Ah come on Jailbieie, Be more humble and have a joint dhokie its not like she's sharing your husband as well have a good time and in the future reminiscent about it. Wouldn't it be cool you'll have extra people at your dhokie it will be a huge event even though you hate her try not to hate her and just enjoy.
Pendu, it's a noble suggestion on your part. And I know that a few girls would be open to a joint-dholki......but many would want their dholki to be separate and special like all the other celebratory days. It's a girl thing, hard for guys to understand. And especially when there's no obligation to share it with someone else.....she shouldn't have to. There's nothing wrong with your special day just being yours.