How would you girls feel if you realize that your husband has ‘settled’ for you?
Ouch.
Actually in arranged marriages most of us do settle. So what really matters is that after some time does the husband or wife feel that things worked out for the best or are they regretting their lives?Eventually if you start liking eachother then you're at no loss otherwise live with what you put yourself through!
An alternative solution is to get married with the next guy who steps out of PIA flight at JFK, shut people up and then quietly get divorced. They will talk for a few weeks and then leave you alone. Then you can look for the real man of your dreams.
Boss, how would u feel if you found out your wife only wanted you for your citizenship?
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An alternative solution is to get married with the next guy who steps out of PIA flight at JFK, shut people up and then quietly get divorced. They will talk for a few weeks and then leave you alone. Then you can look for the real man of your dreams.
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ppl make ur life more miserable if ur divorced.
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Ouch.
Actually in arranged marriages most of us do settle. So what really matters is that after some time does the husband or wife feel that things worked out for the best or are they regretting their lives?Eventually if you start liking eachother then you're at no loss otherwise live with what you put yourself through!
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most of the time it does work out. what i like about arranged marriages is that u have less expectations which is alwayz good in my opinion, gives u space and time to settle down and be urself.
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ppl make ur life more miserable if ur divorced.
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tell me about it.
people people people, it’s all you pakis ever think about.
Who gives a fcukl what people say - it’s ur life, not theirs. Is that really too hard a concept to understand 
Sadi, easier said than done. You are only 17 and can talk like that. Wait til you hit 30! 
u have to be really bayhiss or cold hearted in order to do that. and as humans its our nature to think about others. i mean y live in the world full of people then if u dont want to be associated with them, go live in a desert or cave then.
You see, the girl may have everything and then some going for her except that her age is "past prime" for marriage. I find this school of thought very ignorant and outdated because a girl can get married at any age...
sweetiepie dearie, allow me to give you a wake up call. From men's perspective, old women are not as much desirable as young ones. There is some bilogical and practical wisdom to it. A woman reaching her 30's/past 30's is not as, well, what's the word, "fruitful" as someone who's in her early twenties when it comes to have children. It's riskier for older women to have childeren (down syndrome etc) compared to younger women. If a man wants to have, say, 3+ kids, a 30 years old woman is sorta already "late".
Secondly, it's the common perception among men that older women will have more resistence in adjusting there lives according to hubby's (unfortunately, our desi men like women who don't require too much work) than the younger ones. Whether or not this preception is true or false, or justifiable, it is prevalent and it does effect men's decisions. Add to that the perception that women get maturer earlier than men. So for a 30+ man a 10 years younger woman is considered pretty common and reasonable match. Why would a 30+ man want to marry a 30+ woman if he's can get hooked up with a younger one? Since most unmarried guys are in that age range (30+) unfortunately that leaves little choice for older women (compared to 35+ guys, who are mostly already married). Statistics play some part in that too.
thats a novel idea suroor. if all of these "people-haters" can be confined into a cave, maybe they will find a match.
This is the smartest thing I have read thus far in this thread. 
Fungi, it’s got sh1t all to do with age, it’s got everything to do with self confidence. You only take to heart what others say if you think they may be right …
Suroor, don’t make me laugh luv. So ur trying to tell me that if I don’t pay much attention to these 50 year old gossips, that means I should go live in a cave? Very well said 
Romano 
where you been, I was so lonely without you :teary: (P.S, am I still fruitful at 23?)
Sobiiiiiiiiiii ---- You'd always be fruiful in my eyes, in my life ---- haaaaeeeeeey.
No what i am saying is that these 50 year olds (sorry matty uncle) will be around u no matter what. so instead of just making fun of them or talking back at them. learn to listen to them and forget about them. besides some day u will be 50 years old too, u wudnt want ur grand kids or kids talking back at u like that as well.
learn how to live with others while living the life u want to live.
p.s: some of them 50 year olds r wise ppl. they do have more life experience than we have. u might wanna listen to them carefully and try to understand where they are coming from and whats the logic behind it.
Oh pulease Suroor, that’s the biggest pile of crap I’ve ever heard 
Why on Earth would I want to listen to someone who’s trying to bring me down? So what if they’re old? Does being old give them some sore of God given right to go about cussing people without being challenged?
You can sit back and listen to some stranger (who you’ve never even met before) tell you how to run your life, but I aint gonna do that anytime soon.
Roman, what fruit do I remind you of? You remind me of a choosnable amm. Small, fat and very suckable!
Sobz, cherry. Small, juicy, very suckable.
Hey Hey HEy.....I would have you know..I am younger than the resident aam here and older than the cherry.