Arranged - Could mean you are forced/blackmailed into marrying this person. Or it could mean your parents find suitors for you and you choose one of them.
Luvranged - Basically you see a girl/boy, talk with them for like a week or barely know them and then send the proposal. Or it could be you see the boy/girl, like the way they look, and then ask your parents to send the rishta.
Love - When you spend a considerable amount of time with a guy/girl. You love being together, see eye to eye, etc. Or you are in a serious relationship and you want to get married.
and why you have chosen that option?
If you are already married - what type of marriage of the 3 did you have - would you choose to do this again or would you choose a different path?
Personally for me, I choose love marriages. At least that way I will get to know the guy before tying the knot. Luvranged seems sorta stupid to me. I mean you barely know the person and you just decide you want to marry them. Arranged just sends me puking because [a] I know what I want and can find it myself and ** I don’t know what the guy is like at all! Will we click? Or will we be polar opposites for everything [resulting in one to many arguments or me having to change]. Getting married to someone you don’t know or barely know is just scary.
It is life changing decision and your selection or picking to be spouse depends on your family setup. I believe none of the category is stupid because each family has its own background, culture and standard and you influenced by it to some extent. Time is critical factor, the more two families get mingle with each other, the more they understand and could break deal in either yes or no.
In general, family background, cultural values, financial status, religious tendencies/inclination, and attraction(physical/personality) should match on both side for successful married life.
In the end, observe your to be spouse and his/her family closely. You will understand more and more about them and give this process considerable time. If possible, do *istekhara *too.
Why dont you tell aunty that you will find someone your self and hence she should not bother. You are making a slam dunk case for love marriage with your tunnel vision
and now some reality check for you
If “getting to know someone before marriage” was everything, love marriage would have highest success ratio which is not the case. Reality is that there is no “one size fit all” solution. Depends on lot of parameters including person him/her self. Some people just do not have skill to judge other people and can be taken for emotional ride easily but again some people think its better to be kicked by someone u know, than by someone u don’t …if thats the case then yeah, love marriage is the way :k:
Personally, I am all for hybrid model. A bit of this and a bit of that.
Mine is very unique. I went for shopping in the Find a Wife mall. All the standard models of wives didnt appeal me hence I had one custom made directly from the factory.I am very happy with her.:)
No i didnt want the talking functionality in my model of wife.Instead I wanted her to know 3-4 different cuisines to cook and massage my toes. Its all good so far plus theres a warranty for 10 years if anything goes wrong.
^ oh god. Stop talking about women like they're useless pieces of object. Then maybe, just maybe, you'll be able to get a woman that is interested?! Just a thought.
Anyway, mine was love marriage for him I guess. He knew me and saw me around uni so asked his mum to ask for my rishta! We've been engaged for 3 years and its def a love marriage now... For the both of us ;)
I'm not against arranged marriages at all. The most successful marriages in my family have been arranged - they got to know each other a little before marriage though. They've never been more in love and I probably prefer arranged over love.
Arranged - Could mean you are forced/blackmailed into marrying this person. Or it could mean your parents find suitors for you and you choose one of them.
WRONG!!! Can people get this definition out if their head? A forced marriage is only a FORCED MARRIAGE. It is NOT an arranged marriage! An arranged marriage is when elders are involved in the process of arranging two people to come together - if there is force involved in anyway and either of the two parties (children OR parents) are unhappy, how can you arrange such a thing?! It then becomes forced.
I am always explaining this distinction to Westerners when I tell them I am having an arranged marriage. Can't believe this belief is rife within Pakistani culture too.
Luvranged - Basically you see a girl/boy, talk with them for like a week or barely know them and then send the proposal. Or it could be you see the boy/girl, like the way they look, and then ask your parents to send the rishta.
sounds like deranged.
did u bring me any chai?