To the people who are almost bittered with the fact why people are ok with watching half naked women on bollywood or whatever, but not with alcohol and pork. That is probably because those people also compared that with other sins and made it seem ok to do. If you keep repeating something then you will start believing it's true and soon people around you and your offspring will pick it up and it becomes normal.
So don't worry. If you keep downplaying it and comparing it to other, even worse sins, then maybe it will become more acceptable aswell.
Maybe thats why suicide bombings, rishwat, haram khori and other sins have become more acceptable compared to alcohol.
occasional drinker has the potential to become alcoholic
drinking alcohol cause of stress/short term zehni sakoon/personal problems, you do can end up drinking more as time/situation pass by. Know of two uncle who are alcoholic , one got married in pakistan (his family was back there and they didn't know and neither the larki walay) he was a occasional drinker here , started drinking after he left pakistan . He did become alcoholic after some years and kids. Its addictive just like smoking and its hard to quit . I don't really know the whole story but he left this world 2 years ago and they were saying there was too much alcohol in his blood. The other uncle too started off being just occasional drinker, his sons/ wife are having hard time finding dulhan because of father-in law being a alcoholic. It effects the people around you and there are people who don't want to be associated with alcoholics, this too is one of the reason why desi find alcohol bigger gunah then the others because of biradari/ kandaan factor .. having a alcoholic in your community/kandan...
Maybe thats why suicide bombings, rishwat, haram khori and other sins have become more acceptable compared to alcohol.
Luckily there are a lot more options to choose from than the people do these things or drink alcohol. So when you can easily find someone who isn't involved in any of the above and is not a drinker then why not keep the no drinking as a requirement.
Luckily there are a lot more options to choose from than the people do these things or drink alcohol. So when you can easily find someone who isn't involved in any of the above and is not a drinker then why not keep the no drinking as a requirement.
Can you translate that to simple english or urdu please?
Sure, let me clarify that for you. What I'm saying is that if I'm hypothetically looking to get married, I'm not stuck between choosing someone who drinks or someone who does the activities you mentioned in your previous post. So I don't need to choose between would I rather take someone who drinks or does those other things. I can easily find people who do neither. Therefore, there's nothing wrong in my blacklisting those who drink.
I’m sorry talking about this ex of religious hypocrisy in our culture upsets you so much..
Of course those who live in joint families get so worked up whenever it’s mentioned.. “Omg drinking is so haram but my wife being under the same roof as my brother and my relatives is totally fine”
Hit a nerve with you, as well have I?
Apparently you can still be a good Muslim if do that, force/pressure your kids to marry, uphold the caste system or any of the things TLK mentioned but drinking alcohol is “so disturbing” lol
Problem is not that Alcohol is not haraam. We all know that it is. Problem is this that this is not the first thread that I have seen that asks if you marry someone who drinks alchohol, and many many jumped to a definitive NO in response.
Let us remind ourselves that Rishwat, Sood, Gambling, even Gheebat and gossiping are haraam too (maybe more haraam than drinking). hey what the heck, dating is haraam in islam and a gunaah-e-kabeera, and I can almost guarantee that almost all of us in this threaded have dated, touched and maybe even kissed a na meharm. Why is that we dont see threads like "will you marry a person who has taken interest based mortgage on his house, or the one who has dated before, or the one who gave rishwat to his boss for promotion"? Its because we have such a narrow and selective vision that we always count only those negative traits as Gunahe-kabeera that we dont have in us, or that are easy for us to stay away from.
No. People are only answering a question that they've been asked. Nobody is saying that it is more or less haram or that nothing else is haram or anything like that. Just because I'm doing something wrong doesn't mean I need to do everything wrong or get involved in wrong things I'm not involved in. Why don't we see threads about things like bribery, interest, backbiting is because nobody bothered starting them.
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Putting religion aside, most people here say NO to marrying someone who drinks alcohol because they themselves don't drink it. I don't think that's hypocritical at all. Now if they said no despite drinking it themselves that'd be hypocritical.
Why do people cite religion when saying no to alcohol? Because it's the easiest explanation for this particular life choice, because people usually don't like to debate religion.
I would marry only drinkers, bar hopping ,dancing....painting the town red..YEAH BABY....All night long....please, please kill me before I have to marry a boring, dull unanimated chick.....I can't be around boring people....I will be more alive when I am dead then you guys are in your youth....BORRRRRRRRRRRRRING
See all of you are against alcohol without having tried it.
Try it, sometime.
Either they are dense or straight face liars and hypocrites...they can't honestly say that if the likes of Adam Levine, Bradley Cooper Daniel Craig, George Clooney or any one of those sexy celebrities wanted to hit it...they wouldn't be jumping on it in a millionth of a second....Honestly, they would jump on a masala, lehsan badbooo then one of those hot dudes....
