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Trust you guys to ruin a perfectly legal thread!
Anyhow, Mrs Shikra, i think if your friend's inlaws dont approve, you shouldnt hold one in secret but maybe you can throw a welcoming the baby bash after the baby is born if the inlaws think its bad luck to do a celebration before the birth.
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When I said baby showers are a drama I meant just that, they are a drama. I don;t like attending them and I wouldn;t want to have one either. As someone very dear to me says…its a rather pre-emptivecelebration, celebrating something before God even gives it to you. Plus I found some of the games very weird like taking a guess of the mothers circumference using a piece of string and then everyone goes and measures their string around the mother and whoever is the closest wins 
plus the gift business is a bit weird too, why would u even want to collect gifts from people before u even have the baby? I really don;t like the idea of baby showers, sorry girls. But all of those who do are more than welcome to have theirs, just please don;t jump on me 
Oh and when you have one please make it a ladies only event, I find mixed baby showers just 
oh and guys calm down.
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^ mixed baby showers? ?? seriously? lol....
So what about bridal showers? is that useless because ur celebrating somethnig that might not even happen? and after-baby parties do happen..i think they're called aqiqas?
While I get the reasons u guys are giving against baby showers... in a way i feel kinda bad, but only because, she wants something that she feels is normal part of culture (american or desi) and the ppl around her are being insensitive about it. That's how i see it. And, coming from her POV (KIND OF!), i'm sure she doesnt want it just to ask for gifts, but rather to have friends get together and stuff and I don't see why she should be villified for it.
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umm…waise dont ppl bring stuff for baby when he/she is born???
we always do
so wats the use of setting the stage and playing this lil drama just to give gift to baby
cant u just bring them when u go to see the baby for first time
at that time u will also know the sex of baby and bring sum useful stuff rather than earings for baby boy
dont u think so???
GO GO FEMME FATAL :AID:
Mrs. Shikra asked for our opinions on whether we would like to have a baby shower or not and thats exactly what I gave. I wouldn;t feel comfortable having one and I don;t feel so great about attending them either. As for bridal showers, I prefer dholki’s to get together and have fun 
almost the same thing sans gifts and games, but again the basic idea is having fun.
Again if these are things you have seen while growing up and everyone around you has had showers thrown for them then I can see how a person would want to have one for themselves too.
hey baby showers are sooooo sweeeett 
… I seriously don’t think its a waste of money.. The few that I have attended, all you see are khusshee bharray chehray.. 
Sorry only the first part of the post was directed specifically at you…
anyways its kinda confusing, i mean the reasons you and others gave are pretty good reasons, but i still dont think its fair for others to hate on those who do have it…which i saw some people doing .. =//
whoa!!!!!
okeee all you people who think that baby showers are done just to get some gifts are soooo wronggggg....i mean its a day where the mother to be can enjoy herself....she can feel like the day belongs to her....all the games revolves around her and she is the chief guest of that party....pregnancy brings all these changes in the girl both physically and emotionally...from being just a girl she turns to a mother....thats a huge step in her life....a day before like this can calm her down....she can enjoy with her friends....be all goofy....get advice from other mothers....she can dress all pretty...cuz once you are a mother its hard to go out and enjoy urself cuz you have a baby to take care of....im not saying when a girl gets pregnant she is doing a ehsan or something but it IS a huge thing....so if one day can make her happy phir why not....appreciate her!!!!
and i strongly believe that in this world there are so many things going wrong in everybody's lives....so if theres a day to celebrate something..even something small...celebrate it...make a huge deal out of it..enjoy your life
p.s...and as far as i know baby showers are just for girls....who invites men to a baby shower....weirddddddd!!!!!!
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I have been to two where men were there too, sitting seperately but invited. and another one that i backed out from had guys invited too 
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^ thats wrong....sorry you had a bad experience with baby showers...lol...:D
desi ke non desi?
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Shikra: Are you also against birthday parties, anniversaries, and eedy on Eid?
I don't know how many baby showers YOU have been to but the ones I've been to or Steff's been to are about celebrating someone's upcoming baby. Yes, gifts are given, but you'd be surprised at how much the new mom to be learns from other mom's at the shower. Steff went to one recently and it was amazing how many things one doesn't even think about that the girls bring to the shower and say "oh, you'll definitely need one of these". It's an opportunity to celebrate, give and accept gifts, and learn from other mothers' experiences.
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^ you know what, these guys might be against all this stuff...but let them express their opinions guys. U know in real life their ideas won't fly against thier moms/wives :D
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Mrs. Shikra well that's sweet of you to acknowledge your friend's desire. However, I think if you throw her a small secret baby shower she'll be really happy. Her parents in law can't say anything just because a friend decides to surprise someone :)
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^hmmm....yeah i might....lets see
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well.. don't call it a baby shower... call it a girls get together... do it on smaller scale just invite close friends and have some refreshments, play some games, chat and have good time
YOU NEVER KNOW…NO ONE KNOWS…GO DA **** WITH YA MYSTERIOUS THEORIES 
these assumptions will never leave your empty mind!
desi ke non desi?
all three desis,
Numb cool down brother, no need to get loud.
Shikra: Are you also against birthday parties, anniversaries, and eedy on Eid?
I don't know how many baby showers YOU have been to but the ones I've been to or Steff's been to are about celebrating someone's upcoming baby. Yes, gifts are given, but you'd be surprised at how much the new mom to be learns from other mom's at the shower. Steff went to one recently and it was amazing how many things one doesn't even think about that the girls bring to the shower and say "oh, you'll definitely need one of these". It's an opportunity to celebrate, give and accept gifts, and learn from other mothers' experiences.
Am I against Birthday parties = Yes - I don't celebrate my birthday.
Am I against celebrating anniversaries = Yes - We didn't invite guests, just a simple lunch with family and another lunch with my wife only.
Eid and Eidi = That's a religious occasion and I am not against it.
I have been to only one baby shower and nobody discussed anything as you mentioned. We went there and sat in the room, mom-to-be came and we surprised her. Then we all ate and talked about regular things - that's it.
As for learning and all, one can always go to classes and learn online as well and last but not least, from the doctor. I've heard a lot of gossips from desi aunties/girls about some of the stuff that are really funny and are no way close to reality. So baby shower is not the best place to learn about that. The girls can just do a get together to have a fun day, but if her family is asking not to make a big deal out of it, I think she should respect her family's wishes :)
ok I have a confusion here. Everybody please don’t come attacking me because i might have a lack of knowledge on this topic. Just need your views to clear me off my confusion!
Never in my 23 years have i seen any Pakistani family living in Pakistan i.e my family, my relatives, my extended family, my friends, my friend’s families, our family friends, my entire social circle even a single Baby Shower. To my knowledge, here they are considered Hindu/Christain rasmain. In the Islamic history, put aside the giving gifts part, but the rasm as a ‘baby shower’ been celebrated. Yes many of you will say that nowadays everything happens .. Muslims even celebrate Halloween, Holi, etc. but really is there any Islamic concept of this ‘Baby Shower’ as an event? It does seem to be a sweet concept owing to the fact that its for the mother-to-be but where when does it take place? How come i’ve never witnessed any in my nearest or even farthest social circle?Or is it that the desi Pakistanis don’t celebrate it but the others do now? Or maybe there are many families here in Pakistan who celebrate but i’ve never witnessed one just by luck?
Also, what really happens in these… the games n all? If there is the concept of giving gifts, why not give the gift after the baby is born for all the ups n downs, i mean God forbid if due to some problem the baby is not born or still born or whatever .. wouldnt it be even worst for the mother to just look at all the baby gifts all the time and cry over them. why not just give them after the baby is born?
and lastly, if they should be celebrated then who should be giving these?? 