my husband just showed me via skype, the mehndi invite card for hhis sisters wedding. now oin mendi invites its the female relos that invite , so what do i see, i see his mums name, even my daughters name, and all cousins…wheres my name…
he says his dad wrote it, his dad did it all, and he doesnt see the problem anyway, cos im not there, i said even if im not there, most ppl do write it dont they, and my daughters not there, so whys her name on it…he says `oh cos dad misses her alot ( we all know that they want her at the wedding), so i said oh so no one misses me…and he said i was being all negative as usual and im wrong to feel this way cos it wasnt meant in that way blah blach…
am i wrong or right, i feel my name shudve been there, even if my daughters wasnt, but since hers is and mine isnt, the reason they out hers is silly, cos they miss her? wtf, wat about me im her bhabi as well as her cousin…but in the wedding invites she obviously doesnt have one…
im so sick of it sick of being told im wrong to feel upset. im more pisssed at him for not understanding, for not realisiing why im upset, he thinks im just over exagerting…
You're not going to be there. Your name's not there. Simple. Your daughter's a little kid and usually kids' names are included in mehndi cards. You either attend the wedding or get your name in teh card, or you don't and you don't get your name in the RSVP. You can't have your cake and eat it too. And in a few more years no one is going to give a damn anymore whose name was included in the RSVP list or it wasn't.
You're not going to be there. Your name's not there. Simple. Your daughter's a little kid and usually kids' names are included in mehndi cards. You either attend the wedding or get your name in teh card, or you don't and you don't get your name in the RSVP. You can't have your cake and eat it too. And in a few more years no one is going to give a damn anymore whose name was included in the RSVP list or it wasn't.
thats not the point. im her bhabi and her cosuin, i have double rishta. and if they had said that as a reason fine, but he said oh cos dad misses her so he wrote her name....so no one misses me? and ived seen ppl write names on cards even if that person aint there.
if my husband had another sister who was abroad or cudnt come to wedding for a reason, would his dad not have written her name on the card? of course he wud have.
Maybe they are naraz with you for not attending? I don’t know your reasons for this so can’t really say much. But yes, they still should have had your name on the card unless they have decided to not have you as part of their family .
thats not the point. im her bhabi and her cosuin, i have double rishta. and if they had said that as a reason fine, but he said oh cos dad misses her so he wrote her name....so no one misses me? and ived seen ppl write names on cards even if that person aint there.
if my husband had another sister who was abroad or cudnt come to wedding for a reason, would his dad not have written her name on the card? of course he wud have.
Doesn't matter. Your daughter's the first grandchild. For htis wedding, her name will be included. And for crying out loud stop competing with your own little girl! As for rishtas buddy I haven't attended a million and one weddings of my own cousins and we're close enough to be brothers and sisters. and my name wasn't written up on any card. The only time I was in the RSVP was when I actually attended the wefdding. I don't even know where that "special" piece of paper is anymore.
Doesn't matter. Your daughter's the first grandchild. For htis wedding, her name will be included. And for crying out loud stop competing with your own little girl! As for rishtas buddy I haven't attended a million and one weddings of my own cousins and we're close enough to be brothers and sisters. and my name wasn't written up on any card. The only time I was in the RSVP was when I actually attended the wefdding. I don't even know where that "special" piece of paper is anymore.
im her bhabi. i wudnt care if was just her cousin.
and im not competing with my daughter. im upset that they wrote everyone but my name. so his mum and my daughter. and on wedding invite its his and his brothers name, i dnt mind that bit cos only male names were there, but on the mendi, whcih is where the female names went, my name wasnt there.
because, of the intent behind it. and the fact that my husband showed me the card all excited like a kid, like oooooo look our daughters name on the card, i wish he hadnt, i wudnt have seen my own name missing. he then looked dumbfounded and comp clueless when i told him i was upset.....he ddint get it.
and im not at wedding xos im having a baby, and my due date is same day as her wedding, so wudnt have gone to wedding wehter i was in pak or uk. and my 15month old daughter isnt there either, but they wrote her name...cos shes their blood or they miss her or love her or whatever, fine, but im not that imporant as bhabi?
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