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wait.. hold this power hose and drench me completely. Someone near me will also get set wet … :k:
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come on i mean which guy don't talk like this.. even the most decent among the guys talks about it or waste good amount of soap thinking about it...
if a guys says he don't then either he is gay or liar.... make ur choice to pick
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there is difference between thinking about something and talking about it 
I really dont agree that ‘all guys talk like this’. I grew up such a tomboy all my friends were male and while I can admit some used to sit and talk about it even sit and watch porn together (eww) some found it revolting and unnecessary and slightly gay/wierd to talk to another guy about a womans body, what you want to do her etc. I found paki guys crossed all limits and boundaries from what I saw of them at college/uni… rather disappointing. Thats why I did not get engaged to one 
CM my friend you are wrong. There are hundreds of Tableghi guys out there. They dont do it and they are honest. They are good guys But they remain away from home for weeks and months to spread word of peace and worship :k:
Girl you need to be clear on that stance !
They cross the limits with their intimate partner, is that okey for partner ??? :rotato: To what extent ? May be that crossover is still not acceptable to that intimate partner, ab kia karain ? baith ke Baansuri bajaain ?? 
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In theory he is still "bachelor" as you guys are 1000s of miles apart. He has not tasted what being a "family" like. If you think its only a talk, you should not worry too much. Everyone need a transition time be it a guy or girl.
Also I am not sure what "dirty language" was he using. If its was swearing such as F$$$/A@@ words, get used to it, its not considered bad in countries like Australia. Some Pakistanis intentionally adopt such habits in these places to belong more which is not perfect but should not be a deal breaker.
Personally, I dont swear. My worst swearing is manhoos, ullu ka patha. My wife does better than that :)
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Oh Why Did someone mentioned Angelina in this thread ? :mad: she is stuck in my head for good.
I remember she used to visit pakistan frequently, few years back as UN ambassador. And we were so crazy back then. See this piece of Art and start rolling on the floor 
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/showbiz-pakistan/181654-angelina-jolie-meets-pm-shaukat-aziz.html
I understand She is a busy mother of 7/8 children now. Its not easy to get free time for these activities. May Allah bless her with more kids
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The best part is reading the comments of these single and newly wed ladies who seem to think they have done a PhD on what guys do in the company of their friends 
You lot are in for quite a few surprises.
Not really when your best friends, been dating for over 4 years, travelled the world together and lived together. Asterfirullah to some... I know my partner thank you to others.
It’s been said before - a guy can talk smack when in the company of his guy friends, boys will be boys - just so long as he knows how to behave when he’s with ladies.
Off-colour jokes by a guy doesn’t make him a bad guy. It’s when he doesn’t have the capacity to recognize the difference between a joke and ghattiya thinking about women that there may be an issue.
I don’t disagree with that at all Sehrysh. That is the whole point, when its a gathering of guy friends, all sorts of stuff is discussed. Nobody is nasty 24x7, but sometimes someone just starts a dirty topic and it picks up. Some participate, some joke, and some just laugh. Its just how guys are. That doesn’t mean everybody is horny and frustrated and is sharing intimate fantasies. Jeez. And yeah when some lady, an elder, or even an outsider (like a friend of a friend) is in the company, pretty much everybody knows how to behave appropriately.
What I disagree with are the stupid goody two shoes conclusions based on god knows what. To give you 2 examples:
Janwaar either your blind or just plain stupid yourself. My response was no way a goody two shoes one
You might sit in your little hole in some strange part of the world watching and talker vulgar but please do not blame the entire mankind.
Its stupid to think a guy will not perv, yes. In fact I openly say around my partner when I think a girl is hot. The same way us girls will look at an Eddie Cibrian lookalike and melt even though we are happy in our relationships.
BUT the point is that whether you like or not NOT all men will sit with their guy mates and discuss things like her body, what they want to do to her or what they did to her etc.… Some do keep such things private.
An uncle I know in all of almost 75 years has never, NOT ONCE, missed a namaz or roza or zakat or khums. He is one of the most sincere and pious men I have ever known.
But when he gets together with his male peers, sons, nephews and now grandsons - oh the jokes going back and forth between these guys.
Actually, he did miss one namaz once - fajr after his wedding night for which his mum called him out on. Never again since then
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^LOL....mom called him out on it? Yikes, how embarrassing....hopefully it was in the absence of his wife.
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Sweetheart, you based your conclusion on your experience of spending time with guys. My point is, no matter how tomboyish you were, unless you had a sausage that withered off later, you were a girl and the guys you spent time with knew that. Like I said, guys behave in accordance with the company. And I was talking about guys in general, and assuming that anyone would talk about 'all men' is nothing but brilliant. Just please don't act like you know what you are talking about, and we're all set.
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BUT the point is that whether you like or not NOT all men will sit with their guy mates and discuss things like her body, what they want to do to her or what they did to her etc.... Some do keep such things private.
distinct,
They do. Depending on comfort level.
I am mostly like aahmed, I am shy and blush when ppl talk about women openly,
BUT
BUT
I have my childhood dudes, and with them I can talk stuff.
We dont use dirty words 99.99% of them time. But we do TALK.
If a guy don't do that.
1-Either you dont know him enough.
2-He is one unlucky sob who don't deep connection with any dude.
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Ok so your telling me you talk to your 'deep connection' guy mates lol about what you did or plan to do to your wife later on in bed?
Ok so your telling me you talk to your 'deep connection' guy mates lol about what you did or plan to do to your wife later on in bed?
honey no man I know or heard of, talk abou their wives.
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Oh ok sorry so you talk to your guy mates about what you WISH you could do to some girl on tele and sit together in a circle with your 'deep connection' guy mates and all form multiple erections... yeh ok I'm sure your right and all men do it.
Like I said before I know all guys will perv, comment on a hot girl I am no way willing to accept that they do the above lol.