attraction for marriage

[Rukhsarbibi]

Re: attraction for marriage

Are you absolutely repulsed by her or do you find her average looking?
Physical attraction does hold some merit in the beginning of a relationship but you very quickly realize that what matters most is what is inside that person.

I won't drop someone off your list just because she's an average looker. I would at least give it a chance. You never know after meeting her a few times, you might feel attracted towards her due to other reasons :-)

[dope]

Re: attraction for marriage

@Sadiyah

^ Yes, all such things are perfectly acceptable according to the desi version of Islam.

It is sad really. Women have more emotional endurance than men, and our desi culture takes advantage of that tp the fullest by imposing a norm on women where it is not permissible (or frowned upon) for the women to factor in looks of the groom into her marriage decision.
Sometimes you walk down the street and see a very beautiful desi girl and then you see the guy and you go, " wtf? this guy couldnt get laid even if gave him a bunch of bananas and let him lose in a monkey whorehouse."

sigh

P.S. Sadaiyah, please change your avatar. You are a serious poster on GS, and it is hard for me to take your seriously because while reading your posts, my attention is distracted by that jumping monkey. Subconsciously, i feel like you were jumping like that while you posted the comment.

[Rukhsarbibi]

Re: attraction for marriage

@dope

P.S. Sadaiyah, please change your avatar. You are a serious poster on GS, and it is hard for me to take your seriously because while reading your posts, my attention is distracted by that jumping monkey. Subconsciously, i feel like you were jumping like that while you posted the comment.

LOL I was thinking the same thing!! I think it is a teenage mutant ninja turtle but gosh it is very annoying!

[Fayz]

Re: attraction for marriage

@parissenoor

dating the person to find out his/her true personality would be more convenient…dating can be done with all due respect…public places…decent timings…and decent clothing…so no over worries

Well said :k:..only if it’s not too much to ask from a desi girl and not too difficult to handle for a desi guy. Refer to my ‘get to know him’ thread.

Choice between beauty or brains is not an easy struggle for any guy..it’s worse in our desi community. You have to bring a beauty queen wurna log kya kahian gay.

[Aish]

Re: attraction for marriage

dope: dont u know anything! thats not a monkey, its luiigi (teenage mutant...) or is it raphael

[black_beauty]

Re: attraction for marriage

@Furqan

…would you marry someone, If your parents were tryin to set you with, whom you don’t feel attracted to? not that i have high expectatons or anything, its just that, u gotta live with that person for rest of your life, and if your not attracted to that person, then why bother?

Let’s hear your story

It Depends. It depends on you, that girl and your situation. There is no exact Yes or No answer to practical life issues like this. If parents are tryin’ to set you up with some girl and you highly feel that you are not physically attracted then don’t bother pushin’ urself towards that particular person.

But if you feel comfortable to be around that person and believe that she can turn out to be more of a fren after marriage then just a housewife then you need to resolve some issues within urself. To get onto something better, life always demand some sort of sacrifice at one point.

[geek]

Re: attraction for marriage

@Furqan

…would you marry someone, If your parents were tryin to set you with, whom you don’t feel attracted to?

‘Don’t feel attracted’ being the operative words here, assuming that the attraction (be it physical or intellectual) is just not there-not even on some subatomic level, nope I wouldn’t. Not only that, I’d make sure that she’s not marrying me just cuz her mommy- daddy are insisting and/or she thinks it’s ‘the right thing to do’. If I weren’t such a desperate geek that is.

[Barfee]

Re: attraction for marriage

^ true but WHAT would marry you? :-s

[Sadiyah]

Re: attraction for marriage

@dope

P.S. Sadaiyah, please change your avatar. You are a serious poster on GS, and it is hard for me to take your seriously because while reading your posts, my attention is distracted by that jumping monkey. Subconsciously, i feel like you were jumping like that while you posted the comment.

Lemme keep it for a few days and then I’ll remove it.

[dutch_paki]

Re: attraction for marriage

@Sara516

I been told i hav no rite to look for a hot guy.. since i’m not hot myself

LOL
marro goli insterhaan ke logon ko
you know pakistani mentality They just dont want to see anyone happy

You are a sweet girl and InshaAllah you ll find some one you find out hot aswell :k:

[Sara516]

Re: attraction for marriage

^ Abh mein ammi ko nahi goli maar sakti

Thankz..

[S02]

Re: attraction for marriage

I don't think you should marry someone you feel no attraction to.

I do feel that attraction can develop as you get to know a person; however, if there is nothing at all to start with, I think it is unfair to both you and the girl. I'm certain a wife can tell if her husband is not attracted to her, and this can lead to all sorts of insecurities and other conflicts.

[niyal]

Re: attraction for marriage

no

[Spanishgirl]

Re: attraction for marriage

No.

[WitchDr]

Re: attraction for marriage

@nia_khan

Allah has made everyone beautiful but our eyes are not set on everything.

"Beauty is simply reality seen with the eyes of love". Anonymous.

[MysteriousGirl]

Re: attraction for marriage

Oh he says that he has travelled around the world but has not seen someone as beautiful as me

He probably has lied about everyhing else but Im sure he hasnt lied about this. Oh I am such a beauty >>>>

:roman:

[WitchDr]

Re: attraction for marriage

@dope

Sometimes you walk down the street and see a very beautiful desi girl and then you see the guy and you go, " wtf? this guy couldnt get laid even if gave him a bunch of bananas and let him lose in a monkey whorehouse."

Yes! It is difficult to understand what makes the ladies click. How many hot chicks want to get laid with ugly, horrible looking rock stars??

[saieen]

Re: attraction for marriage

@MysteriousGirl

Oh he says that he has travelled around the world but has not seen someone as beautiful as me

He probably has lied about everyhing else but Im sure he hasnt lied about this. Oh I am such a beauty >>>>

:roman:

i tell her…

     **tujh se berh ke hassen koun hai**

** kisko daikhon tujhay daikh ker…**
** ik nazer ke liey sari umer**
** umer bher ke liey ik nazer…**

[MysteriousGirl]

Re: attraction for marriage

^

Are you a multi nick of dukhi.d??? No you cant be. You registered Jan 2006. You cant be him.

Ahhh… Im so paranoid.

[saieen]

Re: attraction for marriage

@MysteriousGirl

^

Are you a multi nick of dukhi.d??? No you cant be. You registered Jan 2006. You cant be him.

Ahhh… Im so paranoid.

Dukhi to hum hein. lakin nick walay nahin, dil walay hein