…would you marry someone, If your parents were tryin to set you with, whom you don’t feel attracted to? not that i have high expectatons or anything, its just that, u gotta live with that person for rest of your life, and if your not attracted to that person, then why bother?
Let’s hear your story 
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I try to obey my parents.
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If I wasn't repulsed by the person, I'd go ahead with it.
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If you have been with a woman, you should know physical attraction is temporary. :-) Ask Tom Cruise.
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yes ,i think parents are most the time right
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i would certainly marry a guy whom i wont be attracted to. There are more imp things in marriage then attraction and when u once get into a marriage and start to live with another person, attraction automatically occurs + i m sure the person my parents are picking out for me isnt a jerk, basically i think they would do a better job finding a guy for me than i would do.
btw wht kinda attraction are u talking about, physical or mental?
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For me Mentally attraction is a MUST and then obviously physical one too. I can’t seem to love a person who claim to love me just b/c I dont find him attractive and challenging enough.
BRAIN matters to me more :k:
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Extremely wise thoughts, I endorse them :k:
Furqan, If you trust your parent’s wisdom then go for it. If you do not trust them look for yourself
As mady said, if you are not repulsed by her, then attraction is no big deal at all !!
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No.
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Given that you're a guy, it's perfectly permissible for you to turn someone down for not being attracted to the significant other. However, in many cases it's haraam for females according to our desi culture to turn down guys. He should have a good job and that's all that matters.
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says who?
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Say many people I've come across.
'larkon ki shakal par kon jata hai... bas kamanay wala hona chaheye hai.'
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^ According to Islam it's very much within the girl's right to reject someone on the basis of looks. If the girls don't choose to practice that right, then they have no one to blame but themselves.
And it's not just about looks, there are countless cases where educated girls marry boys who are barely matric pass, let alone have a job. But it's OK because he happens to be some mamoo ka beta.
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^ Yes, all such things are perfectly acceptable according to the desi version of Islam.
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then dear its not the Islam ...we all know its the desi mentality and we need to change it, otherwise our coming generation will suffer the same way as u r suffering now :)
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Dont worry, all your mummy daddys will take good care of your preferences, Im sure they wont enforce someone you’d really dislike on you. Its always better to tell your parents your criteria for a match and then let them find a mate that matches your criteria as well theres. Marriages like that cant go wrong :k:
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There are a lot of cartoons out there on the rishta hunt too, that we may find attractive but should really be better off avoiding. As someone else mentioned above, unless its a repulsion, rishtas should not be rejected on lack of attraction alone. There are so many other parameters to take care off.
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I was married to a cosin i wasnt attracted too. he was in fact good looking but given the fact that there was huge huge huge differences between us, I just didnt feel anything for him.
I am now engaged to a guy I really feel attracted to mentally. we just click so well. :)
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I do not believe you have to be so so attracted to the person when it comes to getting marriage and selecting a partner, but there has to be a level of attraction, some....
it doesnt have to be omg, pounding heart, sweaty palms etc but they have to be likeable. After you get to know someone the looks do not matter so much and you start liking the person for who they are....I'm going through this process now, and I personally wouldn't start something with anyone if i wasn't at least a little bit attracted to the person.
To say looks don't account for anything is unrealistic, but to base everything on the looks is totally wrong...
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Let's hear your story :)
if it's only physical, then no problem, cause lust can get over any repulsion....but if it's inteleectually...then it's a big problem, cause it will lead to misunderstand,irriatation, arguments.....
looks doesn't matter, cause it changes with age, and can be changed:D
but brain: education, intelligence, character, culture...can hardly be changed, and that's the most important!