I want to see hindu muslim wedding.
Regards...
There were many during prophet times who converted to Islam because of marriage liability (as other spouse was already converted and they wanted to keep the marriage intact)> there is no obligation in Islam as to why you are converting as long as you are converting. Please watch before you pass such fatwas
TLK is right.....there were many that converted in the times of our prophet....however....those that did convert followed through on practicing the religion too. Without a doubt those were much better times.
The problem with converting for the sake of marriage in today's times is that many take the initial step but then fail to follow up. Often these folks don't even learn how to do namaz....they simply follow along when in a jamat.
It is the rare minority that truly accepts Islam into their hearts and lives. Let's hope that the bride-to-be in this scenario will do so insha-Allah.
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Muzna, I have seen that the people who convert just for the sake of marriage and out of those the ones who do not follow up, do not follow up because their spouses never becaming a guiding light for them or created an environment for them to embrace Islam.
I know 2 families here where Pakistani guys have married sikh girls. The girls converted before marriage but even today, after 3-4 years of marriage, they don't know how to do namaz etc. The MIL of one of thise girls said herself that what should she expect from her converted daughter in law if her son doesn't even bother to pray...
Khair, that's a different topic... sometimes, the converts show the way for the others, sometimes not.
So very, very true.
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disgusting? you do realize punjabi sikhs and hindus are drawn from the exact same gene pool as punjabi pakistani muslims, right?
^ Obviously not lol.. I wouldn't bother trying to use basic logic and reasoning with that poster.. Racists tend to have trouble understanding things that are just common sense to the rest of us :)
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- Our media’s take on the topic:
disgusting? you do realize punjabi sikhs and hindus are drawn from the exact same gene pool as punjabi pakistani muslims, right?
Well thats a false analysis as it hasn't got anything to do with your gene, colour of your skin or your ancestry.
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Are you invited to the wedding, Niksik?
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hmm it's easy to think that since the bride and groom are both technically muslim, the wedding should be islamic. but since when have desi weddings been about the bride and groom? really?
there are usually generations of families, embedded with armaans and khwahishes, and all want them fulfilled.
your friend's parents are already having to deal with a daughter launching herself into completely alien territory -- which would still be tough if she was marrying a hindu -- so if they find some comfort in a hindu ceremony, it's justified for them to ask.
for a lot of hindu parents, a muslim daamaad is a dramatic and emphatic no, especially here in india, so it's nice that they've agreed so far. who knows, God willing she may even practice Islam one day (which all depends on her husband's influence, i personally feel).. and we have no right to judge that anyway.
it also matters what kind of pheras they're talking about.
i know that some punjabis and sardars have their pheras (four of them) in a gurudwara around an alter that has their holy book. and there is a lot of maatha-teko involved for the bride and the groom. so that's clearly shirk.
agni, on the other hand, is not worshipped as far as i know.
if your friend can find translations of the mantras, like SGC suggested, which appear to be just vows anyway, then it all seems more reasonable.
maybe not 100% halal, but balanced at least.
PS: even in a muslim-muslim family union -– though i know islamic weddings should be 'culture-free' -- it's hard enough trying to introduce new traditions and rasms.. (unless one is marring one's own cousin, which is a no-brainer wedding). there is always something strange and unfamiliar about what 'they' do and 'we' don't.
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As opposed to the bride converting in the above case, the bride in the following one did not convert so they had a Sikh ceremony and an Ismaili ceremony.
I wonder what makes this right? A whole country was separated because the founders believed in a two-nation theory but still inter-faith couples do get married and live a very happy life while many same religion weddings end up in difficulties because of differences.
I can’t seem to phrase the question that is boggling my mind but I was wondering what makes a Hindu-Muslim marriage right in the eyes of society when it is not allowed in either religion?
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^ i'm not sure what society has to do with it, though, mahi. i do know that in the end, it comes down to both families hopefully looking to secure their children's happiness. it is very difficult, as a parent, to abandon your child even if you think they are making the wrong choices. i mean, put yourself in their position- if your child chose to marry outside the faith you practice, would it really be a no-brainer for you to walk away from them and tell them you'll never support them? i think its a LOT harder, maybe even impossible, for rational, loving parents to do that to their kids. it might be a knee-jerk reaction, sure, and you might be horrified and severely upset with them, but in the end, you would stand by them. and what you would do, the rest of your family would take cues from that and behave similarly.
at a certain point, you have to recognize that your child is old enough to make their own choices in life, whether they're good or bad from your point of view. and in a situation like that, you would also know that the more you threaten, the more you push them away. personally, having gone through the process of an inter-cultural marriage, i would do what my parents ultimately did- keep my child near me at all times and be there to help them through whatever choices they've made, rather than walk away at a time when perhaps they needed me the most.
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I think I really meant in the eyes of parents and not society in general. I really don't care about what people would say if I think what I am doing is the right thing. I know my parents will support me unconditionally in my causes and would stand beside me no matter what but I still think that they have instilled somethings in me quite deeply and know that I won't cross the line.
I had a pretty set mind of not poking my nose in any one else's business and let them do their own thing. I really did support a friend when she needed it the most in a similar situation as above but I think so many aspects changed when her grandmother though apparently really supportive of her offspring pinned and passed away after the union. She secretly told me one day that she would have died peacefully if the guy had converted. She said that anyone is better than a 'ladeen' and a 'baydeen' not matter how nice they are to other people around them.
I don't think that I would threaten in a similar situation but would be hurt immensely inside.
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I personally bc of my belief, do not agree with Hindu-Muslim wedding (unless hindu girl/male converts) but i do know it can work when for both husband and wife the religion does not play important role.
I personally know muslim woman who married a hindu guy she did not convert they have two children everything works fine, they both celebrate their own religious days.
A hindu friend of mine is getting married to a muslim male. They were having a hindu and a muslim wedding. The hindu wedding was to include the regular saath pheray around the fire and right after the moulvi was to read their nikaah.
Now the elders are having a problem with this arrangement and want to have just one ceremony. After much pressure from the girl's family, they have agreed to incorporate one hindu tradition into the wedding.
They are still working on it.
What do you all suggest? If anything at all. The girl is converting, but her family still wants to have a hindu flavor...
maybe she could have more of a hindu dress?
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marriage is a day of happiness. if girl's parents get happy by Saath phairay Rasam i'll do that just for their sake. If i was that girl i would strongly want my parents to be happy too.
They will be having Nikkah afterwards anyways which will be their real marriage r hav Nikkah b4 n Saath pharay afterwards. We do so many fazool rasams so wat if they just do another one. Is se parents ki nazer main damaad ki izzat bhi bairay gee.
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Hrithik & Sussanne ~ A real life Hindu Muslim couple
thats funny… elders do not have any prob with hindu muslim marriage but have probs with the ceremony and arrangement… 
that shows how much we are more cultural and not Religious.
If the gal is converting before her marriage, then obviously it should be nikaah only and no saath pheray. tell the hindu elders we already have alot of hindu flavor in our muslim marriages too 
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Old thread! The weddings all done and over with. I couldn't attend though but it was a regular nikaah and walima. The girl's parents are OK now but at the time were bitter. She did convert though and AAL IZ VELL.
^ i'm not sure what society has to do with it, though, mahi. i do know that in the end, it comes down to both families hopefully looking to secure their children's happiness. it is very difficult, as a parent, to abandon your child even if you think they are making the wrong choices. i mean, put yourself in their position- if your child chose to marry outside the faith you practice, would it really be a no-brainer for you to walk away from them and tell them you'll never support them? i think its a LOT harder, maybe even impossible, for rational, loving parents to do that to their kids. it might be a knee-jerk reaction, sure, and you might be horrified and severely upset with them, but in the end, you would stand by them. and what you would do, the rest of your family would take cues from that and behave similarly. at a certain point, you have to recognize that your child is old enough to make their own choices in life, whether they're good or bad from your point of view. and in a situation like that, you would also know that the more you threaten, the more you push them away. personally, having gone through the process of an inter-cultural marriage, i would do what my parents ultimately did- keep my child near me at all times and be there to help them through whatever choices they've made, rather than walk away at a time when perhaps they needed me the most.
Securing only their Worldly happiness is not everything SGC. You need to make sure or at least TRY harder to secure their this world, and other world too.