Re: Age Differences
The difference is that aging is not in your control, so being discriminated for having 10 extra years on you being a 32 year old vs. 22 year old is not something that you can help or change. However, getting your crap together and having a job and proper education by mid 20's isn't HARD. In fact, I'd say if anyone has their mind and works hard, you can be successful early on, and mA, our community doesn't lack the resources for it either. But that's the problem. Desi guys get coddled. They don't start getting their act together until late 20's.
I have met guys who were in their mid-20's and STILL working on a bachelors degree. Seriously? Guys who GREW UP HERE.
It's not hard. Go to public school. Do your homework, pay attention in class, and figure out some way to earn a living by studying hard. People do it all the time. Our men? Despite having every frikkin educational opportunity at their hand, instead graduate high school jaise ke jaise, and then start working at a gas station or subway afterwards, and then if they feel like it , they high tail it to a community college.
If their parents just put more strain on them instead of coddling them every time they poop as kids, then they'd be in 4 year colleges, done with college by 22, done with grad school by 25/26, and earning a proper living. Plus in the process, maybe they'd get refined and wouldn't look like Kanye West wannabes.
So by mid-20's a guy should be ready to start a family. Our men don't get their **** together until 40. WHY is that??
So, instead of being penalized, these duffbags end up getting a hot babe at 40. Whereas the 40 year old woman who was chaste, properly educated, dedicated to her career, super intelligent, samajdaar - SINGLE AT FORTY.
So if you're gonna have a market where men get judged on their careers, then judge women on their accomlishments likewise instead of the size of her pelvis, and how upright her boobs are.
You know a lot of deadbeat desi guys. Most aren't like that. Trust me, desirable desi guys, who have their sh*t together by their mid 20's have no problem getting hitched.
The "market" in this case is based on what people find attractive. It's not hardwired or rigged. It's the collective desires of men and women working to reach an equilibrium. Men are hard wired biologically to find physical looks more appealing, just like women are hard wired to place more emphasis on comfort and security. Take it up with God. Or mother nature. Or the feminists who told you that your career would result in more rishtas, but stop blaming men. They're looking out for themselves, as everyone does. If anyone wants more attention from the opposite sex the solution is simple: work on yourself first.
If the 40 year old woman was really that amazing, then she had plenty of chances to settle down at an earlier age. She likely chose not to. That's her fault. The dating pool is smaller at 40 for everyone. Most of us agree that 40 year old guys marrying 20 year old girls are not the norm. 40 year old guys to 30 year old women however, is much more likely. Women don't have this luxury, but I bet that woman had plenty of suitors when she was 25.
