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Ameen???
What. You do know that THAT kinda dua isn’t going to be accepted unless it’s a marriage proposal maybe.
Jeez. Why not just focus on your studies? You only saw her three times and only like her looks. Don’t see this going anywhere.
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Just message her and be like “I like you and I want you, now we’re gonna do this the easy way or the hard way”. She’ll understand.
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dua could be for anything yo
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Yeah that’s a good way to get a restraining order lol
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I looked up some info on this girl and apparently she’s either an ismaili or ahmadi, that just makes things harder cause i’m sunni. I’m not sure which sect she is, but that just makes things more complicated now loool
I’m not sure if I should go ahead with my plans or not?!?
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Plot twist! I love it.
I thought your next post would be inviting your GS fam to your guys’ wedding.
So disappointed third string…
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True love can’t be bothered by a pesky restraining order LOL
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True. But not for haram things. Sorry to burst your bubble.
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If she’s ahmadi I’d suggest you to forget about chasing her for reasons I dont think I need to mention. Your family will probably not accept her and you’d have to ditch her one day.
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I’m not doin haram things yo
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I think she follows the aga khan, I see what you’re saying but she has quotes from quran on social media and stuff so she seems like a good muslim. I talked to my friend about it and he said that it’s not a big deal, they’re still considered muslim but my parents might still flip out.
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Hm, I’m not sure how sunnis react to agha-khanis and yes they are still considered muslims as per the constitution of Pakistan (and ahmadis are not) so that might make some difference. I personally dont believe these differences should matter but I do like that you are being practical about it. I’m an ahmadi girl living in the West and have never been able to make friends with other Pakistani muslims at my university because I guess I scare them.
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If you want to go down the dating route then yes that’s haram. If you want to go down the marriage route then only seeing someone from afar three times is not a good basis for marrying them. Are you planning on dating or proposing marriage? “Getting to know” a girl without intention of possibly marrying her is haram. It’s not complicated. It’s your life, your consequences. Peace.
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marriage is the end goal loool
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Yeah this girl doesn’t have many paki friends either, I’m still gonna try to get with her yo. I don’t care about differences in denominations, she’s still muslim IMO, that’s how i see things. My parents have friends from ismaili and ahmadi communities but I guess marriage is where they draw the line, but I’m not gonna let it stop me cause I mean if the right girl isn’t sunni then it isn’t my fault.
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I am so sorry to hear that you get discriminated against, you can be our friend any day.
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It’s your life and how you choose to live it is up to you in every way. The choices we make define us and our future.
Differences of aqeedah as well as other aspects of the religion will come up. My employer in first/second year uni was Ismaili/Aga-khani and as much as I loved her and she treated me so well too we had our differences.
I asked to pray during my shifts and though she encouraged it she didn’t pray herself. They pray at different times, have different places of worship that sunnis cannot attend, she didn’t fast during Ramadan and didn’t believe going to hajj was a part of her faith.
If marriage truly is the end goal and you’re planning to not just “kick it” with this girl you’ll have to think about the future. For me spiritual/religious compatibility is really important, probably just as important as being compatible in other ways. For some people it is something that they can overcome. Definitely something important for you to think about. Also, if religion is important to you and you’re looking for someone to add to it, to uplift you religiously, to raise your future children on similar values then it’s quite important to find someone with a similar religious background. This is different for everyone so you need to decide what that means to you and how you want your life/future to look like.
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I see where you’re coming from, that stuff is important to me. I think she does do Ramadan and has a pic of the kaaba on fb, I don’t really know anything about other sects.
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What does doing Ramadan mean? My employer ‘did’ Ramadan too. She never fasted though. It was a mental fast for her which meant keeping her thoughts clean and letting go of any negativity that came to her. It was a different experience and way of completing one of the 5 pillars of Islam.
The kaaba has a lot of religious value in all sects of Islam. The Ismailis I know don’t go for hajj. Some might but you have to look into it. I’ve seen people get involved and when it came down to discussing the important stuff and it doesn’t have to be religion it could be other things like similar vision for how to raise kids, finances, etc they have completely disagreed. It’s all fun when you’re getting to know someone, the key is to be careful, don’t get too emotionally attached before you make a clear decision by discussing the important stuff. Matters of the heart are always complicated.
If only you had listened to my initial advice but since you ain’t having none…this happens.
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I have seen many thriving relationships where husband and wife came from different backgrounds, it really is naivety to pay undue attention to faith, caste and religion while choosing a mate. Is he gonna help with the dishes, help to look after the kids, be caring and respectful is going to be a lot more important than how he prays and stuff. My son’s friend Ronik’s mom is a Christian from Goa and dad a clean shed Sikh and they seem to have great chemistry, they are both doctors and met in Uni. All due respect to parents but it is your life so make your decision on what your heart says and not on what your dad says.