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What you need to see is whether he will be ok with you being more qualified than him. I don't want to scare you, but I have seen desi husbands ending up being complexed when their wives are more qualified than them and this creates much trouble for them in their married life. Its just that whether you both click or not and whether you think he will be ok with his lack of degree in leading a happy married life with you.
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^that happens when the wife keeps boasting her degree while having arguments........in order to belittle the husband......juss sayin u know..
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uff, must every thread be ruined?
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^that happens when the wife keeps boasting her degree while having arguments........in order to belittle the husband......juss sayin u know..
but this factor no one can ignore. A wife may or not mention her degree in arguments but her husband might constantly nag her or constantly negate anything which she says just to establish himself in front of his highly qualified wife. But whoever's fault it is, there are strong chances of trouble if the wife in any way is superior than the husband (majority of desi husbands are like that).
uff, must every thread be ruined?
How did I ruin the thread? We are discussing related issues.
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It was directed @ NomiCA.
I'm new on the board but every time I read through a thread, it's turned into a gender battle...
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oh sorry mate…
yes..Desi Dudes don’t like highly qualified wives…
highly qualified desi women marry the goras 
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They are ok with highly qualified wives if they are equally qualified too. They seem to be ok if the girl is more qualified at the time of marriage but their sense of pride vanishes soon after the marriage. Just my observation as my cousin had been through such marriage.
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Stop ruining the thread Ashy..:D
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/beats Nomi with a stick:bailan:
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Stop ruining the thread Ashy..:D
jeee acha :@:
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What you need to see is whether he will be ok with you being more qualified than him. I don't want to scare you, but I have seen desi husbands ending up being complexed when their wives are more qualified than them and this creates much trouble for them in their married life. Its just that whether you both click or not and whether you think he will be ok with his lack of degree in leading a happy married life with you.
I have witnessed this too, but I do think career success is as important to measure as academic success so like discussed earlier I guess I will have to work out how ambitious he is how much can he succeed in comparison to a future doctor.
He probably earns alot more than I could earn at 27-28 at the moment.
But i do really understand what youre saying about the complex thing
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jeee acha :@:
looks at stick ....looks at Ashy (considers beating her too)
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I have witnessed this too, but I do think career success is as important to measure as academic success so like discussed earlier I guess I will have to work out how ambitious he is how much can he succeed in comparison to a future doctor.
He probably earns alot more than I could earn at 27-28 at the moment.
But i do really understand what youre saying about the complex thing
Yeah I am just scared since my cousin went through this and really don't want any other girl go through this. But do meet him with an open mind and Allah's faith in your heart. May Allah Swt gives you the best and makes the best decision for you. Ameeen :)
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Why? :khums:
We are doing intelligent talk. Scholarly talk I mean 
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wow, interesting...
*inspiron- please do some research on what certifications he has, because i can tell you this, as someone in the finance/banking field, 98% of them require some degree. if you need assistance in find out the qualitifications to take these exams do pm me. *
*Also I agree wholeheartedly with the fact that at the end of the day if you loose your job or switch jobs, degree does count.... *
*I'm sure he had valid reasons to not finish school, but i think its important to know what those reasons are directly from him. *
Shaadi is a life commitment, and its better to take care of any hiccups/hesitations/ questions early then when everything is set and done.
*those are my two cents. *
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i was beating Nomi for ruining the thread…according to nomi u were ruining it too…i didnt wanna discriminate in my treatment of thread-ruiners 
plus u wud feel neglected if i bat nomi and not u
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Cheers for the info bro. Its good to know that his career progression wont be hindered by his lack of uni degree!
Companies aren't fooled by just a uni education any more. This guy sounds like he has far more potential and has achieved a lot more than a lot of people who go to university. Also, intelligence and curiosity don't depend on your degree.
I'm all for academic qualifications if you're academic or need them for your professional career.
So many financial companies are now starting apprenticeships for high achieving A-level students so that they can go straight into work and the companies can teach and train them how they want. Not have graduates who have managed to pass some exams but have no real work experience.
Anyway, this is a bit off topic. IMO the most important thing is how the two of you click in your views.
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Companies aren't fooled by just a uni education any more. This guy sounds like he has far more potential and has achieved a lot more than a lot of people who go to university. Also, intelligence and curiosity don't depend on your degree.
I'm all for academic qualifications if you're academic or need them for your professional career.
So many financial companies are now starting apprenticeships for high achieving A-level students so that they can go straight into work and the companies can teach and train them how they want. Not have graduates who have managed to pass some exams but have no real work experience.
Anyway, this is a bit off topic. IMO the most important thing is how the two of you click in your views.
wow, interesting...
*inspiron- please do some research on what certifications he has, because i can tell you this, as someone in the finance/banking field, 98% of them require some degree. if you need assistance in find out the qualitifications to take these exams do pm me. *
*Also I agree wholeheartedly with the fact that at the end of the day if you loose your job or switch jobs, degree does count.... *
*I'm sure he had valid reasons to not finish school, but i think its important to know what those reasons are directly from him. *
Shaadi is a life commitment, and its better to take care of any hiccups/hesitations/ questions early then when everything is set and done. *those are my two cents. *
Hmmm these are two very differing opinions!
Chicagoin, I assume you are in the US could it be possible that things are different here in the UK?
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wow, interesting...
*inspiron- please do some research on what certifications he has, because i can tell you this, as someone in the finance/banking field, 98% of them require some degree. if you need assistance in find out the qualitifications to take these exams do pm me. *
*Also I agree wholeheartedly with the fact that at the end of the day if you loose your job or switch jobs, degree does count.... *
*I'm sure he had valid reasons to not finish school, but i think its important to know what those reasons are directly from him. *
Shaadi is a life commitment, and its better to take care of any hiccups/hesitations/ questions early then when everything is set and done. *those are my two cents. *
You can do a lot of the required courses with the job. My relative did a non maths/science/business degree and started work at a very well known auditing/advisory company in the HR dept. She took lots of professional exams (which are still on-going) and she now works in Canary Wharf.
Or like, all the people I know who did Engineering and have become Chartered Accountants while working in the years after graduating. Their future job applications will most likely be based on the latter, no one cares about the degree, "Ok you have a degree, pat on head, now what have you actually achieved?"
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:k: Fair treatment policy 