^ well, that's not just hormones. It's about time reality hits her. She's not in a good situation right now. But it is up to her and her fiance to step up and make it better. If they don't want to, there are a million different ways this relationship will fall apart (and perhaps also destroy the life of a child in the process).
But the existence of this child now makes their relationship even more significant. It is worth working hard to save. They've fought to prove that they are meant to be together. Now they have A REASON to stay together, and to show the world and themselves that they can work together to make something beautiful happen. THEY DEFINE what this relationship is going to be. THEY DECIDE based on their actions and decisions. This could all be the beginning of something beautiful, if they are willing to step up and take responsibility as not only spouses but also parents.
I say they get married. These 2 share a mental compatibility that's difficult to deny. Meet Girl, who has virginal fantasies inspired by Mills and Boon. Meet Boy, who's been around the block and back (twice) but still can't get it up. Girl and Boy date for 5 long years. Their ebonic conversations suggest a rare intellectual chemistry. Hormones rage one rainy night but lightening fails to strike. Unsatisfied, Girl suddenly wants to dump Boy after 5 years of deep soul bonding. Boy yawns and notices he's run out of condoms. Fast forward 6 months later. Girl is still complaining but still boinking. Girl misses period. Girl freaks out. Enter fetus, let's call him Bob, who's here to make a cameo appearance. Girl suddenly decides she likes Boy and concludes the sex isn't so bad after all. Boy hates Bob but likes boinking.
Bob, if you can hear me, don't come out little buddy. You've got flaming schmucks for parents and the world outside is a female dog. Go sit on a heavenly cloud and give everybody the highway salute.
I say they get married. These 2 share a mental compatibility that's difficult to deny. Meet Girl, who has virginal fantasies inspired by Mills and Boon. Meet Boy, who's been around the block and back (twice) but still can't get it up. Girl and Boy date for 5 long years. Their ebonic conversations suggest a rare intellectual chemistry. Hormones rage one rainy night but lightening fails to strike. Unsatisfied, Girl suddenly wants to dump Boy after 5 years of deep soul bonding. Boy yawns and notices he's run out of condoms. Fast forward 6 months later. Girl is still complaining but still boinking. Girl misses period. Girl freaks out. Enter fetus, let's call him Bob, who's here to make a cameo appearance. Girl suddenly decides she likes Boy and concludes the sex isn't so bad after all. Boy hates Bob but likes boinking.
If we are talking about taboo breaking ... here and essentially we are talking about that and nothing else ... 'cos it's a couple in Pakistan and they were already at it ... not very religious ... he is failing to meet responsibilities ...
If he can't face burdens now then what sort of a husband or father will he be?
And to marry an atheist is a taboo breaker
To have pre-marital sex is a taboo breaker
For sure for sure having an abortion is a taboo breaker
So if you wanna go down that line ... for me there are two situations:
a) Abort (kill a child) and live with a man who fears responsibilities
b) Live as single mother (proud) and kick the man out of your life ... (to add another taboo breaker)
I say b) all the way ...
abort marriage mission ... and save a life ... perhaps saving a child and facing others will cleanse the zinna? Two wrongs don't make a right.
He thinks it is, she believes it is, let's move on from there. We are looking at week 7 now. They arent on talking terms. She hasnt told him shes planning on keeping it. He told her to abort and thats that. He's in Belgium on some conference and expects it to be sorted out by the time he returns.
IMO girl should kick out the boy and raise up this baby by herself… if she is bold enough to have physical relationship then she can raise a child as well.
