Ayo I’m back, I got some helpful advice in my last thread and it kinda changed my mindset and I realized I like to way too many girls to just focus on one so over the winter break I got over that and decided that I can’t just ask every girl I kinda like out, but now I got a new problem. I need some advice about how to approach a girl you barely know and don’t see often. So the thing is that I saw this Pakistani chick I at this club at my college and I only saw her 3 times after in a span of 2 months cause it’s difficult to run into the same person at a school with a student body of over 30,000. I did find her on facebook though cause we’re part of the same facebook group (on which neither of us are active) and don’t think it’d be appropriate to add somebody on facebook if I haven’t spoken to them at least once. Now it’s spring break and nobody’s in town, so I was think when I’m back and do happen to run into her again, how should I approach her, cause we don’t even have classes together and she never went back to the same club I’m a member of so I don’t know how to find her again. This been on my mind for like a week or more now, so any advice would be appreciated.
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When you are interested , you always strike a conversation first . Talk about something common ground between you two . See if you can make common friends and plan a group outing . take it from there . 
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Stalk her, see what classes she’s taking, sign up for those classes…, talk with her, drop the class…add her on fb, date, get married, have kids, live happily ever after.
Or if you guys have mutual friends, ask them to invite you when you’re hanging out together and you can be the “third string”…okay… okay,(don’t quit my day job)
Now seriously, Best way is to just go up to her, see whats around your surroundings and make conversation about that or ask her for help, like do you know where X building is? or whats the time? the weather? Be like, do I know you from somewhere? just small talk…Or you can..go tried and tru..and legit ask her out.
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But we don’t have the same circle of friends and I don’t know if cold approach would work with brown girls cause the chicks I normally talk to are the ones I know cause we have the same classes or part of the same organization.
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I wish it was that easy lol and we don’t even have the same major.
We don’t, we got no friends in common. I saw her at the rec once when I was lifting but didn’t see her again over there, even though I go there often.
The hardest part is how to see her again, cause I only saw her like 3 times this semester, I don’t think it’s appropriate to stop somebody while they’re walking past you on campus, so I need to find a situation to see her again and then start up a conversation. I’m not sure if I should tell her I like her cause that would creep her out and my white and Mexican friends tell me you should never tell a girl you like her, just play along and see if you get her to vibe with you but I’m kinda confused cause I think brown girls like guys that are more direct. This is hard lmao.
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Really, no gen ed classes? i’m sure she has to take a math or English, an elective business or science class…you can take it as an elective. But I was being facetious when i said that.
Um, You don’t tell her you like her, you ask for her number or if she’d like to hang out some time. She’s just someone you want to know. Not someone you like. If she’s as hot as you think she is, she probably gets asked out a lot anyways.
I would straight up msg her on facebook, be like “you showed up on ppl i might know… FB algorithym is telling us we should be friends…salam” and go from there.
This strategy of trying to randomly see where she’ll pop up next like whack a mole is a waste of your time, but you better god damn hope you have some amazing pictures if you want to make a good impression. If not, stick to trying to geo-locate her with fbi tracking tools…best bet is try to get mutual friends, thats the best way.
Even if you see her, and talk to her, their is no guarantee of her liking you. So its best to just do it and get it over with.
either way, nothing comes easy in life.
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I got all my gen ed classes knocked out so I’m not gonna have any classes with her, I don’t think approaching her on facebook would be appropriate that would creep her out cause we haven’t even spoken before but I know she recognizes me cause we’ve seen each other around campus and she was talking to a friend of mines I was sitting right next to the first time I saw her (I think that was my best shot). She is really pretty but I don’t think she has a boyfriend, she only seems to hang out with girls, I just hope I get to make approach her before another guy does. I don’t care if I get rejected this time, I just wanna make sure I tried loool. Next time I see I’ll try to ask for her snapchat but I’m not sure if it’s too personal and should just ask her for number instead.
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Lol..Thats why you cancel the class bro after you get her number! Most schools have 2-3 weeks to get your money back at the start of the semester. And of course she is not going to openly hang out with boys. No one does that..its always hush hush in the paki community. I swear you wouldn’t know any of your friends were dating girls unless they specifically tell you, they just make excuses and go somewhere else and secretly hang with their gf’s/bf’s. At least that was the case back in my day.
To me any social media platform is the same as a number, the only benefit is with Instagram and fb you get to see her pics as well.
Either way, best of luck and keep it halal
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This is a difficult situation since it’s college and you both have totally different majors. Campus directory can tell you which dorm she lives in right? If you go to a huge University with so many students, it’s super hard to find out anything about her. The only thing I can think of is when you did see her the 2 or 3 times, were her friends any that you could talk to to tell that you would really like to get to know their friend?
If you don’t mind me asking, what was it about this girl that made her so memorable in your mind? Was it only that she was really pretty? Do you really think she’s completely out of your league?
I don’t even know how people get girlfriends and boyfriends in college. How did they find the time or even if they did, universities are so huge. Bumping into someone you hardly know, it’s close to impossible.
Directly approaching her, especially if she is shy and only hangs out with girls might make her nervous. On Facebook, if you recognize her friends you could ask them if she’s attending any college events, if she is, then find some time to go and make the first move and get to know her. Even still, it’s so difficult to talk with the opposite gender in our culture. If you do approach her, then people gossip or watch and then she might become really self conscious.
I don’t know, wait for the seasoned members to give you some tips.
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There’s no way I would know what classes she’s gonna take and if I got lucky, the odds of having the same professor and the exact same section is extremely unlikely. I don’t think she has a boyfriend even though she does talk to a few guys on social media (I was lurking a bit), she did mention she was single on her twitter bio lol.
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You’re right, then odds of seeing her again are really slim and even if I do know her dorm, I wouldn’t just walk there to try to run into her. That’s creepy. I don’t think she’d have issues talking with guys, I’ve seen how she dresses and some of her pics on social media and she doesn’t seem like a conservative girl though she still follows Pakistani culture. We don’t have any friends in common,
I liked how she looked and the way she spoke, I mean that may sound like I’m objectifying a girl but I don’t know anything else about her. I don’t think she’s completely out of my league, I think I got a shot, even if it’s a long shot. I just need to find a way to see her again and they think of how to approach her.
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lol third string,
If you spent the same amount of time working on your career/studies/ yourself then watch these girls come running your way.
Probably not answering your question but you have time, you’ll find someone amazing and worth your while. No need to plot and do these things. The chase is fun sometimes so maybe it has you intrigued. If you’re meant to meet then it’ll happen, trust.
If not, there’s so many other people at uni, you’ll find someone and it’ll be easy to connect. Just my personal opinion. I know others have given more direct advice. Good luck either way!
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lol i’m keeping my grades up bruh, but thinking of this girl is just ruining my spring break now. I just wanna get this over with loool.
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you don’t have time to let some girl ruin your spring break.
Get over it. By the time you do, she’ll be right there, or who knows, someone better!
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I haven’t seen better bro, I know I got time but still I wanna lock this one down loool
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looool, you’re funny!
The more you run after someone/something the further it runs away from you leaving you high and dry.
Let us know how it goes. 
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I’m not gonna run after her, Imma just wait and see if she responds to my advances.
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Awwww this is so cute!!! It’s nice to see guys act like this. Lol.
I hope you get a shot with her, you sound like a sweet guy.
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Ameen lol