:k: I second Marwah’s suggestion… makeup is a lot of fun and helps pass the time. Go to Sephora and try out all kinds of stuff, its fun even when you’re trying out things all by yourself :D.
And you never know… you might hook up with a great guy, after looking glamorous and all 
And trust me, despite most guys saying ‘we like girls without makeup’, they actually DO like girls all glammed up.
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Find a boyfriend
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You need a SAAS to keep you busy :)
More power to you if you feel this way.
There is no such thing as having low self esteem in women. Same situation applies to single men doing activities alone or with a group of people not really attached to the person.
One can go around and have a city tour with a bus full of people, that still makes the person 'lonley' and bored. The person may ask any other person to take his or her smiley picture, or spend short time with this person on this tour, the person will still at the end of day will come back to his or her place of residence alone.
Travelling alone is fun for many men( not all men) but not really for women.
I think in reality, women feel more depressed being alone even on an exotic trip than men. In fact, for both men and women, more exotic the place, more bored/depressed they will be.
Men care less (not always) for being alone than women.
And about dating, men still have more freedom to go out and date than women. Even in free world, women wait for men to make a move and if he does not, she can't do anything about it!!! Just being realistic here.
And I never said you have more issues than you have. I only meant to say women have more issues than men.
Umm have 2-3 kids & you will cherish the time you have to spend ALONE, no spouse/no kids/no family/no friends........you love your kids & family but you need to get out alone as well.
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I go everywhere and do everything alone. I don't feel remotely hampered by my gender in doing so.
Yup! 
I am spending my unemployed days often at Sephora. lol. The days can definitely get boring and monotonous… u just have to make the effort to break it up. Playing around with makeup def helps pass time and enhances your skills.
Lots of people are suggesting getting engaged or finding a bf… etc. Its true… that will totally change your life (inshAllah for the better).
But reconnecting with some old friends or making some new friends will also really help you. I dont know where I would be without my friends. And u dont even need alot… its quality over quantity. Girls nights are some of the most fun to look forward to. Being able to talk about everything and anything passes the hours like no other… whether its in real life or on the phone. Making plans to try new restaurants and such is fun too.
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I dont know what to tell you,I am in the same boat,but reading helps me a lot.So
may be it can help you too.I hope you find some thing better soon IA.
exactly!
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wait till you have kids, then you'll WISH you had time to sit and stare at the walls. It's all about perspective and the grass is usually greener on the other side.
PCG … you rejected me while my proposal was still out there (and while the thread was still open) :pcg:
AND NOW I’M MARRIED …
soooooo … 
… i always wished if kids would REALLY grow on trees, and we can pick them off when their diaper years are over …
CAN I ADOPT YOU 
???
you can go back to being a kid 
i can have a girl-friend :hinna:
and there is our happy little perfect life 
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Ok so I went to a dawat tonight. Case in point. This is exactly what I’m talking about. I’m like the oldest single girl there. There was a table of single boys. There’s always a table of single boys. Boys whose moms dragged them to the dawat and you can tell they’d all rather be playing Xbox or Wii or whatever is out these days. (what happened to playstation, no one does that anymore?). Anyway. All those kids were younger. Tried smiling at this cute guy, and found out he’s 9 years younger than me. 
It is NOT easy to meet people after you’re done with schooling. It just isn’t. There are few venues where young people can mingle freely with each other, and very few single people left at my age. Then on top of that, they dont show up to dawats. They’re all out there cruising with gorian and kaalian (gorian more so than gaalian, pigs), and the hispanic mama-sitas. But no. Not the Pakistani girls. We all have the friggin plague.
I’m going to marry Abed from The Community. It is decided. I’m going to bombard him with loads of utterly sick romantic fan mail and hope he calls me.
That skinny kid is my only hope.
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^ is that skinny kid the one who is 9 years younger?
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Abed? NOOOOO. Have you not seen The Community? It's a TV show. You gotta watch it. Abed is one of the characters. He's so weird. I like weird.
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Oh thank God, lol.
let's see wat I do other then work and studies
Gym
Teach Martial Arts
Painting
Read Books
Cook almost daily
Volunteer
outdoor activities like hiking/back packing/rock climbing
Photography
hang out with friends
do free lance projects
learn a new language
Movies
talk to my family almost daily
Manage my own business
and the list will go on and on and on
I think the problem with u is not having much time and dunno wat to do with it but it seems more like not having a purpose in life
oh wow, i felt the same. When i was alot younger, i could not wait until i was 18 or 19 and then mum and dad wont need to tell me what to do, i could go out, do whatever i wished, didnt need to revise for exams, could just go to work, come home, and chill.
I sometimes want to weep into my pillow, wish i was 12 again......
mum always said yeh din wapis nahi ayagein..( everytime i moaned about wanting to be older)...:
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PCG, I had these same feelings a lifetime ago. I was earning lotsa money andable to do whatever I wanted, buy pretty much anything my heart desired. And it was all so lacking. But now, looking back and having this life so very full and busy...I see those hollow and selfish days as pure indulgence. I see them with rose colored glasses now. I could grab my car keys and just GO.
Dont get me wrong. I love my life, I love my boyz and wouldnt change a thang. But Iam so very glad that I had those days to be bored. They are a blessing.
It may be hard to hear or hard to understand right now...but REVEL. Revel in your freedom and enjoy it. Yup,even revel in the lonliness. It will make the rest of your life that much sweeter.
Grab your car keys and GO.
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Go where?
Folks, this is true. I have had the privelege of meeting this woman, and she really is a woman of many talents. :k: Don’t know how you do it, SS, but wish I could be more like you.