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giraffes dont run...do they?
That is some depressing life story. The bad news is from what we have seen, it isnt getting any better either. OD on Valium now before others get hurt.
u make us women sound as if we have more issues than we do.
ur making it sound like we have low self-esteem and not capable of just doing things on our own. The things ur saying about single people, dont apply to all singles, certainly they didnt to me.
And i never said she had to do them on her own... she could join a group who does rock climbing or ask her mates to go along. Same as theatre stuff. If ur into that kinda stuff, u wouldnt find it boring.
Explains why u talked about dating....
More power to you if you feel this way.
There is no such thing as having low self esteem in women. Same situation applies to single men doing activities alone or with a group of people not really attached to the person.
One can go around and have a city tour with a bus full of people, that still makes the person 'lonley' and bored. The person may ask any other person to take his or her smiley picture, or spend short time with this person on this tour, the person will still at the end of day will come back to his or her place of residence alone.
Travelling alone is fun for many men( not all men) but not really for women.
I think in reality, women feel more depressed being alone even on an exotic trip than men. In fact, for both men and women, more exotic the place, more bored/depressed they will be.
Men care less (not always) for being alone than women.
And about dating, men still have more freedom to go out and date than women. Even in free world, women wait for men to make a move and if he does not, she can't do anything about it!!! Just being realistic here.
And I never said you have more issues than you have. I only meant to say women have more issues than men.
That's boring. Ok. I need to move to Africa and save the sick and then run with giraffes in the afternoon.
Um yeah. Sesame street lied. Life is more like what Grouch was going through.
No one said you have to go to Africa:) You know what..it doesn't even have to be 'poor, homeless' people. One can always help family members and friends too.:)(and no I am not saying financially).
Contentment with one's lot in life is a very positive trait, and goes a long way. If one is grateful for everything in life that they have, and don't fret about what they don't have or cannot have, then life becomes easier. But if you find solace in grouchiness, so be it:D
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animal..... when my life is a small circle with me, spouse, parents, siblings (maybe) and children being the only people I care about and work for.
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maybe pick a hobby like painting, designing, sewing, song writing, guitar, piano etc? things you can do in your alone time but you can still show off the final products to your family/friends when you are in need of appreciation???
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time to start exploring your interests ... find something that you have always wanted to do, then go out and do it!
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Volunteer at a local soup kitchen , orphanage, hospice , hospital , go clean masjid , mandir or church, adopt a highway . Join Boys and Girls club, Habitat for humanity , Work on organizing events to empower desi or Muslim community.
You said there were no desi organizations where you live , work on forming some meaningful organization.
If you are not lazy and full of energy and want to do something , there is plenty to do just open your eye and look around.
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Play Wii fit. They have a dance game out now too.. soo...
Play Wii fit. They have a dance game out now too.. soo...
PCG doesn't like gamers or games. Otherwise, gaming is something that can take up a lot of your time. Besides, DDR's been there for over 10 years now.
After getting home from work, I usually like to get some sleep, then spend some time with my wife. We also visit family quite frequently. I also try to get Isha namaz in the masjid every night. Other than that I might also do some gaming and I've also got some personal projects I'm trying to get started but that's going really slow.
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spend time with family, get married, get engaged in activities, read books, go out with friends ..
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^ I agree with HNK! And don't think about all the bad stuff or you will never feel better.
Anyway, that's how I see it, you may not agree with it:) But I have often felt that our modern culture of consumerism, materialism, individualism has shaped us into empty, shallow people.
Not that I want to derail this thread but seriously consumerism, materialism is what is driving this world forward. If it wasn't was for this drive and competition, we would still be in the darkages.
Anyway back to PCG's topic, well I think you should socialize more, go out , and party. You mentioned you're 26 in some other thread. You sound more like you're a 50year old woman with nothing to do. All my friends who are around your age are having the time of their life.
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visit the fashion and beauty section- work on your image..that's always fun
or visit the wedding section and start looking for the perfect wedding lehenga! (that time will come before you know it, better make sure you know what you want so you don't need to rush later)
:-D
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Tell me about it. My circle of close friends is scattered, one in the US and another in Pak, we all wish we were together to spend our time, to live. A job and studies is hardly a life.
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You know what, the biggest think you need to do is be happy, by that i mean find a job that you love doing or you enjoy atleast, keep yourself busy with job stuff this way you will have less to think about ( i was in a similar situation and it worked for me) secondly make friends at work, lower your guard down, AND yeah the biggest one bring up your self esteem, be a lil carefree. Yeah travelling helps sometimes but if you are not happy from the get go then its no point.
Khush raho :k:
Anyway, that's how I see it, you may not agree with it:) But I have often felt that our modern culture of consumerism, materialism, individualism has shaped us into empty, shallow people.
thats so true...
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how abt being a volunteer @ hospital or masjid and make difference in someone's life. giving is fulfilling. u can hav a pet too. that will keep u busy.
Volunteer at a local soup kitchen , orphanage, hospice , hospital , go clean masjid , mandir or church, adopt a highway . Join Boys and Girls club, Habitat for humanity , Work on organizing events to empower desi or Muslim community. You said there were no desi organizations where you live , work on forming some meaningful organization. If you are not lazy and full of energy and want to do something , there is plenty to do just open your eye and look around.
I do a number of these things already and with my work which takes up most of my life and energy, I give back enough as it is to the community.
No more of it, thanks.