Adult Life

Throughout college and other schooling, you manage to keep yourself busy with homework, exams, learning, etc.

But then, once its all over, and you now have your job (whatever it may be), you pretty much have the day to yourself when you’re done.

I thought it would be great - I can kick back, do what I want…but, I feel so empty now.

To compensate for having nothing to do in the evenings, I waste all my time here, or on facebook, or at the mall, or watching TV.

What’s the point of life? To work → make money → spend it → sit at your home and stare at walls?

I feel so dead and purposeless in life. I just am taking on some additional projects, because I dont have anything else to do with my time.

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^ huh... take your backpack. .and go out !

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where? looking for iguanas in my backyward?

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Yeah I was just looking at a baby the other day drinking from his sippy cup, and now I want a sippy cup of my own

I wish I was a baby again. Being an adult is not liberating

Lets go look for iguanas. sigh.

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Get married man!!

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you sound like you are suffering from depression.

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Jee. Thanks, doc.

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:hehe: you are welcome

I absolutely know and understand the feeling.

I think, the best thing one can do for the time in the evening is to write someting, read something or get himself or herself engaged in activities like joining th gym or sport club.

Now, joining gym may sound easy but many people who work all day may not always have motivation to change, and go to gym.

In this case, really men are so blessed. They go out, shoot pool. Date girls or meet friends more freely than girls.

For some reason girls like to go out with other girls if single. Not the case with men.

Single girls on the other hand have few choices especially if they are not in to a guy or dating till married.

Options for girls are limited and it depends on having as many friends (girls) as they can and go out with them.

This world is somewhat cruel and is men-oriented....no doubt.

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Yep that pretty much sums it up.

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cant u travel PCG? while ur single... travel and enjoy life

once ur married... or at least with a kid u will miss these days... not that u'll hate that life, cus married life has its own wonderfulness, but being single is just as awesome. A bit draining and annoying... but it is still good.

If you can save up a little, i'd say travel.

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pcg man ... thats how it is ... u finish one thing and then u set another goal ... that iw anna do this ... and work from goal to goal

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I did. Just did a few months of travelling. Met wonderful guppies.

Otherwise I just walked the streets in different cities alone. Saw a lot of historical stuff - things I had only read about in history books. Only person I could call to discuss those things was Daddy and half the time he didn't know who I was talking about. Paul Revere? The people who make spoons?

Meh. What do you folks do when you get home?

we're not THAT limited. If u think that dating is the only thing one can do while being single... then thats very limited!

PCG, u can write... i used to write a lot when i was single.... also i loved spending time with my parents, but i see ur not living near them at the moment... hmm how about other activities, like theatre? watching plays? i dunno..

think of all the things u couldnt do while u had kids, and do those :) go for a manicure or pedicure.. go exploring... rock climbing? indoor? (these are things i long for and dread not having done when i was single)

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hmmm join yoga classes?? something fun? taekwondo?

That is fine. No argument there. :)

For a single guy or girl, these activities you mentioned are really not so apealing and in fact boring. The reason is that the person wants someone else to acknowledge the achievement he or she has in his or her life.

OK. The person did a great job in climibing the rock. So what? Strangers saw it, but not anyone who is close to the person and the person will still feel empty doing the effort.

Same goes with watching movie or theatre. Unless there is a company, other people will see the person as being weird, nerd or whatever. Even a man would feel awkward going to movies, theatre, opera alone.

Every person needs a company to to go out and enjoy these kind of activities.

Admittedly, men have somewhat more latitude to go out as single and do some of those activities.

u make us women sound as if we have more issues than we do.

ur making it sound like we have low self-esteem and not capable of just doing things on our own. The things ur saying about single people, dont apply to all singles, certainly they didnt to me.

And i never said she had to do them on her own... she could join a group who does rock climbing or ask her mates to go along. Same as theatre stuff. If ur into that kinda stuff, u wouldnt find it boring.

Explains why u talked about dating....

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lets see....work, eat, tv, laptop, sleep maybe gym somewhere in between.

Next day, repeat.

Am I missing anything? Oh yea taxes and getting old which leads to ugliness and eventually death. Thats about it. Hmmm, they never tell u about this stuff when you're a kid. I want a refund.

I beleive that's one reason many people turn to spirituality or religion. Because it's one way of finding a sense of direction in life. Through my personal experience, I have discovered that (for me) a sense of fulfillment came not from what I can do for myself, or how much money I have/can spend, but by what I can do for other people. Perhaps you can consider doing some volunteer work?(in case you aren't already doing it). If we can make a positive difference in someone's life, be it by donating money or else by investing our time..it's a worthwhile thing. There are so many people who need our help, so many causes that we can do in our spare time. We can thus spend our spare time doing whatever little we can to make a positive contribution to others life.

Now I am not suggesting that we should help others to feel good about ourselves. Because that's entirely a false concept. But only that instead of wasting our free time in doing meaningless things, perhaps we can utilize some ot it on activities that can bring a change in someone else's world.

Anyway, that's how I see it, you may not agree with it:) But I have often felt that our modern culture of consumerism, materialism, individualism has shaped us into empty, shallow people.

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That's boring. Ok. I need to move to Africa and save the sick and then run with giraffes in the afternoon.

Um yeah. Sesame street lied. Life is more like what Grouch was going through.