A question from all of you.

[flawedsoul]

Re: A question from all of you.

@ALIREZA1

Yeah I know someone white people like that also, my assistants mom was a druggie, doesn’t work or do chores but still no one cooks for her. Her mom became homeless and asked my assistant to take her in but my assistant told her that she will have to cook and clean to earn her keep. Do you have a job, do housework do gardening or have hobbies? I am talking about life in the west for average people. Everyone is required to contribute. My kids had jobs at 14, are competing in sports and cook and clean. I don’t think any sane man here will marry a whiner who has absolutely nothing to offer. For someone to loaf around and complain that they don’t enjoy the food cooked for them is insane.

Do you even read before posting? :S

OP said now, and even before, that she owns a business. Doesn’t just sit around idle and gets home cooked meals. She also says that FIL does not let her cook - but she does everything else around the house.

Not sure why people on this forum are always so quick to mock others’ misery. Fear Allah a little maybe.

OP - I’ve read your posts and while I do agree that you knew exactly what you were getting into - what’s done is done. You have to have a serious conversation with your husband. You are not obliged to serve your FIL if the MIL has planned on separating from her husband because he’s difficult to deal with. Your husband has to support you, back you up on this - he shouldn’t be asking his mummy daddy whether his wife can go stay at their parents. I find this quite repulsive actually. He needs to either take charge and own up to his responsibilities - or well, you need to take some sort of action.

I would never let my husband ask his parents if I can go see my parents. That’s not even Islamic. And technically isn’t your FIL a na mehram for you? I’m not sure on these details but it doesn’t make sense that the wife moves out to the US expecting the DIL to take care of her husband.