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Furqan,
Doesnt matter how hot the girl is, after few times of physical attraction ;) the annoying side of her will come out. and you will see the real side of her, meaning, looks are nothing unless you need looks to show her off, which is silly,
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attracted how? Mentally ? physically?
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where were u bozoz last week then my love-boat sank on its maiden voyage?
reason: iceberg of unattractiveness
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damn jews. 
j/k.
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actually dutch paki said it....if physical attarction is not there as much, then make sure there is mental attraction..meaning...her behaviour and attitude should NOT be a turn off for you. Even if you are not that attracted to her, you enjoy conversing with her and you feel interested talking to her on different levels and different topics and you feel you might like her...sometimes physical attractivesness comes later after you have known the person for a while. Is there any chance that you two can meet up number of times before any desicion?
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I been told i hav no rite to look for a hot guy.. since i'm not hot myself :(
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not true!! you’re cutie!
forget jealous old women…young girls are hot…so you have al rights to look for a hot hunk:D
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Guys lets be realistic here!
I agree love is between 2 souls but if there is no attraction involved marriage does not last long. It wil be a sad thing - that romantic moments with your wife/husband are only done to have kids basically. I know few people who feel they have to do it.
There is a need of some physical attraction. Allah has made everyone beautiful but our eyes are not set on everything.
agar isaan attracted na ho apne spouse ki taraf to bakriyo ki tarha idhar udhar muh marta phirta hai.
Furqan - In arrange marraiges its a must to have physical attracion. Because thats the ONLY thing that is usually between 2 people at that time. They get to know more about each other on wedding night. If that does not go to well they can atleast hang on to attractive part to them.
If there is no attraction there is no attachment - if there is no attachment they live a parallel lines life *sigh...
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As the words of some guy on the "Can't get a Date" tv show said, "i dont want a deformed lid for my deformed pot" :(
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^^ 
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if it's physical attraction that you are referring to then keep in mind that this is only temporary. Marriage is based on much more then physical attraction.
If my parents introduced me to a guy that wasnt so good looking but was intellectually stimulating and had a wonderful heart....then YES i would marry him. Besides if he has a wonderful personality that I'm attracted 2...then I'll eventually become attracted to him physically as well...if that makes any sense.
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well said. :k:
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But how can you tell if he has a gud personality or not? Most of htese parent-introduced things are based on education, family etc.. u can only see even a tiny glimpse of someones true personality after u speak to them, without everyone surrounding you and hanging on every word. A lil bit of looks n attraction are important , its not shallow to want someone pretty Honestly I dont think guys (or their ammis) wudnt think twice abt rejecting a grl if he dint find her attrctive enough, but for a grl, it means shes shallow and obsessed wit looks.. Double standards 
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The most happy marriage i can picture or imagine to myself would be union of a deaf man to a blind woman........COLERIDGE
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That’s also true.
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dating the person to find out his/her true personality would be more convenient…dating can be done with all due respect…public places…decent timings…and decent clothing…so no over worries:D
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I agree..everyone wants someone that is physically appealing…but for me pesonally it’s a bonus. The question is…which one would u rather have? a good looking guy that has nothing but looks…or a little bit of everything (so-so looks with other gr8 qualities).
Hmmm how can you tell if he has a good personality? well that’s quite simple for me. I wont marry someone that my parents introduce me 2 until i get the chance to get to know him (w/o the parents around). Also sara sometimes looking at a guys family can tell you a lot about the guy himself (notice i said sometimes).
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who in a damn world have enuff courage to say such thing? Woman u have the Power so called Brain...thats the best way to attract someone towards u!
My parents introduced me to a guy to whom I wasn't physically attracted from day one but then I thought to give him a chance and see if he is mentally compatible enuff for me...lloll thanx God he wasn't clicking there either and the guys that i click mentally...I can't seem to have them sigh
Another example, I got attracted to a guy who was not a nerd but incredibly smart...street smart but nothing by looks...well not my type. Everyone around me were questioning that wat did I see in him and my answer was that he got some good brain, which I am sure will last long in his life more than his looks.
Yea furqan, physical attraction is temp but if she is a good woman by nature then go for it doesn't matter if she has a hair on her chin. If you have a feelin that you can enjoy ur life with that woman and can trust her with ur everything then y hold her up b/c of her looks? If she is too hairy tell her to wax herself..:p
