attitudes towards sex
^ that's kind of sad..
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The girls from Pakistan have a real hard time expressing themselves sexually as sexual desires are equated to promiscuity, I had friends that were the sons of Pashtun chieftains that had the most amazingly beautiful wives that they wouldn't go to and would hang around some horridly ugly chicks. Experience will teach you it is no what you look like but what you can do that counts. I had relationships with western girls and they were very expressive about their sexuality and completely participated and some times took control of the situation. When I married my honey who is a McGill Graduate, I could feel that she had tons of inhibitions things were really good but not amazing enough that you could feel like you could die of ecstasy, it took a lot of trust building and loving to get to that level, now she I the initiator most of the time, I help her with the chores as I want her to have a lot of energy let over. I work in an industry with very good looking girls and never feel the need to look at any one. You give a girl love, she will give you happiness beyond your wildest dreams.
This is the most disgusting post I have ever read.
Have you done tawba for this? Its up there in the big, bad ad humoungous sins.
And whether you have done tawba or haven't, why are you telling the whole world this? Keep it to yourself.
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Best explanation given by a desi parent on Sex ed LOL.
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Tell desis sex is a virtuous and rewardable act in Islam. Its a sadaqah and both the husband and wife doing it get sawaab.
Sex is not filthy. Its sunnah. And its part of fitrah. No sunnah is filthy.
I remember the same attitude from my desi parents, and at the same time ironically they would encourage us to read the translation of the Quran or the hadith.
**Note: **If you have inherited your parents' anti-sex attitude you're in for a big ride of your life when you start reading the translations and commentaries of some ayahs in the Quran and the hadith which are often too explicit for jahil desi standards.
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I don’t really know what the right approach is…yet. My 11 year old is now learning about all this stuff. She’s had her “health” class at school a few weeks ago. She brought it up to me and was bothered by the information she received. So we talked. I like to talk to my kids and most importantly hear them out. I don’t like to interrupt them or shut them off. I think listening really helps because you get a sense of their thought process. Now how you choose to respond should be a combination of common sense + your child’s level of maturity.
They need to understand what is real. I’m not one to reveal everything before its time, but I also don’t believe in lying or twisting information. It comes back at you in ugly ways. And most importantly, I always want my children to use me as their first resource because my communication with them will be sincere and appropriate. SO I better do it right…hopefully!
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LOLLLLL
i lvoe the hijaban and the short sleeves and garish makeup!!!
attitudes towards sex
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[quote="Eliminator, post:4, topic:306418"]
The girls from Pakistan have a real hard time expressing themselves sexually as sexual desires are equated to promiscuity, I had friends that were the sons of Pashtun chieftains that had the most amazingly beautiful wives that they wouldn't go to and would hang around some horridly ugly chicks. Experience will teach you it is no what you look like but what you can do that counts. I had relationships with western girls and they were very expressive about their sexuality and completely participated and some times took control of the situation. When I married my honey who is a McGill Graduate, I could feel that she had tons of inhibitions things were really good but not amazing enough that you could feel like you could die of ecstasy, it took a lot of trust building and loving to get to that level, now she I the initiator most of the time, I help her with the chores as I want her to have a lot of energy let over. I work in an industry with very good looking girls and never feel the need to look at any one. You give a girl love, she will give you happiness beyond your wildest dreams.
This is the most disgusting post I have ever read.
Have you done tawba for this? Its up there in the big, bad ad humoungous sins.
And whether you have done tawba or haven't, why are you telling the whole world this? Keep it to yourself.
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So Im not the only one thinking that...
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The video didn't work for me
You must be in Pakistan.
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i guess i should clarify i'm talking about the way children are raised to think about it or taught about it. that's why i mentioned conditioning.
and not how grown up women perceive it. though we've had people on here say that they think sex is dirty...
Sex is dirty, taboo and worst of all...not up for discussion.
Parents literally just hush up about it as if even mentioning it is wrong.
The lack of discussion not only makes it dirty but also alien for kids...they know NOTHING about it. Cannot educate themselves and that leads to also not being able to protect themselves when/if they need to.
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[quote="Insaaniyat, post:122, topic:302586"]
This is the most disgusting post I have ever read.
Have you done tawba for this? Its up there in the big, bad ad humoungous sins.
And whether you have done tawba or haven't, why are you telling the whole world this? Keep it to yourself.[/QUOT
But you guys from your Indian influence are very negative about sex, muslims have always been allowed lots of women. I will quote some for you. If I am in a consensual relationship how is that a travesty will explain to you below by hadith how open we should be
[FONT=Times New Roman][size=3] Abu Said al-Khudri said: "The apostle of Allah sent a military expedition to Awtas on the occasion of the battle of Hunain. They met their enemy and fought with them. They defeated them and took them captives. Some of the Companions of the apostle of Allah were reluctant to have intercourse with the female captives in the presence of their husbands who were unbelievers. So Allah, the Exalted, sent down the Quranic verse, "And all married women (are forbidden) unto you save those (captives) whom your right hands possess". That is to say, they are lawful for them when they complete their waiting period." [The Quran verse is 4:24].
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[quote="Insaaniyat, post:122, topic:302586"]
This is the most disgusting post I have ever read.
Have you done tawba for this? Its up there in the big, bad ad humoungous sins.
And whether you have done tawba or haven't, why are you telling the whole world this? Keep it to yourself.[/QUOT
But you guys from your Indian influence are very negative about sex, muslims have always been allowed lots of women. I will quote some for you. If I am in a consensual relationship how is that a travesty will explain to you below by hadith how open we should be
[FONT=Times New Roman][size=3] Abu Said al-Khudri said: "The apostle of Allah sent a military expedition to Awtas on the occasion of the battle of Hunain. They met their enemy and fought with them. They defeated them and took them captives. Some of the Companions of the apostle of Allah were reluctant to have intercourse with the female captives in the presence of their husbands who were unbelievers. So Allah, the Exalted, sent down the Quranic verse, "And all married women (are forbidden) unto you save those (captives) whom your right hands possess". That is to say, they are lawful for them when they complete their waiting period." [The Quran verse is 4:24].
Those were captured slave women. We Muslims are supposed to think of a slave-girl as a minor wife. They are lawful.
For a Musluim man anyone besides his wives or slaves is haram for him. And for a woman anyone besides her husband or master is haram. Period.
You on the other hand committed zina. Those girls were not lawful for you.
Zina is up in the league of sins such as murder, theft and rape.
So Islamically you are no better than a criminal rapist or thief or murderer.
P.S Are you Muslim?[/size]
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[quote="Insaaniyat, post:117, topic:306234"]
[quote="Eliminator, post:96, topic:306547"]
Those were captured slave women. We Muslims are supposed to think of a slave-girl as a minor wife. They are lawful.
For a Musluim man anyone besides his wives or slaves is haram for him. And for a woman anyone besides her husband or master is haram. Period.
You on the other hand committed zina. Those girls were not lawful for you.
Zina is up in the league of sins such as murder, theft and rape.
So Islamically you are no better than a criminal rapist or thief or murderer.
P.S Are you Muslim?/QUOTE
So you can rape married women in front of their husbands and I can't be with someone if we love each other, from where I come from love is divine, Saudis go on sexual tourism to Indonesia and do prostitution in name of mutta so that is Halal but if you are with someone you love that s hell fires.
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[quote=“Eliminator, post:96, topic:306547”]
I heard the same thing from an old unmarried guy here in Canada and he’s the first person from whom I’ve ever heard such thing and you’re the second one, but if it’s legit then why don’t majority of Muslims follow it? It was allowed during those times with certain exceptions and today we don’t find any situation like those and also not many examples of it during Hazrat Mohammad 
rule except one or two. I think people are using it as an exception so they can do whatever they want. The same guy I mentioned above brought something up which was completely bs that according to some verse in Quran even homosexuality is allowed in certain situations. That guy is religious who never misses his prayers and a gay also which we later found when he offered one of my friend. He also told us that if we make intention of ‘Jihad’ and convince any non Muslim girl on Islam then without marrying we can lay with her, so she’ll be a ‘War Booty’ for us and it’s halal.[/size]
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[quote="Insaaniyat, post:117, topic:306234"]
[quote="Eliminator, post:96, topic:306547"]
Those were captured slave women. We Muslims are supposed to think of a slave-girl as a minor wife. They are lawful.
For a Musluim man anyone besides his wives or slaves is haram for him. And for a woman anyone besides her husband or master is haram. Period.
You on the other hand committed zina. Those girls were not lawful for you.
Zina is up in the league of sins such as murder, theft and rape.
So Islamically you are no better than a criminal rapist or thief or murderer.
P.S Are you Muslim? [/QUOTE
So you can rape married women in front of their husbands and I can't be with someone if we love each other, from where I come from love is divine, Saudis go on sexual tourism to Indonesia and do prostitution in name of mutta so that is Halal but if you are with someone you love that s hell fires.
NO that's not halal either and I don't no know what Saudis are teaching or better if I call it brainwashing Muslims. The guy I spoke about also moved from there so he tells the same thing.
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Those Saudis have been smoking some strong shiz. That’s some crazy logic 
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How do you think pakistani peoples are raised to think about sex?
I think most of us are conditioned to have a repulsive attitude towards it
Why do you think that is
At the same time, things are changing and people are acting more mature about the subject.
Discuss. Not a joke. Okay.
First you should decide if you are even Pakistani. Go check your passport first then call urself Pakistani
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This is the most disgusting post I have ever read.
Have you done tawba for this? Its up there in the big, bad ad humoungous sins.
And whether you have done tawba or haven't, why are you telling the whole world this? Keep it to yourself.
He has no problem telling the world because he is shameless...another ex/Pakistani who comes on a Pakistani site to try to cling onto his last bit of Pakistaniyat...
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The guy is a liar. Saying that homosexuality is acceptable by twisting around any ayah is apostasy and makes that person an apostate, not religious.
And what he said about slave girls is rubbish. You can only get a slave by capturing an enemy woman at war and the caliph decides who to give her to. Or he can decide to set her free as is encouraged in Islam. There was someone during the time of the sahabah who had sex with a slave before the caliph was to decide which soldier to give her to. The guy was stoned to death for adultery.
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[quote="Insaaniyat, post:117, topic:306234"]
[quote="Eliminator, post:96, topic:306547"]
Those were captured slave women. We Muslims are supposed to think of a slave-girl as a minor wife. They are lawful.
For a Musluim man anyone besides his wives or slaves is haram for him. And for a woman anyone besides her husband or master is haram. Period.
You on the other hand committed zina. Those girls were not lawful for you.
Zina is up in the league of sins such as murder, theft and rape.
So Islamically you are no better than a criminal rapist or thief or murderer.
P.S Are you Muslim? [/QUOTE
So you can rape married women in front of their husbands and I can't be with someone if we love each other, from where I come from love is divine, Saudis go on sexual tourism to Indonesia and do prostitution in name of mutta so that is Halal but if you are with someone you love that s hell fires.
Mutah is haram and no one except some shias do it. Mutah is prostitution according to sunnis.
And there's no married woman involved. When an enemy woman is captured at war her marriage breaks, her now ex-husband has nothing to do with her and she becomes a sort of semi-wife to the man she is assigned to. She is his responsibility now. Money, shelter, accommodation, food, clothing and child support are all things which he has to provide like a normal husband. And his children from her inherit and are legitimate children.
Slavery was the way of the Ancient World and was accepted by Judaism, Christianity and Islam. It was never considered wrong, even in the conservative centuries where everyone considered fornication, adultery, homosexuality a taboo worth the death penalty.
It was merely another halal form of relationship. Nothing immoral. Its only the pro-gay and pro-zina societies now which have turned around and said that relationship between masters and slaves are wrong. Just because the West could not treat their slaves well unlike in the Islamic world where slaves were a part of the family.
P.S No one can have sex with a woman, whether she be his wife or slave, in front of anyone else.