nope, makes u a friendly person, its not the smile, its the smile, plus eyes, plus how someone acts around you, words, etc etc that can be telltale signs.
the one place ppl go to meet desi girls is in many cases the worst place, large desi eevents, eid parties, garbas, big desi parties..problem there is many ppl have ppl form family community there and they simly dont want to take too many chances. in such events usually if u know someone who knows someon u like they can do an introduction and u chat a little exchange numeros and move on..as I said, girls especially are very concerned about reputation.
also what is your intention, casual dating or seriously getting to know someone for something more concrete. shaadi etc.
I’ll only talk to a desi guy if he is tall, dark and has blue eyes
Okay serious, I hate the desi guy patana harkatain, its so damn filmy and trust me, I work at a place where 75% of employees are desi ranging from all age groups.
First they’ll look at you and the minute you look at 'em they’ll look away.
Its not a damn film so please dont do this its annoying and offensive, If you are looking then be a man and look when I catch you looking.
Then after that they’ll stand in a group and stare at you and when you look at 'em they’ll quickly look away.
Third every time you pass 'em, they’ll whisper something very annoying.
Fourth, please dont ask me If i am from India/Bangladesh/Pakistan/Afghanistan.
Im choclate, Yes Im a desi Next question. So boring.
Fifth, Dont go to my friends at work and drop hints and ask a million questions bout me, its so coward.
If you really want my attention, walk up to me, introduce yourself with a smile, tell me your name and ask mine.
X2 jee has opened up a part of his life interacting with desi girls so let me add mine.
location saudi arabia
same school but because of segregation boys and girls are separate. this chick and i had checking out going on. next thing you know i have a tutor and she is her daughter. i stay at best possible manner, we talked but there was lot going on with the help of her friends and mine. in the end, it ended in my and her name in a wall just near her home.
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that's the thing there is always crowd but, with desi girls their life is this crowds life and they want to know everything.
nope, makes u a friendly person, its not the smile, its the smile, plus eyes, plus how someone acts around you, words, etc etc that can be telltale signs.
the one place ppl go to meet desi girls is in many cases the worst place, large desi eevents, eid parties, garbas, big desi parties..problem there is many ppl have ppl form family community there and they simly dont want to take too many chances. in such events usually if u know someone who knows someon u like they can do an introduction and u chat a little exchange numeros and move on..as I said, girls especially are very concerned about reputation.
also what is your intention, casual dating or seriously getting to know someone for something more concrete. shaadi etc.
thread is to get some sense with this mystery of how to a desi should approach. seems like there are lot of complaints about it.
my intensions are as noble as yours were during all those years, sir :)
Another annoying thing, a desi guy will automatically jump to conclusion and assume that you want shadi/bachay/ghar/valima the minute you are friendly with 'em.
Whats that??
Like helloo NOOOO.
Shadi/serious relationship takes a very long time to get to, you just cant decide in a split moment that hey, hello, I smiled. you smiled, lets bring our parents in and get married
Well, look, now if you live in that part of the world, I just don't know what to tell you. I have not figured out how love can possibly flourish in that country without ending in :
my intensions are as noble as yours were during all those years, sir :)
i.ew. not very noble at all eh?
Another annoying thing, a desi guy will automatically jump to conclusion and assume that you want shadi/bachay/ghar/valima the minute you are friendly with 'em.
I was referring to something very diff, if a girl is in a serious mode, she is going to brush off guys who she does not see as serious future prospects. same goes for guys, I may sound like a complete jerk, which I suppose by some women's definition I was back in the day, but when i was just dating, there were some who I would have never gone into some serious relationship with. something as simple as a study aborad program where I am in a diff country for 3 months, so well 3 months u see hang out with someone, knowing that what it is, then u part ways. You really dont focus as much on sect, religion, views about life and all that stuff, too heavy and really not relevant. same for women, desi or not..
begum stop reading this thread now :D its stories of the old me, not the new me :D
not really, its much more difficult depending on situation. if u see some desi girl in a mall and want to to talk its differentthan if u see her at a uni party. I mean at such events just going up and saying hi and introducing yourself should not be a problem, you should have something to say aside from hi.
otherwise be yourself, I liked a desi girl who was kinda dating someone else, we had friends in common and all so i saw her off and on, we talked and got along..same interest in music and stuff.
one day I just asked her if she had a twin, she rolled her eyes ( thinking I was going to make somejoke about the typical twin fantasy) ... and asked why as she was laughing, I just said well i would ask her out, because I would have asked you out but you are seeing someone so I cant. a few days alter she asked me out for a movie :)
I found out later from her that she liked me the very first time we met but knew that I was seeing someone then and then i never approached her once i was a free man so she took it as lack of interest.
key here is that she was interested, unless i had completely screwed up , she would have said yes regardless. the ones who are not interested, u can try whatever mack daddy approach u have, its not going to really go anywhere in teh end.
As a matter of fact her cousins had discouraged her from getting involved with me because they had heard stuff about me..until that moment I had not realized that my notoriety had not only gone out of the uni but across 2 state lines..
and this is stuff from my business school days nit the fraternity days in undergrad. I had no common sense then. I will see all those crazy guys in february :D amazing to see how everyone has become a responsible person now.
Next question. So boring.
and dont be loafer lafanga 
