I know cases of where women have lost the cases.....so dont worry too much guys. a guy from my relatives got divorced to a girl he was married to for 2/3 years....anyway they said to her that they'd give her a certain amount if she doesnt get courts involved...she was being greedy and wanted more and took him to court. at the end she ended up getting next to nothing.
I think if the time of marriage is under about 3 years and they have no kids....then woman doesnt get much? correct me if im wrong but i tihnk this is how it is in uk.
I dont know for sure.....cuz im not the type who has revised all these laws ...
Nobody is complaining about getting married. What men like me are complaining about is the sytem is tilted in favour of women, even if she is the guilty party in the marriage its always the man that is penalised. Divorce laws in the West are destroying the institution of marriage....many people now rather live as partners without getting married. You get everything about of the marriage without lot of the negative points. Its not really an option for us Pakistani men, due to cultural reasons and religious reasons. However I would rather have a girlfriend or not get married as opposed to marrying the wrong person. I know there is no guarantee in life...but we must do our best to satisfy ourselves that we are campatiable with the person that we are marrying. It can make your life hell if you marry the wrong person. Men can be victims as well, I know it does not fit your perceptions but it is a reality.
The facts are that 1 in 3 or even 1 in 2 of marriages in someplaces end in divorce. In the past we have been cushioned from this due to our cultural values, but nowadays our mentality is becoming more westernised and is not surprising if the divorces also increase and become more in line with the western averages.
I think if the time of marriage is under about 3 years and they have no kids....then woman doesnt get much? correct me if im wrong but i tihnk this is how it is in uk.
I dont know for sure.....cuz im not the type who has revised all these laws ...
Well, as I said before women will play the “victim card” whenever you talk straight to them. I mean logics, facts and truth is not the way to go, just emotionally blackmail them. What a way to go!
Marry your own selves; marry someone who makes more than you do. You know what there are people who do that and they have a very beautiful life. Again, we have a scenario where women are saying that people who demand their wives to stay home. I mean how many statistics you have, how many opinion polls have you conducted that suggest that men are oppressing their wives by letting them stay home, I tell you how many none.
Than you have another instance of sacrifices, I mean yes husbands do nothing. They have no pressure to earn money, pay bills, tuitions and shopping expensive. These are not sacrifices these are obligations, but when you straight talk. Let us play the victim card.
I said it before, if you want to go for marriage, it is only wise to see the whole picture. If you want to raise your voice, atleast make some sense.
If the house was bought with his dad's money then after he has repaid his dad , he probably would not have any assets left. Or he might have said that the money was a gift from his dad. Gifts I believe are exempt.
Obviously if you don't have any assets then you can't pay anything to your wife. But if you have assets you have to pay the wife. The house would normally be considered a matriomonial home and the guy would lose half of his equity in it.
I think only a pimp lives off a woman’s earning. She can do whatever she wants with her money.
Don’t over simplify things. There are no explainations for such extreme and unusuall situations; how do you know she isn’t mixing poison in his food? Turning his children against him? Wasting his earnings? Fighting with him all the time?
So you didn’t ask for your husband’s bank balance but someone and her family asked me to show them my portfolio.
This is just a desi thing. I am not saying it is right, but asking a guy flat out, however rude and inappropriate it is, how much money he makes is not surprising. These days, even girls are being asked how much they make. This is the kind of crap that happens during the rishta process and I think most people go through it (those who chose to do things the 'traditional' way).
Bhai I think you are a little apprehensive here and thinking irrationally. No woman is gonna take away your money if you marry one. Just treat her with love, she'll die for you....
No sarcasm. Just make sure the lady is serious in marrying you and is not looking at you but at you in a relation of marriage.
OK now take it one step forward. I remember being told during conversations with women that it didn’t matter how much he made as long as he had a good heart. Was that just a front? You’ve just proved a point many men ha ve been trying to get at: women value deep pockets. Why don’t these parents ask of a potential groom if he is a namazi? If he will love their daughter? If he will treat her with respect? If he provide for her? If he share responsibility with her? Its always, what kind of a job does he have? How much does he earn? Where does he live? What kind of car does he drive?
Granted, it is a man’s responsibility to earn and provide and parents have every right to make sure he works. But are you marrying your daughter off to him or his money? hmmmm…
Probably cause they want someone who will take care of their daughter, so they say. I don't think it's right. What you say here is fair, other things are a lot more important. I have a brother as well, and he certainly gets annoyed too when that is the first thing people want to know. That's his indication to remain uninterested in such people who take no interest in anything other than how much he makes, and he has our full support. Not everybody thinks like the people you have encountered.
Bhai, I know what is going on here but irrespective of what others are saying, bashing or kissing, I want to tell you, there are good girls around. The key principals of mariage remain the same. Just try to look at how mature and complete vision a girl has about life in general and the married life in particular. Marriage is a big compromise from both sides although the nature of compromise might be different in different situations and different for the man and woman. If you'll give respect to your wife, she'll give it back more than that. However, it is essential for you to figure out what are her priorities in life. Simply talking to a girl a few times can give you an understanding of what is she thinking.
And get married bhai. Have no fears, believe in the virtue inside you and Allah's creation.
I don't think it's limited to "traditional" way. I had a general idea of his education and citizenship status, but i still never asked him exactly how much he earned and I'd still feel funny if i brought it up. The first time my mom talked to him, the first thing she asked was abt his citizenship status. When my dad last talked to him, they spent a gud hour talking about how much he earns, his education level, his citizenship status, everything. And to his credit, he did not have a single problem with any of it, he wasn't offended, or found it rude and inappropriate. He realizes its thier right and duty to ask him this stuff. If his parents ever asked me similar questions, I'd have no problems answering them.
abi poori tarha barey naheen huey ho na, sooch lo bhai sooch lo…
If you are talking about what I think you are talking about then no 