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I thought you will get some educated guy, but your father seems to be in worry/hurry and it suggest that you may end with this guy who was dropped out from uni..
so you really dont have any core preferences(uncompromisable).
go and find out them and then make decision.
I disagree
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Meet him and talk to him...I would not disqualify someone based on education alone.
At least he was honest with you and told you exactly how things were. Even before you consider a future with him, its good to know you can expect at least honesty from this guy.
Education is not only meant to put food on the table...its meant to open a person's mind up to bigger and broader ideas. It helps bridge communication gaps between people - at least its meant to. It helps people understand backgrounds, differences, culture, religion, our social system, so many things, etc. Also, education does not equal ambition.
If he is ambitious and has a drive to succeed in life, I would consider him. If he comes off as someone who just doesnt try hard enough, then I wouldnt.
Yes he was very honest as were his family to my parents which they appreciated.
I agree with what you have said about education and the positives it has and i guess i can only judge that after i meet and talk to him.
My father is the really big on education being highly qualified himself and encouraging both me and my btother enough to get into med school, so this guy must have something that impressed my dad enough who isnt easy to impress.
I guess i will meet him and find out!
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lol dont work over it all so much especially about whatever the future has in its folds for you. Only that he is uni drop out should not make you decide he is inconsistent (i think this is what you mean by saying he give up he things in the middle). Who knows if he turns out to be even much more responsible person as a father and a husband. You cant know until you meet him and try to know him more. And even if he isnt so, I mean not encouraging the kids their best at school, Im sure you will, and trust me, its a very normal and healthy atmosphere for the kiddies to have only one of both the parents so serious about doing their best and all. Atleast this way the other will help them enjoying the blissful innocence and carefreeness of childhood :)
Yes i guess my worry is inconsistency and because I am ambitious I would like someone ambitious too. I guess I will meet him and find out!
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All the best. We surely want the best for you 
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at the end of the day, it is your life and you should live it the way you want to be.
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My advice to any person is to get educated and get a degree. If you put aside the worth of your 'degree' and analyze the overall education experience then there's a lot more to it then just academics, the social aspect, IMO, is just as valuable. You get the opportunity to interact with different people, you realize not everyone thinks like you, you learn to listen to different opinions and respect those opinions, etc. It's the 'exposure' in the university environment which is really important.
I know you said he dropped out in 4th year so he's been to school but then he gave up and that too in 4th year when he was pretty much done. There's probably a reason for it but nonetheless do ask if he plans to return and finish his degree. He may have a good job today but if he's ever job hunting again it won't be so easy for him.
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Now thats better. That you are clear about what you want in a man :k: If in the get to know process you find him being ambitious bingo if not then dont compromise on something your heart doesnt want to go for, or you might regret it later.
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My advice to any person is to get educated and get a degree. If you put aside the worth of your 'degree' and analyze the overall education experience then there's a lot more to it then just academics, the social aspect, IMO, is just as valuable. You get the opportunity to interact with different people, you realize not everyone thinks like you, you learn to listen to different opinions and respect those opinions, etc. It's the 'exposure' in the university environment which is really important.
I know you said he dropped out in 4th year so he's been to school but then he gave up and that too in 4th year when he was pretty much done. There's probably a reason for it but nonetheless do ask if he plans to return and finish his degree. He may have a good job today but if he's ever job hunting again it won't be so easy for him.
This part here is a good point, my dad also thought about this and he asked him this question.
His response was that he has passed his professional 'finance/banking' exams and he has those to back him up as well as working in one of the worlds largest banks global headquarters ( sounds kind of good as im typing it out haha) BUT i want to get some more details off him and look into myself, not that i think he is liar but in these situations you have to be vigilant i guess.
Yes he has had the uni experience and im sure as he works in central london he has alot of exposure to people so I dont think im worried about that side of things, this will obviously be confirmed when i meet him
The points you bring up are great though and i will definately keep them in mind.
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His response was that he has passed his professional 'finance/banking' exams and he has those to back him up as well as working in one of the worlds largest banks global headquarters...
i do NOT get this honestly...in today's world how could you pass "professional exam" without a degree...and get a job without a degree...it's really something u must give a great deal of thought.
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This part here is a good point, my dad also thought about this and he asked him this question.
His response was that he has passed his professional 'finance/banking' exams and he has those to back him up as well as working in one of the worlds largest banks global headquarters ( sounds kind of good as im typing it out haha) BUT i want to get some more details off him and look into myself, not that i think he is liar but in these situations you have to be vigilant i guess.
Yes he has had the uni experience and im sure as he works in central london he has alot of exposure to people so I dont think im worried about that side of things, this will obviously be confirmed when i meet him
The points you bring up are great though and i will definately keep them in mind.
haha; now I have to google 'global headquarters london banks' :P
If he has his certifications then he should be good :)
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It is quite possible to have passed industry courses and gotten certifications without having your uni degree. And as far as global banks are concerned, NYC and London are two of the major cities with offices for financial institutions.
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i do NOT get this honestly...in today's world how could you pass "professional exam" without a degree...and get a job without a degree...it's really something u must give a great deal of thought.
Well I know many people without a degree who get jobs in the finance world and make it big and ive googled him and he definately works there in a good position so I dont think he is lying but I am still going to look into it more.
But most people get degrees. I dont doubt his job at all, I just dont know how i feel about the importance of a uni degree.
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I just dont know how i feel about the importance of a uni degree.
nobody else can tell you how u feel about a uni degree :D
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haha; now I have to google 'global headquarters london banks' :P
If he has his certifications then he should be good :)
haha what did you find?
I need to make sure he has actually passed these exams and fully clarify it not that hes 'thinking' about taking them.
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nobody else can tell you how u feel about a uni degree :D
getting peoples experince and wisdom and advise aids me to coming to a decision though mate
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^well....to tell u about the finance though......the actual experience counts lots more than Uni degrees.....and yes.....professional diplomas and certifications can be had without a uni degree too.....
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haha what did you find?
I need to make sure he has actually passed these exams and fully clarify it not that hes 'thinking' about taking them.
You can't necessarily search to see whether he passed certain courses unless the course/program is actually a designation and he's registered with a financial institution in some capacity. Notification that someone has passed a course is not usually published online.
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haha what did you find?
I need to make sure he has actually passed these exams and fully clarify it not that hes 'thinking' about taking them.
lol, I was just being jovial. I'm too busy googling work problems right now!
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You can't necessarily search to see whether he passed certain courses unless the course/program is actually a designation and he's registered with a financial institution in some capacity. Notification that someone has passed a course is not usually published online.
oh no i meant did she find which bank i was talking about....obviously i cant search what exams he has passed!
Im going to ask him more about his exams just to ensure he has passed and trust his word
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^well....to tell u about the finance though......the actual experience counts lots more than Uni degrees.....and yes.....professional diplomas and certifications can be had without a uni degree too.....
Cheers for the info bro. Its good to know that his career progression wont be hindered by his lack of uni degree!