his mother seems like a very demanding controling lady from how i have heard her speak to him on the phone.
Good job Pyari. I'm glad that you're keeping your ears and eyes open and noticing things about the mom and her attitude/personality. These are things you need to take into consideration. That's very smart. Because some people get too blinded by love that they can't see clearly. You mother being older and more experienced will get a stronger feel for what this woman will be like. So listen to your mom. You are the number one priority for your mom. And that kind of love, you won't recieve from a mother-in-law or anyone else. Guys can come and go......but in desi culture, when you marry a guy, you marry not just the guy, but his whole family. And if the guy is already showing signs that he can't stand up to mommy.....then it can become problematic later one.....becaue LOVE can only go so far and marriage is more than that. You've never mentioned the guy's dad. Did he pass away or have his parents separated?