attitudes towards sex

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Let me tell you that there is a lot of action going on in Pakistan, these big Vaderas Jagirdars and industrialist have slept with hundreds of girls and boyz, so you say Qabool 3 times and done even if you don't feel commitment or love, I think true commitment is from the heart,

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So you open a thread about sex and expect the participants to do Milad, I was kind of mistaken that people are a bit open minded about sex, I was born and raised here and I mostly associate with Canadian people, we discuss sex openly at work and every one here wants to take their sexual life to a new level every day, this friend of my acquaintance just divorced his imported wife because she would not participate and say main gaandi jeezan nahi karti. Part of my life was spent in Africa and people are very open about sex there. In my naivety I was trying to help people achieve the height of happiness, why can't Pakistani couples achieve the same level of pleasure as the western couples. so you lay there with your Hayya like a lifeless log, husband is on top for max 3 min and you want to do this for the rest of your life. Every second post is by girls about husbands cheating....hmmmm bored with the mundane sex maybe.

In the western world where their is dog eat dog open competition every day and most f the time nothing to worry about because of the undesirability factor but if your dude is attractive and successful the gori girl will snatch him out of your hands in seconds and do stuff to him that he will throw rocks at you. Learn to protect what is yours, We have been told that we are a very good looking couple and very successful financially and there are gold diggers on the prowl every day waiting for a weak moment to break the family but the happy sex life keeps us like a rock

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Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3252:

Sabra Juhanni reported: Allah's Messenger pbuh permitted temporary marriage for us. So I and another person went out and saw a woman of Bana 'Amir, who was like a young long-necked she-camel. We presented ourselves to her (for contracting temporary marriage), whereupon she said: What dower would you give me? I said: My cloak. And my companion also said: My cloak. And the cloak of-my companion was superior to my cloak, but I was younger than he. So when she looked at the cloak of my companion she liked it, and when she cast a glance at me I looked more attractive to her. She then said: Well, you and your cloak are sufficient for me. I remained with her for three nights, and then Allah's Messenger pbuh said: He who has any such woman with whom he had contracted temporary marriage, he should let her off.

Here is a hadith about Mutah

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Shamless enough to have seen how hard the kids of some strict self proclaimed sharamdar Pakistanis put out, get your head out of the sand and look you might see some familiar faces.

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Nope, US.

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Yes. Mutah was initially allowed like alcohol buut was later forbidden forever until the Day of Judgement.

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This has nothing to do with what is being discussed here. Stop referring to Pakistan when Islam is mentioned.

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It may surprise you, Islam promotes an active sex life. Much to the effect that it is highly encouraged to marry young (like in the teens) and the husband and wife can not refuse each other's sexual requests. Foreplay is highly encouraged too. And Islamic books and hadiths are quite explicit on these things and their promotion.

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**It was merely another halal form of relationship. Nothing immoral. Its only the pro-gay and pro-zina societies now which have turned around and said that relationship between masters and slaves are wrong. Just because the West could not treat their slaves well unlike in the Islamic world where slaves were a part of the family

.As for Ali he said “Women are plentiful, and you can easily change one for another. Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.” So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her and Ali got up and gave her a violent beating, saying, ‘Tell the Apostle the truth.’”

Ibn Ishaq: p 496

You can't inject your own flavour in Islam, it has to be accepted exactly as it is.
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It is a matter of perspective people in love are appreciated in our society you call them names, in our society people who promote having sex slaves would be considered monsters. We put paper bags on their heads

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No Elimintor, it's basically how inappropriately open you are about your wife on an open forum all the while comparing her to other encounters you've had. It's simply gross and I wonder how she would feel about you either talking about her so candidly here or with other men. It's borderline vulgar and I think even most open minded individuals don't need to hear details about your sex life nor do any woman need a lesson on how to stop their men from cheating by reading your sexual experiences, I'm not sure how it could be considered some kind of education like your thinking. I think husband stealing white girls are the least of our worries here. It's not about discouraging talking about sex, it's about how grossly you speak in details about your wife on a such public forum.

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No you aren't . Empty vessels make more noise.

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Are you buying me a gift then :)

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I am open bout it as I don't find sex gross, Even Islam is very open about sex, below is a hdith for you.
Jabir b. Abdillah reported that once he was on an expedition with the Prophet salla Allahu *ʿalayhi wa sallam*, and when they were close to the city of Madīnah, he sped on his mount. The Prophet salla Allahu *ʿalayhi wa sallam asked him why he was in such a hurry to return home. Jabir replied, “I am recently married!” The Prophet *salla Allahu *ʿalayhi wa sallam* asked, “To an older lady or a younger one?” [the Arabic could also read: “To a widow or a virgin?”], to which he replied, “A widow.”
The Prophet salla Allahu *ʿalayhi wa sallam said, “But why didn't you marry a younger girl, so that you could play with her, and she could play with you, and you could make her laugh, and she could make you laugh?”
He said, “O Messenger of Allāh! My father died a martyr at Uhud, leaving behind daughters, so I did not wish to marry a young girl like them, but rather an older one who could take care of them and look after them.” The Prophet *salla Allahu *ʿalayhi wa salam replied, “You have made the correct choice.”
Jabir continues, “So when we were about to enter the city, the Prophet *salla Allahu *ʿalayhi wa sallam* said to me, 'Slow down, and enter at night, so that she who has not combed may comb her hair, and she who has not shaved may shave her private area.' Then he said to me, 'When you enter upon her, then be wise and gentle.'”
Reported by Bukhāri and Muslim, with various wordings, in their two Sahihs

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Haha, as honey puked at him and walked out on him, the guys imagination went into overdrive. Figments of imagination.

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Oily skin bo from under arms, poor hygiene, no muscle tones, rolled shoulder..facial hair, yellow teeth..hunched back
..Yes I can imagine.....Barf fest....I could stand ugly but odors make me puke..I

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I'm not sure how quoting hadiths helps anyone understand the fact that you still think its okay to put your sex life on display especially in detail about your wife. First your openly telling us about all of your experiences which mostly likely happened outside of marriage and then you begin spewing Islamic references as if they even make any difference for you. Sex isn't gross and that's not even the point.

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While I agree with you that an active sex life is key to a healthy marriage and that this "hayya" concept can hinder intimacy, I disagree with the highlighted portion. While a healthy sex life is important, it should not be everything in a marriage and quite frankly, it should not be the primary factor keeping a couple together. If sex is the primary factor keeping a couple together, what will happen if something should happen to one of the spouses (ie. accident, serious illness, etc.) and they cannot have sex for an extended period of time or are no longer able have sex?

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Hmm, everyone watches stuff, reads about it, and our population growth shows everyone's at it constantly yet talking about is haram and bayghairat.

Confuzzling attitudes

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Ahaaa,
So, you forgot the question and just concentrating on the makeup, :smack:

oh God, girls are girls…:biggthumb: