I know it's not about the money and you just think she's rude and unappreciative, I get it. But YOU maha have no right EITHER to complain about where her money goes. Maybe her family is in more need than yours? Either way, it is between your brother and his wife and you need to get all those thoughts and ideas about it out of your head. Even if she is complaining she doesn't have any money then you need to talk to your brother, probablly privately, that you don't like hearing it when your the one helping to support them with your dad right now. You can only talk to him about YOUR feelings, NOT what she is doing with her money, it is still her business, if your brother has a problem with it it's his place to voice his opinion and feelings and no one else's. I hope you understand that part. Now if your frustrated that they are not contributing anything but problems to the situation then talk to your brother about your feelings and take it from there. If you don't have that kind of a relationship then I think you've learned your lesson to just sit and watch the show as it rolls out.
I still do t understand why your brother and his wife are not working but meh.
What I dont understand is why didnt you use your own credit card for this as the money was going to be credited anyway or was it not going to be??
she stops him and tells him not to spend anything on us because** she needs money for her family**...
yes,** she does spend his money on her family**
.she buys stuff for her family using the overdraft limit...does that not matter?
she never ever discusses anything with my brother if** she goes and spends on her family...**
However, she’s always spending money on herself and her side of the family.
^this has come up far too many times...what she does with her money should not be any of your business.
If you think she was inconsiderate towards you, dont spend on her next time. And yes, keep your distance and save yourself the headache of where her money is going
what gadget is bought and then sold for a profit? Don't they all, like, depreciate in value the second you buy them?
It's not hard to find the market value of a gadget, so unless he has an actual business where he's buying these things on a deep discount to resell them for a profit (I gathered from the comments that he's not a business owner and this is just one product), who in the world would pay more for something that's used/secondhand?
if the gadget was for your brother then you should not have been involved in from whose account the money will go. you should have just voiced your opinion on the gadget and should have let your brother deal with the money bit.
the credit card belongs to your bhabhi then the reality is that she is the boss of it. you thinking 'it would have been nice of her to have just said ‘yes you can buy it' is wrong. since she does not have to let anyone use her credit card if she does not want to.
your brother should have sorted the money thing separately with his wife if he wanted to use her credit card.
you see no body likes to give their personal things to anyone....credit/debit card is one of them.
personally i would say to stay away from her money matters.
in future if you want to buy something for your self or for someone else then ask your parents or siblings. or politely ask your bhabhi if she is ok letting you use her card or that you will pay her back.
now the best course of action would be to either not talk about this matter at all and time will heal it OR speak to your bhabhi and that you were wrong in thinking/expecting that she should give her credit card to be used and that her tone/action was rude etc (if it was).
if you think that by talking to her matter can get worse then best would be to stay silent and for next time never ever involve your self in such matters.
:)
ps. not trying to discourage you at all or not trying to show you that you are completely wrong but just an advice.
Hai... ppl are so harsh. I think she came here to ask a question. Scam karma rahay hain ya fraud let the govt decide. Unless one of you are interested in reporting.
SIL says its her credit card guppans say its their money Hahahahaaaa
Razia phans gaye ghundoon mein but hey what kind of in laws ur brother has to takd gifts from their daughter living on benefits.
You're an accountant and your brother is jobless at the moment.. Surely you shouldnt mind that he couldnt afford to get you anything for your bday so this 'profit' would have helped him and his wife instead, you clearly dont need the money. I know ur arguing about the principle that ur bhabi does more with her side and not your side etc BUT its their miaan biwi ka maamla let them decide how they wana spend 'their' money, do they have kids? Maybe ur brother is the big spender? Thats why she went all 'mine mine mine' mode, or maybe she decided it wasnt a wise idea. Just be the bigger person and move on. You can ask ur brother for a treat when he finds a job inshallah.
hes not using "your tax money"..hes worked since he was 16 yrs old...hes paid tax...its his own money....
this is a common misconception.
anyway, to the OP:
you cannot get upset with her for spending her money as she pleases......she answers to no one aside from her husband. its her right since its her money. you have no say and for you to get upset with her for spending money on her family and not you...well its weird. they're her family, her parents and her blood...obviously she will spend money on them and care for them...who says she cannot?
now before you say "i never said she cannot do such and such"
you need to understand that its not your business or place to question peoples' spending habits or choices. so that issue should die right there.
onto you thinking she should have handled it better and the thought being the main reason you're upset. well, you could have handled it better too. it always takes two to tango and from what i see........you two are even.
what gadget is bought and then sold for a profit? Don't they all, like, depreciate in value the second you buy them?
It's not hard to find the market value of a gadget, so unless he has an actual business where he's buying these things on a deep discount to resell them for a profit (I gathered from the comments that he's not a business owner and this is just one product), who in the world would pay more for something that's used/secondhand?
SIL says its her credit card guppans say its their money Hahahahaaaa
Razia phans gaye ghundoon mein but hey what kind of in laws ur brother has to takd gifts from their daughter living on benefits.
I will not get into that...I think its better if thats left alone...coz more problems will come up...not all families are the same i guess
Thank you to all who have advised... Appreciate it...I was thinking maybe i was completely wrong..but its her fault aswell...so im nt gna think bout it anymore and let it slide.... I also undrstand its between her n my brother...but to make long story short...i wudnt expect her to GIVE me anything.. n I didnt ask her for anything either... This matter was between my bro n I.... She just likes to butt into other peoples business...
Anywayz, Cheers guys!!! ( to all those who gave gud advice...nt the ones who made all this confusing for themselves)
