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Yo!..i am just saying this generally though. Lets say if my sister is getting married..i would have printed my wife's name on the card if i have written my daughter's name. I mean what in the world he was thinking??
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lol, i have a [naam] ka double rishta. but these are the same in-laws i complain about 24x7. why do you want your name on there? shouldn't you be happy it's not?
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nadz ur inlaws should have ur name on the card too. they should understand why u are nt attending the wedding. ur not on holidays.
ignore them and what they do. u can not really do much about it. tell ur hubby that u are upset about it.
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I DO think it was rude for her in-laws to not mention her name. The FIL is Nadz's mamoo....and if her MIL doesn't care much about her....at least he should have been more considerate. Sure...kids are cute n all...but she'd be too young to remember the wedding anyways even if she had attended it. Weddings involve A LOT of preparations that start pretty early on and I'm wondering if Nadz had helped out with preparations while she was in Pakistan....cuz if she had....then it is pretty tactless to be treated this way in return.
Maybe it was tit for tat thing where they decided to give her a taste of her own medicine........but somehow it seems wrong for the elders in a family (who've been through their own crap with in-laws, etc) to treat her like this. They could have chosen to take the higher road.....especially her FIL because Nadz is his niece. They could even have thought to themselves that Nadz's dad.....as unwell as he is....is still making the journey to Pak to attend the wedding, which isn't cheap. At least that thought should have made them more considerate.
While I think they were wrong....I also think that Nadz needs to just accept that this is NOT the first time they've been rude....and it certainly won't be the last. It'll help reduce the intensity of the annoyance.
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Nadzy, your in-laws sometimes behave like paindus.......your husband is sometimes dense.......but YOU too are a part of your own problem with your constant complaining. Perhaps you complain more often than THEY make their mistakes. Just like they're not crazy about you...you KNOW you're not too fond of them...so why get worked up over the thought of "They don't miss/like me." If they do pay attention to you....u don't want that. If they don't pay attention to you....you're not happy then either. Decide what you want.
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As per my information on our traditions the invitation of mehendi is from bride's sisters mainly from all the girls born in that family (and this does not involve DILs) . The status of bahoo or bhabi that nadz has I am sure that they will put her name as Mr & Mrs (her husband's name) under the wedding invitation card as RSVP.
I honestly don't think that they deliberately excluded her name it's just that it was not meant to be there in the 1st place. But because as all Pakistanis are jahil and paindoos and only one with manners and education is Nadz over here I can understand the gunaah they have done to not include her name.
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I don't know what the traditions are....(and I'm not saying that Nadz isn't part of the problem at times)...but in my head...when I picture it, it jus seems odd not to include her name. Oh well. What's done is done and her husband is not gonna back her up. Move on.
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tum apne hone wale bachche ka naam apne FIL ya MIL ke naam per rakho...
fir kuchh saalo baad unke saamne unhe indirectly baatein suna sakti ho....and then they will not be able to complain about it
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I would put my bhabis names on my cards, surely & Insha Allah.
... and that said Nadz you do have every right to vent over here like any other poster. I know they hurt you and since no one really understands it you feel the need to complain. I personally think your in-laws were wrong in this and it wasn't a good gesture from their end. But with all that, I wouldn't create any sort of drama. The only person who should've been informed was your husband and that's it. He knows so no need to let the others know you are hurt so they enjoy more on it and hurt you more.
For now, ignore it all and do send the lovely gifts. Send them the bestest gifts because a good gesture in fact leads to an inner guilt and that is what they might go through when you are nice to them.
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4 pages…awesome 
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It makes sense to me that they didnt put your name in the invites. You're not there simply. Another reason could be what Diamond mentioned above as well.
Your daughters name was put in the invitations because she is a child and their grandchild and I'm assuming the first one as well. You should be happy that a tleast they care this much for her. You're a strange kind of mother. Dont make your daughter a problem between your ils and you. Use her to get closer to them.
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its notthat.
you guys think i got upset because of inlaws not writing my name...yes ok i got upset, but i would have got over it had my husband understood. he thought i was being negative, and as usual was upset over nothing and was talking bakwas and taking things wrongly. this pissed me off even more.
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If you weren't being negative then what were you being?
Should have made compliments etc in regards to the card.
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I can kind of relate, when I was getting married, my father had printed my cousins’ names on the mehndi card, and excluded one cousin…now the cousins’ names who WERE included, I hadn’t spoken to them for years, I had no relationship with them… and the one who was excluded, she had done ALLL my wedding shopping and everything…more so we’d been great friends for years…the darling of the family… so my mother and I were angry that her name was excluded…but she handled it with grace… (because my mother and I got angry on her behalf 
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That’s a very good advice :k:.
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i think this thread should be made sticky......
Abhi to sirf mehendi ke card print huye hain:D
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well hubby aint rang or text today. first time since ive left pak back in oct that its been a whole day without text or call. so what that shows me?
Re: Absolutly fuming....!!!!1
well hubby aint rang or text today. first time since ive left pak back in oct that its been a whole day without text or call. so what that shows me?
That may show you that he's possibly busy with the wedding preparations.
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there's a few things that I have never understood bout people:
1) why do people make a big deal about wedding cards? The concept of writing every damn family member's name on the card and then have people pissed off when you leave one of the 70000 members out is so freaking ridiculous. I care about the name of the bride/groom (so I can write it correctly on their card), the time, and location. I don't really care about every other person listed on there.
2) I know you make a bunch of threads complainign about your family and tbh, I don't ever read them so forgive me if I'm wrong but...I would be MAJORLY pissed off at my cousin and brother's wife if she didn't come to my wedding. And yeah, I wouldn't see the point of putting your name on the card either since clearly you don't consider yourself close enough to be at my wedding. I don't know why you're not going but people aren't stupid and they could probably smell a bull**** excuse a mile away.
point being: you decided you weren't going to the wedding. You knew what was gonna happen (people were gonna be upset) so take your name being left off of the card as them expressing their anger. That's it. It's not completely unwarranted. Your missing the wedding of someone that's extremely close to you (you claimed that's why you're upset that your name isn't on the card...well, that works both ways)
Re: Absolutly fuming....!!!!1
there's a few things that I have never understood bout people:
1) why do people make a big deal about wedding cards? The concept of writing every damn family member's name on the card and then have people pissed off when you leave one of the 70000 members out is so freaking ridiculous. I care about the name of the bride/groom (so I can write it correctly on their card), the time, and location. I don't really care about every other person listed on there.
2) I know you make a bunch of threads complainign about your family and tbh, I don't ever read them so forgive me if I'm wrong but...I would be MAJORLY pissed off at my cousin and brother's wife if she didn't come to my wedding. And yeah, I wouldn't see the point of putting your name on the card either since clearly you don't consider yourself close enough to be at my wedding. I don't know why you're not going but people aren't stupid and they could probably smell a bull** excuse a mile away**.
point being: you decided you weren't going to the wedding. You knew what was gonna happen (people were gonna be upset) so take your name being left off of the card as them expressing their anger. That's it. It's not completely unwarranted. Your missing the wedding of someone that's extremely close to you (you claimed that's why you're upset that your name isn't on the card...well, that works both ways)
my BULL==== excuse is that im having a baby, my due date is same day as wedding. and im back home in the uk for delivery. HAD i evend ecided to stay in pak for delivery, i think it wouldve made their own life difficult, as would they be busy with me or the wedding? and i wouldnt have attended wedding anyway.