Getting fed up with (all pakistani women) saying haii weight kam karo na..to me, i had my baby 4 months back, and weight loss for me is hard…nothing dropped off me, i was still huge, and my MIL is expecting me back in my shaadi walen kapre..and keeps saying weight lose karo yeh mat khao woh mat khao…
now problem is, I AM TRYING, but its hard…ive lost a little, not alot like i wouldve before baby…ive gone gym, ate good, but still its not working magic like it used to…ive lost barely half stone…and my body naturally retains weightanyway
now whats the smart answer to say to these people…without sounding rude…esp to MIL…im tired of being pressured to lose weight, even my husband is like r u mad, why u wanting to lose it soo quickly, aram say ho jayga…but its women who are another womans enemy…
now im not senstive either, but theres a limit to how much a new mother can take, ive got enough stresses, i dont need people telling me to lose weight fast, especially when i know i want to lose it too BUT its just not dropping off as i expected.
so what to do?
im sure other women may understand the annoyance of it all…
Tell your MIL, too late, I can't look like like a slim and trim girl in her 20's, or your newly wedded bahu that you can show off. I'm bound to look fat and older than my actual age, now that I'm a mother and more importantly I'm a desi woman. So leave me alone and find some peace for yourself.
i think it is okay to be rude if people are poking their nose this far in. just go with a traditional "your face kam karo na."
lol, cant say this...
no havent moved to pak yet, its over the phone they were asking my measurements for clothes they are making me for....and are wondering why i cant fit into my shadi clothes....
and ...i do want to be that size again, but it takes time...this is what bugs me; why dont they let me take time.rather than pressurising me..
Wow, you haven’t moved and they are already on your case to lose weight..uhhhhh good luck with that! Also, have your husband stick up for you. And don’t stress it, it will come off in its own time, you’re making an effort at it, and it will pay off!
With pakistani women Nadz the best thing to do is just ignore and don't let it bother you. I am struggling with baby weight for last 15 months.. my ami tells me almost on weekly basis about how bad i look. I don't let this bother me at all because my hubby understands and let's me take my time. I hve started eating healthier and have started working out 4-5 days a week for half hour because of work and baby at home. When your body is ready and you have time to spend on yourself the weight will come off. My advice just ignore who says what.. and I have the same problem like you.. before pregnancy weight came off with slight little workout and now I eat 1400 calories and workout and have lost 3 pounds in one month :(
shes not worrying as such, she only mentioned it once when we were talking about my clothes, that they are making me for, and i told her my shaadi wale dont fit now, so she said it then, same as my mum says it. same as my aunts say it..its a paki women thing...but its bloody annoying.
Please don't take this whole pressurizing just to rebel back and fall for this whole wishy washy oh just ignore it stuff!
The women I know who were successful with losing the weight were the ones that actually used the pressure as a healthy way to speed up their process of losing weight, you are not the only one going through this. I know you are trying but I guess you are also perhaps over reacting to your MIL's remarks. My sister is happily lost in this oh I ignore people and I'm takking my time bluff, as a result even after three years of giving birth, people still hesitate to call her my mother's daughter, because of the weight she looks ten years older than her actual age. She feels offended but we don't because whenever we used to tell her to look after herself, she would go into this 'ignore it' and moany little girl mode.
shes not worrying as such, she only mentioned it once when we were talking about my clothes, that they are making me for, and i told her my shaadi wale dont fit now, so she said it then, same as my mum says it. same as my aunts say it..its a paki women thing...but its bloody annoying.
What 'Paki' thing? Its not like Pakistani women wear skirts or tight jeans as every day clothes that there's tremendous pressure in our culture to look like Hiedi Klum after giving birth. Unless in your family they prefer supper skinny females. Otherwise as far I'm concerned, Pakistanis in general find the plump looking women as normal as they get. Our women don't tend me very slender looking. Either you have gained considerbale weight or your family reads too many fashion magz.
Please don't take this whole pressurizing just to rebel back and fall for this whole wishy washy oh just ignore it stuff!
The women I know who were successful with losing the weight were the ones that actually used the pressure as a healthy way to speed up their process of losing weight, you are not the only one going through this. I know you are trying but I guess you are also perhaps over reacting to your MIL's remarks. My sister is happily lost in this oh I ignore people and I'm takking my time bluff, as a result even after three years of giving birth, people still hesitate to call her my mother's daughter, because of the weight she looks ten years older than her actual age. She feels offended but we don't because whenever we used to tell her to look after herself, she would go into this 'ignore it' and moany little girl mode.
Jolie, She said she is trying and she is eating well and she is working out. But baby weight is not easy to lose. Nor is it necessarily to possible to fit into your clothes even if your weight goes down, because your shape may change. People don't need to constantly harp on it.
If u r breastfeeding ur baby the weight will start dropping after 6 months it self.....theres nothing much that u can do about it other than working out. Best of luck with it. If some one asks..... tell them that it takes time to lose weight after baby (as if they dont know). Trust me.....commenting on weight is the best hobby of women and girls all over!
I wanna hear stories about THAT! 
And don’t stress it, it will come off in its own time, you’re making an effort at it, and it will pay off!