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^ If the wife catches you two then yeah lol
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ok so first of all ppl here shud get married for wanting a happy life together and not b thinking about divorce....if u hv that type of mentaltity it cud very well happpen!
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^^ Yeah I agree with that.
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We have this perception that all women are “good” and men “guilty until proven innocent”. Theme of feminists who have brainwashed the mainstream of every society with their bull**** we need to go back to understand this, the arrange marriages. Parents’ supports arrange marriages because they know the family, kids and their upbringing. They know that their kids will be in safe hands. All this crap about love that people make to be a fact is a sorry state. We have to understand that love is not a trigger than a reaction, you have to know person before you love them. Point is it goes both ways, point is women are also after money no matter how much they sugarcoat the fact. It is only wise to see the whole picture before taking that step towards marriage.
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Oh man, you should be a professor or something!!!
Women can be just as cut throat as men and yet still be considered “good” and “innocent”. How many men feel so guilty when they see a woman crying? How many men want to help a woman who is crying? I, for one, cannot watch a woman crying without at least asking what happened even if that woman is a complete stranger. This has happened to me on several occasions: Once I offered to get a cab to take her home at my expense. NO SH!T!!!
Lets forget about those testicle less men who treat their wives badly - they deserve whats coming to them. Rather, lets focus on nice men such as myself and many fine single gentlemen of marraige age who visit gupshup. They work hard for several years and establish themselves in the eyes of society. They they either get married to a woman they’ve known previously or by arranged marraige. (I personally don’t care how I get married). Then all of a sudden something snaps in woman’s head; she goes bat-sh!t on the marraige and decides she wants a divorce.
The feminists have in fact brainwashed everyone into thinking that woman is equal to man and can do everything a man can do but not when it comes to divorce; here she becomes weak and defenseless and requires protection from the evil F’in man! WTF? Do you see the hypocrisy? And of course women of gupshup think that it is fair because they cannot concieve in their furthest of imagination that a woman can turn into a bth.
Man with a Plan also made a very interesting point: A woman is looking for money. PERIOD!!! Some might be less of a gold digger than others but they are looking for money nevertheless. When was the last time you heard of a woman who wanted a broke/ugly/toothless/uncool/short/fat/balding man for a husband? But you know, I don’t mind if the woman I marry wants me to have a good job and earn even more then what I do now. I don’t mind working hard to make sure my wife lives a comfortable life. I want to be able to weigh my wife’s weight in gold. No this is not mere talk, this is how I feel. But so long as she belives in sanctity of marraige as much as I do.
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thnx 4 agreeing with me fallen :)
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^^ Thats ok. When you are right, you are right.
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Dushwari
I agree, such men exist and I hate them too. These are the one bringing bad name to “All” men and these are the ones who bring bad names to good guys too. The problem is that these guys are few and yet their deed give a bad name to all men, including the good ones. What you see here is the reply from those who have been unnecessarily pulled into “all” category without even getting to know them…
Does that mean we all are bad??? Now give me a reasonable answer? 
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Very well said. Such a reasonable answer without any invoking comments…
Thank you 
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A man is looking for beauty, PERIOD!!! Some might be less shallow than others but they want beauty nevertheless. When was the last time you heard of a man who wanted an ugly/overweight/rail-thin/bad hair and skin, unattractive woman for a wife? 
So what if a woman is lookin for moneY? If you’re the type who doesn’t wnat your wife to work EVER, i don’t htink ure in any position to go around blaming women for wanting a man who earned money, who cud give her a comfortable life, buy nice things, never worry about bills etc..sheesh. If you go into marriage thinking that ur wife is gonna turn around and rob you everything, ure just gonna be miserable. I can do the exact same, worry and worry and worry that if I get married he’s gonna beat me or be a jerk or something, til i’m 33 and single. It’s natural to be afraid because it is a huge commitment..:halo:
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^^ Your point has been repeated several times in this entire commnique.
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Ok :)
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Sara516, I am sorry but you are wrong. The whole looks thing is a wrong perception about men. If that was the case than men would just divorce their wives after six months of marriage. The looks thing is a pressure case that is instill upon by magazines, shows and society. Whether it is east or west, there is a pressure on women to look good and guess what who tells them to do it, women. Men like looks but do not choose their women for marriage on that basis.
Strippers look good and can do whatever men pleases but why are they all single and whatever.
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^Just like not all women are golddiggers who teh second u marry them will turn into *****es and take you for everything you have. That was the point I was trying to make. Not all men go purely for looks and not all women go just for money.
But looks will get a person to stay around just long enough to determine wehther the other is a gud match, if their values are in sync n have nice personalities/character. :)
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Whenever there is marriage in place, women do consider the bank account of the person. That is the main point, whether it makes them a gold-digger or not is a different issue but as long as people realize that both men and women are after money than we have plain field where there is no victim card to play just because you belong to certain gender.
You again go on to say that, men will stay on for looks. Sara516, how many good-looking women you know have a perfect marriage? Personality and selfishness are two different things. Personality means you have certain interests, emotions and belief that other person needs to understand. Gold digger and selfishness means that the person has a bad trait, you cannot identity it no matter how bad and eerie the personality.
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Hello!! Mama: What society are they talking about here??? Marrying the unknown has its hidden charms which many people fail to realize. A marriage is always a chance, whether you know a person before or not matters a little. After living together for years, JLO divorced Ben Afflack the second day of their marriage. Not a good example but the point still holds what ever the reason was for that.
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JLo and Ben never married. She called it off before the wedding. 
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Man with a Plan
Is there anything wrong with wanting money? No. If you're entering a long-term commitment like marriage, both have a right to know how much the other makes, but esp in a traditional marriage where the wife is expected to stay home and take care of the children. If you're the type of guy who wants your wife to not work, then don't complain about women who want their husbands to earn alot of money. This discussion reminsd me of something ChriS Rock said, if a man earns 20 million USD a yr and his wife takes half, that's no big deal because hey he's not starving, he's not homeless or anything. But if you make 20,000 a yr n she takes half THAT can be pretty painful.
And where did i stay that men willl stay on for looks? First, I was referring to both genders, both men AND women will look at someone's looks first, if they like what they see then they can talk and get to know each other at least enough to know whether they should go further or not. I do think that if you are talking to a woman long enough, you can tell if she's a gold digger or selfish or whatever. I never said ppl will marry SOLELY for looks, but rather get a person interested in you.
I'm not sure how exactly divorce laws work here, buT I find it hard to believe that a woman can take EVERYTHING w/o any reason, he must have cheated on her or abused her or SOMETHING. And the whole thing about how they can take away your home if ure sleeping with a prostitute just sounds made up crap [and if not, if you're sleazy enough to be sleeping with a prostitute, u deserve to have ur home taken away]. And, if you're going to stay away from marrying just because of this, I think guys should also know, there are women who will show up with children, claim its his, and blackmial him, and there's pretty much nothing they can do abt it.
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I would marry j.lo just for her magnificent behind!!