Yeh, but you ain't as juicy as I'm.
hehe.. sobi i wudnt expect a 17 year old to understand anywayz.
oh well nice talking to u all ..
AH :)
I'd rather be called a Watermelon. Big, round and full of annoying bits.
Suroory, go on, call me a kid and run away. How very adult like of you!
cherries? they suck. I like strawberries. soft, moist and juicy. very choosnable.
Fungi, ur like an apple. Old, boring and available all year round!
Sobi, one of me a day might keep the doctor away.
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Boss, how would u feel if you found out your wife only wanted you for your citizenship?
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I would feel like a paranoid mirpuri from South hall :-p
Welcome back Romz..
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Who gives a fcukl what people say - it's ur life, not theirs. Is that really too hard a concept to understand
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Sadi Sobi
the idealism of teenage youth
you sound remarkebly like i did at 17.
Four words come to the mind of ANY guy who comes across a female who is over 30 and still single.
"Probably A Head Case"
I believe that extends across ethnic, racial and religious boundaries.
I rememer reading an article in Wall Street Journal back in mid 90's about corporate working women and marital patterns. The article described an increased trend in young professional women (at the age of 25/26) to get married instead of waiting 'till their 30's. I don't remember the exact reasons that the article described but it said to the extent of persuit of happier life, and avoid a more distressed emotional personal self in their 30's even if you're successful in terms of money and career.
I think most of the women who see marriage as a threat to their career and independence lack the necessary balance that is required to keep life happier both emotionally and career-wise. At the end of the day, it all boils down to a happier life, whether you are the most successful person (professionally) in the world or an ordinary housewife.
Not there yet, but I have been fortunate to not have aunties ask me these sort of questions. They ask my mom, and mom handles them well. If aunties do talk to me, they usually mention someone they know they have in mind, and I turn into a 5 year old, say "mein nahin karni", smile, and run in the other room. Works real well. They realize how immature I truly am, and probably thank Allah that nobody is married to this sort of girl. smile
I know women tend to hear a lot of nonsense if they remain single into their late 20s/early 30s ....
however, I'm more interested in finding out whether men in their late 20s, especially those in their early 30s also face pressure/criticism/gossip, etc.
Of course they do. What did you think?
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Of course they do. What did you think?
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I dunno. I figure there is less pressure on them unlike girls who always get told that their biological clock will tick away if they don't hurry up and get married.
Mehnaz, their bilogical clock do "tick away". You can't deny forces of nature. It may not sound fair but that's how nature has it's way.
I know Roman, I agree. :) However, I just want to know if men face the same pressure and what type of reasons for marriage they hear.
Interestingly, there are some cultures in Punjab, (families I know) where the parents expect the son to complete his education, settle down into a career/business, start contributing substantially to the familly kitty, even build a house or something, before they will start searching for a wife for him. By that time the dude is 30+ anyway. And its not deemed anything unusual. Curiously enough, the mother will start looking for a girl who is 18 for this 30 yr old guy. Some guys do put their foots down and say they want someone 24-25, because otherwise the mental age difference gets too awkward.
Anyway, that is anecdotal, only. With more educated people and open culture, where girls and guys have more opportunities to interact, I am sure most guys are getting married in mid to late 20's. Although even if they cross over the 30-mark, its nothing very unusual or discussion-worthy. Ofcourse, I would imagine, crossing the 40 mark with no Mrs in sight can make him a topic of discussion in the community.
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however, I'm more interested in finding out whether men in their late 20s, especially those in their early 30s also face pressure/criticism/gossip, etc.
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I married in my late 20s. There WAS pressure from my family, her family, even family friends. I had been engaged for more than a year, yet people still questioned my intentions to marry her. I had my family (Aunts, Cousins etc) questioning the fact that I was "ready" for this girl or else they could find someone else.
Since my wife is a few months younger than me, I must admit she faced a lot more pressure from her family. I don't think theres a comparison because my standard answer to people complaining/asking why I hadn't gotten hitched was because I wanted to advance my career. That cop out is less believable when a woman says it due to the conservatism of our culture, where womens primary responsibilities are to tend to the house and children.
I am not 27 yet. I am not even a girl. But as a guy I think there comes a point in you rlife when your friends are all married and having babies. So thats the point when I wish I would get married too. But then I say might aswell enjoy the single life to its fullest before shoving my neck into the noose.
HI there Sobi, how you been last two years?
KH