baby weight!!people hate!!!

[Sara516]

Re: baby weight!!people hate!!!

@Jolie

I don’t think I was really advocating women to perfectly go back to their pre-pregnancy ‘shape’ - I don’t believe that myself. What I generally have a problem with desi women going up in arms the moment they’re suggested to shape up. They unnecessarily get offended even if the comments come from their closed ones. It takes a mature and level headed woman to appreciate the good intentions and concerns behind those comments and take them as an encouragement to step up their game. I can only say so much on Nadz’s case, but this is just my view from real life experiences. Personally I think last thing you should really say to a desi woman is to shape up, no matter who you are or how you say it, she’ll take it as grave insult and fume endlessly. Those who are serious about their weight and shape will sort them out, whether they’re told by anyone or not.

How one says something is just as important as what they say; unfortuantely many people do not have the skill of saying things tactfully. They think just because something is “true” that gives them license to be rude and that anything they say is gold.

Also, no matter how nicely said, unsolicited weight loss advice is never welcome.

I do agree with your last statement that those who are serious and determined will do so regardless of comments…also just by my observations and just sayin–it’s probably easier for a person who has always been slim/at a healthy weight to go back to their previous shape (or close to it) than someone who has always been overweight.