ABCD men prefer women from pakistan because they believe that they will stick by them, have more sabr, bardaasth and lahaaz/lihaaz.
Ive spoken to a few and thats the answer i get. They never mentioned anything about ABCD girls as slutty, because their own sisters/cousins are ABCD girls.
My own opinion is these days that would be the perfect match, ABCD and paki bred.
As divorce is on the rise, most parents are going to pakistan to get damaads and bahus because at the end of the day, those marriages are prooving to work out.
If the guys wanting to marry Pakistani born and raised girls are 'insecure' and 'hypocrites' with 'inflated egos', the ABD girls should be happy that they do NOT WANT TO MARRY THEM.
Chanda ji---pls take your time watching your movies. You a need a break :)- (long one)
Some ladies here really are bonkers and do have comprehension problems.
Pindi- Bro makes a fair, honest and appropriatlty worded view of why some men prefer back home, and he still gets gunned.
Did Pindi actually say from himself or genrally that 'desi girls are sluts'.
He even understood and agreed to both points of view.
Some ladies here defintly have some comprehension plus hormonal problems.
I back-up pindi bro if he disprefers a desi or paki women who walkes round wearing such tight blouses that make her big boobs noticeble to all.
Or those that are value 'gender equality' to such an extent that they think touching, shaking, huggin male mates as with girls mates is aceeptable.
The above is totally unislamic- and girls viewed with such antics will be steroetyped by the decent/cultured paki familes.
Ofcourse these families surely dont know whether you are good or bad, but behaviour does give impressions.
Personally, if any girl here likes wearing tight-cleaveage and hump showing tops, tight ass tights or jeans like J-LO.
Such a girl has no modesty or haya. Thier dress signals purely how much attention they want from the opposite sex.
I dont have any remorse in calling such a slut.
Which decent man, wants a wife who has been a public show?
No infractions plz. Just plain Truth.
and remember im Deela ok. IM allowed Deele comments
I did not read all the discussion so I apologize if I repeat anything, I have been in states abt 5-6 yrs, the girls I hav seen here are my husband's cousin , they are born n raised here, there are total 6 girls in the family from 3 uncles of my hubby, but these girls are so different from each other that I was shocked to see when I first come here, one family daughters wear al hijabs, and they are not allowed very far away from home for college, and other family had one daughter that even went out of country to study and now is living al alone, u cant make all girls stand in one que.
But the more imp thing is all the girls wether living alone or wid families are very masoom, never had affairs, not hav boys as friends n all and when i compare it to pak I am shock to see every other girl is having affair, talking on phone wid guys they dont know n all.
But the negative point these girls have they dont want o marry guys in pak,they hav issues wid guys having pakistani accent,they think pak boys marry them for visas, they r sitiing , getting old for good rishtas for pak boys born here, who r mostly marrying girls back home, or marrying here but in higher status family.
My husband himself had so many rishtas here.
I agree. My cousins in Pakistan were convinced I had a boyfriend back many years ago, and I actually got into a fight with them on it. I was like, why do you think I have a bf? They were like, well you've got to...you are American. I had such an issue trying to convince those guys that I have NO BOYFRIEND. (this was years ago, clearly does not apply anymore).
I find American born Pakistanis to be a lot more straight forward and genuine compared to their Pakistani counterparts, in general.
I mean it is obvious from reading the posts here in addition to actual experiences. I mean look at the posts and opinions of the retards like monk, McPendo, deela a.k.a Nutwer et al and one feels like vomiting. On the other hand posters like PCG, MehnazQ, Sara516 are "you get what you see". There is no multiple personality disorder. They are comfortable in expressing themselves because they are not hypocrites and don't have anything to hide.
I would take an American born Pakistani or someone who has lived away from Pakistan over stuckup, clueless and hypocrite desi with my eyes shut.
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I mean it is obvious from reading the posts here in addition to actual experiences.
I mean look at the posts and opinions of the retards like monk, McPendo, deela a.k.a Nutwer et al and one feels like vomiting
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hmm i believe these 4 dudes are the same guy, so ya your brilliant thesis based on online forum personalities is kinda null and void. try getting out more for further experiences and comparisons which might be a little more objective.
-Funguy your paki-guy luckily married with west girl to the west- so obviously you gotta suck up to them.
Neither Pindi nor Deela said DEsi are no good. They merely stated that the 'behaviour' sends out the unpreferred steroetypical signal.s.
Religously it and traditionally it is not islamic for girls to wear tightish clothes and be too 'free' with oppostie sex.
(And nabi-pak has also said the personality of a person is 'assumed' by the company he mixes with)
And the 'on-watchers'- the traditional/pakistani minded mummies/daddies/ will percieve such girls to be less decent then the 'paki-type' that dress behave oppositly.
Nobody other than God is aware of anybodies past so we ALL make assumptions on what we see or hear.
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On the contrary, I do strongly agree that desi women unlike many crafty (apparantly decent) paki women do not hide things. They are honest and confident and what you see is what you get.
This is a virtue of desi girls I respect. Many paki girls are crafty i never denied that.
Any-how:
Haania- if you really have that good desi-cousins then I know Pindi would be seriously interested.
Waisey Deela is also Deela-li available.
(lol at PCG story-sorry cudnt just help so..)
p.s: Some ladies pls get some of your pleasant selfs down to Deelas '4 WIVES ' thread.
His thread seems to be deserted all the sudden. He wants feedback.
ONLY YOU- cant prevent him from being himself. He does intake and analyse your feedbacks.
hmm i believe these 4 dudes are the same guy, so ya your brilliant thesis based on online forum personalities is kinda null and void. try getting out more for further experiences and comparisons which might be a little more objective.
I think what our dear friend McPendo is trying to communicate in 9 threads is that in his experience he has not seen a lot of "marriage material" abcd girls. A girl you will be proud to take to your parents as a possible candidate.
Having been in Mcpendo's shoes sometime ago before marriage. I too noticed this dilemma. Beleive me marrying someone in US is hastle free and we men would want to marry here and escape visits to visa offices for our spouses back home.
However, I noticed two types of abcd girls. Completely religious. hijab wearing, halal only type of girls. Perhaps some of you fall in that category since you are so adamant that you girls have never kissed etc. But, religious hijabies are a complete turnoff for me so no chance of marriage there. The ones that were not hijabi were not marriage material for a number of reasons. I wouldnt call them sluts. Just not marriage material. Unable to connect mentally on important topics, marrying someone in Pakistan was the only logical conclusion and it worked.
It begs the question however, whatever happened to the girls who are not completely religious and not totally out of control. The majority of girls here confused between their eastern and western values and sadly immature. Now if some of you posters dont fit the bill then kudos - it doesnt change the reality on the ground.
So in six pages we have learnt-- guys STILL think girls born/raised in teh west are lacking in morals, values, maturity. Wrong.
Some people think in order to make themselves sound better, they have to put other groups down. Wrong.
And I doubt neither side is going to change anytime soon. Call it a preference, or an emotional response to narrow-minded thinking, but clearly, everyone needs to learn to respect others. But if they all did...we wouldn't have fun GS threads now would we? :D *
GAWD I feel like Jerry Springer's "Last Thoughts"
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