weight in 6-8 weeks is unreasonable.

Blanket orh k to so jaao. :smack:

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Diwana,

Pregnancy weight is not all water weight !

It is recommended that women whose pre-pregnancy weight was in the healthy range for their height (a BMI of 18.5 to 24.9), should gain between 25 and 35 pounds.

So say a women gains the reccomended 30 pounds during her pregnancy. Most women will lose about half of that right after delivery. The baby accounts for about 7 pounds (more or less), and the amniotic fluid, placenta, and extra body fluids and blood in the body add up to another 8 or so pounds.

So a weight gain of 30 pounds minus the weight loss right after delivery of 15 pounds still leave about 15 pounds for the woman to lose. Trying to lose 15 pounds within 6 weeks while dealing with a new baby as well as the nutritional demands of breastfeeding that baby is difficult.

Nadz mentioned that she`s eating healthy and excersing, people around her should be supportive of that as opposed to making comments about her weight.

That being said, are you a father....have you ever taken care of a newborn.

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Fortunately, everything in our life doesn't start and end at random sayings of random 'aunties' or good old evil MIL.

If my sister doesn't have the nerve to consider/respect her own mother/sisters' well intentioned advice, then its her who's being a miserable rebel. I don't think we've ever been rude to her or made her feel inadequate in private or public yet she has to take offence in every little thing related to her image and lifestyle. In fact she's hurt my mum with her 'just ignore it' and get out of my face' attitude which frankly speaking, stinks and makes you look like a cold reactionary idiot, she sadly thinks somehow it makes look like a bigger person. Which makes her look even more pathetic. We figured our advice about her image is really not welcomed no matter what we say or how nicely we say it. And to you know what, its her loss really. Its a blessing to have people who pay attention to you, try to make you look at the brighter side of things, motivate and help you to achieve milestones. And no I'm not talking about aunties or the evil MIL, nor we recommended my sister to lose weight within 6-8 or whatever weeks after giving birth.

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^she might be at a loss about what to do, or how to do it. She may have tried some things and given up too quickly. She may feel alone in this.

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No its none of those things. Its her larger than life ego.

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^ lol okay

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I'm with your mil tbh.

You're young and you've had your first kid, not third. It's been 4 months, not 4 weeks. I don't think you're kidding anyone with the "I'm eating healthy, I'm trying" BS.

You just want mental backup for your idea that your MIL is wrong for suggesting it.

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First I do not want to sound as if I am pointing fingers on women only for the sake of criticizing.

It is in the benfit of women to get back in shape quickly for their own mental and physical well being.

Your calculation is off.

Here it is for anyone’s interest an info.

The weight gain during pregnancy for normal weight women (BMI between 18.5-24.9) and the reasons are as follows:

  • Baby: 7 to 8 pounds (about 3 to 3.6 kilograms)
  • Larger breasts: 1 to 3 pounds (about .5 to 1.4 kilograms)
  • Larger uterus: 2 pounds (about 1 kilogram)
  • Placenta: 1 1/2 pounds (about .7 kilogram)
  • Amniotic fluid: 2 pounds (about 1 kilogram)
  • Increased blood volume: 3 to 4 pounds (about 1.4 to 1.8 kilograms)
  • Increased fluid volume: 3 to 4 pounds (about 1.4 to 1.8 kilograms)
  • Fat stores: 6 to 8 pounds (about 2.7 to 3.6 kilograms)

So it is not 15 pounds as you said, she will need to work against, it is 6-8 pounds or lets just say up to 10 pounds.

Besides, if she breast feeds, she can lose 500 calories per day. This help her lose weight further provided she does not overcompensate by eating more than required calories.

In essence, it is not unrealistic for a woman to lose weight gained in pregnancy within 6-8 weeks. That’s up to two months! Plenty of time.

All bets are off if woman goes out of control and eats junk/high calorie diet without thinking.

There are women who are health conscious and have lost even extra weight by engaging in good exercise program after normal pregnancy.

Let me know if you or anyone needs help in getting back in shape after pregnancy, there are guidelines and recommendations available. :slight_smile:

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Diwana speaketh the truth ladies.

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Diwana- quite frankly your not a doctor. ask any doctor, they will say it takes time for body to go back into shape, if its 9months up, its 9 months down....more or less...unless your already very super slim, chances are your body shape will change, even if i go back to a size 10, i may be more fuller.....

anyway, im so glad your not my husband, and i can pretty much be assured all the girls here will agree with me...my husband doesnt expect me to jump into shape 6 weeks on, he wants me to relax, eat well, be healthy, and be practical.....if i had a husband who harped on me to lose weight a month after delivery, i would lose all respect for him...im sure all the women here have lost respect for you.

all i can, whoever ur wife is/will be- good luck!!!!!!!

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:rotfl: I don’t think women respected diwana in the first place.

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Is your sister happy with her appearance? Are her kids healthy and doing well?

Like I said before, even if it's done tactfully, weight and figure are a sensitive topic for some people. Its one thing to intervene when it comes to someone's health but some people believe image is a personal thing.. If I ask a friend I will expect honest advice, except what are they going to tell me that I don't already know?

When I was younger I was extremely sensitive about comments about my weight, all from people who were "well-meaning" and with "good intentions" but the things they said and their mindset was hardly healthy or right. What they considered well meaning, I considered damaging to a person's self esteem. I know that's not the case for every single person but some people DO have bad experiences. For those who have always had a weight problem, it's never just "stop eating and start exercising", it can be more complicated than that.

Well that's an interesting perspective......: D

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Nah. We all know how nadz mind works (unfortunately).

I don't comment on people's weight, unless asked. Because my friends are honest about what they do and why i.e. "I can't give up smoking because I don't want to give up smoking."
What I can't stand though is the person who's saying "I don't understand why I can't loose weight" whilst stuffing their face.

So, just tell them you don't want to. Because to be quite honest, the only women I've seen who had problems loosing the weight after baby number 1 are the ones who had weight/diet problems pre-pregnancy.

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Well said. :)

It's about the right attitude of not looking for excuses.

No one is perfect but least one can do is admit the wrong attitude and that is the first step towards success.

*People who care give right advice. *

Smart people can differentiate who is their well wisher.

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God works in mysterious ways. ;)