The only reason i consider them restrictions is because my whole life has more or less been without any restrictions…i’ve had an easy life…my parents have brought me the best of everything and paid tons for a private education. And, all of a sudden it just seems as everything i do or want is wrong - which is not what my parents think…but like most desi parents they’re scared of what the community will think. Anyhow, i never give in without a fight
I suppose the community just see’s me as this little thing which looks like them but yet is very different . So, what if i don’t have pakistani friends (mind u thats not fault, it’s my parents fault - they sent me to school full of white people)…at least my english friends are true friends and there for me when i want them (and no-one else can make laugh like my best-friend - we’re 2 stupid people!)
it alot of hard work? not really you just have to be good at lieing and good at making lies seem like they are real…make the innocent appear to be guilty and vice versa…how hard can it get
Girls delay marriage altogether, regardless of whether or not any potentials that might come up live with their families or not.
Most of them want to delay marriage due to education and getting their career set up. No self-respecting girl wants to enter into a situation where her in-laws will force her to stop the education or work. And after all that work a girl puts into her work, who would want to be told that you can't do the job you love anymore or you can't go for that degree you wanted? Plenty of such sob stories in the desi community. Its enough to keep lots of girls away.
What is required labor market mobility?
Oh and it doesn't matter if a girl still lives with her family. You can live with your family, live under their rules and STILL have freedom. By freedom, I mean that at 3 pm on Saturday afternoon, you are free to do whatever the hell you want. Go to the mall, go read a book, go hang out with friends whatever. Just because someone lives at home doesn't mean they never leave it.
I agree with Mad Scientist. What can you do fulfilling your life in a "halal way" that you can't do when being married?
When you are single, you don't really have to do anything anyone tells you to do. That goes for guys and girls. I don't know, but I personally have had a lot of time for myself these past years. The majority of time I have, I spend doing something that I want to do - whether its study for class that I decided to take, or whether its a job that I decided to do, or a project I decided to work on, or hang out with friends that I decided to hang with.
I'm sure you can do all that during marriage too. Its just that you have to arrange all your time around that one person, and its a big change. Its big for guys, but what people don't realize is that its bigger for women. We have to work hard to earn our freedom and our priveleges. A guy can screw up 10 times and he's still allowed to stay out with friends. A girl can have that priveleged ripped off her as fast as you can say "gone", and that too for something minor. Its common knowledge, and we all know it. Of course, you have great guys out there, but its a well known fact our desi culture is highly sexist.
So, a girl is going to think twice who she's saccrificing herself for. Would you waste a perfectly good single life for some scumbag that is going to treat you like garbage, just so that you can get married so you can have sex without being called a whore? I mean really, now. I think not.
I'm still looking for an answer from someone who doesn't want to get married until as late as possible.... what on earth are you afraid that will you be losing out on?
And is letting that fear rule you actually worth the cost... living more of your life without a soulmate?
wow maddy! what are you on man! :p i definately agree :)
The bottom line is, marriage can be made out to be a living hell or sublime bliss. All depends on your attitude and I guess some luck.
No, there is no such age in that respect.
However, at some point, you do kinda get tired of all the independence and being alone, and you figure that you don't mind saccrificing some independence (because you already lived it up) for some company and a nice family.
Of COURSE your attitude and luck do play a big part.
dutch party sugests women with high educations that do not work should be fined to recover the costs of their public education. They propose that, since they will not be returning anything to the system that funded their knowledge, they should be made to pay fines in order to partially recover those costs
Girls delay marriage altogether, regardless of whether or not any potentials that might come up live with their families or not.
maddie quit presuming. I have already said it in my other posts, they delay marriage becoz of the fear of turning it out to be a disastor. Maybe u havent noticed but the gals who go for a love marriage, dont actually wana delay it. So wht do we find out from this, well just this that mostly gals who are gettin into an arrange marriage are the only ones who delay it. This concludes that just the fear of settling in a new life make um delay their marriage.
and those who don’t have children should pay triple rate of retirement pension taxes:D
don’t forget women make babies so that old people can be taken care of…who will care about babies and old people if women work??
workers paid by social system:Die, taxes…ie workers :rotfl:…if you have a broad vision of the economy…you’ll understand…that either paid or not housewife do a work that have an economic value which can be evaluated…BUT no one wants to do it cause westerners decided some time ago that women were bull****:halo:
those who think women raising kids and caring about their old parents have no value are a shame to most of our mothers :grumpy:…wtf!!!
if this work has no value stop paying day care and old age houses…tellling them theirwork is dirt and has no value, and bring nothing to the social system:grumpy:
tell to your cook and cleaners you can’t pay them cause that work has no value!
tell to your tailor your work has no value..it’s an housewife job so i won’t pay you :halo:
hope you get my point!
housewives are not doing NOTHING! they do something…it’s just that idiots can’t understand the value of their work cause their brains are too small to try to assess the economic value of unmonetarian transactions
ps, it’s to defend housewives, and prove WE have a brain i took long higher education! …i think i should start an union to defend our rights
Old people can be taken care of by machinery :o
Have you ever seen a car manufacturing plant? :o The hightech machinery there can be used with some small modifications ofcourse to take care of old people :k:
to stay on topic, I do know housewifes have a darn hard job :o
I had to cook and clean and shop for 5 weeks because my folks were away and I came home early. :D
But whats the use of a masters degree if you decide to stay at home? I knew several female docs who decided not to work on their own only because their significant other was earning good money. It is a waste of space and time and to be blunt, stealing opportunities from others.
Again, there is no sense in that. If your marriage ends in disaster when you’re younger, it’s easier to recover than when you’re older and … less in demand on the marriage front.
Delaying marriage for fear of disaster does nothing at all to decrease the risk of disaster and simply makes it harder for you should a disaster happen.
Delaying marriage for fear of disaster does nothing at all to decrease the risk of disaster and simply makes it harder for you should a disaster happen.
This is far easier for blokes...but the stigma attached to a young divorced woman does not mean that it is so easy to recover. Thus, this is another reason that girls want to be sure that when they do marry that it will be for life, and so take time thinking through and enjoying life.
mr. maddie to u it doesnt make any sense becoz ur not a chic. A gal just doesnt wana have a failure marriage period. I get wht ur saying, but at least i cant control my fear. I m just simply replying to ur q which was y gals delay marriage, well there u have it. This is one of the reasons, which to u might be senseless.
Only if ur were in a gal shoe !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
. So, what if i don’t have pakistani friends (mind u thats not fault, it’s my parents fault - they sent me to school full of white people)…at least my english friends are true friends and there for me when i want them (and no-one else can make laugh like my best-friend - we’re 2 stupid people!)
a gem of a man!!!