Am i not enough for u?!

[Sandals]

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Why do women watch Bollywood love stories if they’re already married? Are they not happy being lovey dovey with their husbands? Is it because they derive entertainment from seeing human beings being intimate?

It’s just entertainment. You need to stop taking things so personally. Everything isn’t about you.

@khawateen

Then why do it?!

A married friend of mine would watch porn whenever his wife got pregnant and bedroom action was missing for long periods of time… But i never got that… How iswatching sex and having sex the same?!

You’re right, they’re not the same thing. One doesn’t have to replace the other, so don’t take it personally.

@khawateen

I dont get it. Could it be in the sagging breasts of ure wife who has had ure kids…the cellulite in the butt… Porn stars are so firm and tight. Does it have to do with the looks then?

That’s probably it.

[system]

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^ Nope, it has to do with whether your good in bed or not rather than sagging breasts… They have unrealistic fantasies with these women because men get bored easily…

[Sandals]

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^ Right, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having unrealistic fantasies. That’s why they’re called fantasies right? Because they’re not real.

[Sara516]

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@queer

i really doubt most people here are worried from the omgz he doesnt respect women, angle.. its more a case of OMGZ how do i match up to the pr0nstar he’s been watching?! does he like her? does he love her? is he disappointed with me? maybe i should actually be trying something instead of.. well anyway..you get the idea..

Pretty much nailed it (excuse the pun )

I can respect someone who doesn’t like porn for the reasons that Noor is a bore stated above, but like you said…most of hte dislike is for this particular reason (jealousy, insecurity etc).

I say most men and women view porn to fulfill fantasies that they wouldn’t otherwise try out in real life for whatever reason. If one wants to judge what someone does in their bedroom privately…well…good for you…You to your bedroom, them to theirs. :k:

[diwana]

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If husband and wife need lingerie and porn to keep spark in marital life then man should have married a younger wife.

:runs:

[Krypton]

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@diwana

If husband and wife needs lingerie and porn to keep spark in marital life then man should have married a younger wife.

:runs:

and the woman?if they do the same…then men like you have no chance

[diwana]

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@philosophy

and the woman?if they do the same…then men like you have no chance

If is a big and uncommon condition there.

[Krypton]

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@diwana

If husband and wife need lingerie and porn to keep spark in marital life then man should have married a younger wife.

:runs:

should is a big and uncommon condition there.

[diwana]

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@philosophy

should is a big and uncommon condition there.

Not really, happens all the time.

[Noor_is_a_Bore]

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@rizla86

Word.

And the pornstars, they’re in it for the vast amounts of money they get paid. They’re females who grew up in the West, complete with all the benefits of a welfare society and the opportunities. Stop trying to make excuses for them :/. Why does exploitation only apply to the women in this industry, and not the men? pffft

I’m not making excuses for them. I’m pointing out that there is a rhyme and a reason to everything-- why certain women do it and others do not. Trying to understand the motivation and mindset is not the same as condoning it.

Likewise, a “welfare society,” and opportunities don’t negate the prevalence of sexual abuse and assault in this country, and how it directly correlates to interactions in the commercial sex industry. Though, if you’d rather write them all off as ravenous harlots and ignore the very real and pervasive fact that there a serious issue that the industry needs to address to prevent these things from happening, then be my guest. It certainly makes it easier to paint things black and white.

Men in the industry are far, far less likely to have been initially victimized and coerced into the industry than women are. Women are at a disadvantage when it comes to these issues, and a notion of common sense would affirm that.

Opportunity doesn’t supersede the effects of sexual assault, and a very high number of women in this country experience it. And as I said before, a majority of women in the commercial sex industry were sexually assaulted before they entered it. Coincidence? But I guess we can just reject all of these studies, interviews and other interactions and dismiss reality because we’re intellectually lazy.

Of course there are exceptions to this, but exceptions do not make the rule. Because a handful of more well known women having some sort of porn “celebrity,” status seem to be psychologically stable and having full consent – and furthermore, enjoyment for what they do, a great number don’t. Having said that, I personally know women who were in the commercial sex industry, and after having left it, were able to affirm exactly what these studies suggest-- pornography by and large is a very, very bad thing.

[princessjojo]

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Fantasies and fun.

I think I will have a significant problem with a porn watching husband.

But a X1000 bigger problem will be him pulling any holier-than-thou stunts on people around him during his non-porn time, especially the kids.

[Reha]

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I dont know how I would feel if he watched porn but I do know that I think its lame to watch others doing it.

As if you couldnt get any action on your own…

[K7420]

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I’m single, can I watch porn! pretty please, yes na?

[BlueBells]

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@NomiCA

So a woman watching porn is only doing it for the sake of her husband/marriage…a man watching porn is cheating?? I like the way you think…

NomiCA pal, you sound like a pretty sensible person but I don’t know why you’re so hell-bent on portraying me as the Feminazi that I’m not. Please use your comprehension skills to the best of your ability before commenting on what I said because I won’t bother with justifying myself to you anymore. sigh
If you just want to pick fights then let me warn you, I’m very non-confrontational and it’ll take a lot to piss me off. I only come here for some entertainment and like many, at times to get a break from my worries therefore I’d hate to think of you as ‘the A-hole who ruined my short time here’ when I’m logging off. So please?
We good
See I even liked your post.

[BlueBells]

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@rizla86

You sound like Mr. Mackey…mmmkay?

You’ll hate me for saying this but I always found South Park to be a little Tasteless. But if I were to choose a character , I’d be Kyle.

[rizla86]

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@Noor_is_a_Bore

I’m not making excuses for them. I’m pointing out that there is a rhyme and a reason to everything-- why certain women do it and others do not. Trying to understand the motivation and mindset is not the same as condoning it.

Likewise, a “welfare society,” and opportunities don’t negate the prevalence of sexual abuse and assault in this country, and how it directly correlates to interactions in the commercial sex industry. Though, if you’d rather write them all off as ravenous harlots and ignore the very real and pervasive fact that there a serious issue that the industry needs to address to prevent these things from happening, then be my guest. It certainly makes it easier to paint things black and white.

Men in the industry are far, far less likely to have been initially victimized and coerced into the industry than women are. Women are at a disadvantage when it comes to these issues, and a notion of common sense would affirm that.

Opportunity doesn’t supersede the effects of sexual assault, and a very high number of women in this country experience it. And as I said before, a majority of women in the commercial sex industry were sexually assaulted before they entered it. Coincidence? But I guess we can just reject all of these studies, interviews and other interactions and dismiss reality because we’re intellectually lazy.

Of course there are exceptions to this, but exceptions do not make the rule. Because a handful of more well known women having some sort of porn “celebrity,” status seem to be psychologically stable and having full consent – and furthermore, enjoyment for what they do, a great number don’t. Having said that, I personally know women who were in the commercial sex industry, and after having left it, were able to affirm exactly what these studies suggest-- pornography by and large is a very, very bad thing.

So you’re saying a roaring multi billion dollar industry is by and large built around women who suffered sexual assault? Pray do tell, what is the link between being victimized and coerced into the industry? Is it their notion of common sense again, ‘omgz I’ve been sexually assaulted now I’d rather work for a high paying porn movie than the burger joint down the road’?

There’s a huge difference between working girls who have been forced into prostitution and these pornstars. Looks like you’re too intellectually lazy to tell the difference. Women are sexually assaulted in all countries, not just the US. The rule of the porn industry is simple, where there is demand there will be supply. These women are there for the money and they probably enjoy it too. Stems from a lack of morals. Daddy issues perhaps, but no one is forcing them into the industry…they are there by their own free choice and I have no sympathy for them. I’m not going to sit around and psychoanalyse them because they have all the opportunities in the world to do what they want, this is what they chose.

[Enigmatic]

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^true that …sexual assault is a tragedy but it camnot itself compel someone to get into the porn industry …does it? so no sympathies for such women at all ..victimized or not !

[Nutwer]

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with no disrespect to anybody:

Men like sex and they like beautiful women. They also get bored easily. They watch porn for fun/enjoyment and thier is not usually any emotional attachment and it is just a fantasy if they fantazizse themslves sawpng roles with the male in the scene.
For males sex with someone who they do not respect or love is just a physical or animalistic thing.

However a married man being ‘addicted’ to porn or watching it too frequently porn indicates that there is a problem with his sex life.

[NomiCA]

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@rizla86

So you’re saying a roaring multi billion dollar industry is by and large built around women who suffered sexual assault? Pray do tell, what is the link between being victimized and coerced into the industry? Is it their notion of common sense again, ‘omgz I’ve been sexually assaulted now I’d rather work for a high paying porn movie than the burger joint down the road’? There’s a huge difference between working girls who have been forced into prostitution and these pornstars. Looks like you’re too intellectually lazy to tell the difference. Women are sexually assaulted in all countries, not just the US. The rule of the porn industry is simple, where there is demand there will be supply. These women are there for the money and they probably enjoy it too. Stems from a lack of morals. Daddy issues perhaps, but no one is forcing them into the industry…they are there by their own free choice and I have no sympathy for them. I’m not going to sit around and psychoanalyse them because they have all the opportunities in the world to do what they want, this is what they chose.

QFT!!

[princessjojo]

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@rizla86

So you’re saying a roaring multi billion dollar industry is by and large built around women who suffered sexual assault? Pray do tell, what is the link between being victimized and coerced into the industry? Is it their notion of common sense again, ‘omgz I’ve been sexually assaulted now I’d rather work for a high paying porn movie than the burger joint down the road’?

There’s a huge difference between working girls who have been forced into prostitution and these pornstars. Looks like you’re too intellectually lazy to tell the difference. Women are sexually assaulted in all countries, not just the US. The rule of the porn industry is simple, where there is demand there will be supply. These women are there for the money and they probably enjoy it too. Stems from a lack of morals. Daddy issues perhaps, but no one is forcing them into the industry…they are there by their own free choice and I have no sympathy for them. I’m not going to sit around and psychoanalyse them because they have all the opportunities in the world to do what they want, this is what they chose.

If anything, it’s a collective lack of “morals”: all components of the industry lack morals, if one is said to. Like you said, if there is a demand for immorality, there will be a supply of immorality.

The rest makes sense. I don’t sympathize with them anymore than I sympathize with the average person.