chalain, shroo ho jaa'ain phir .. tell us about all the wrong things that you have done :D
I would have to write a novel...
There is a pact between the wife and I, an unwritten rule from the day one. Till this day, we never insulted each others parents even if they were wrong. Forget about insult, we never even complained to each other, about each other's parents. In fact its one step further, if I complain about my mom, she does not agree. When she gets angry at her parents, I calm her down and try to show her their perspective.
*Well said *
TLK … yes i m
where is your wife? is she ban from posting 
(<-- its cute)
Kaun… no i m not cussing or making any assumptions.. i know they seems to be happy together but i m just saying he did wrong and then wrong again (by hurting his parents first and then wrong again by hurting his wife) to make it Right and here his giving advice ‘ladies dont give up’ whereas his advice should be for some Id10Ts guys out there… by the way how long did it take you to realize that u were wrong with your wife?
Here we go again. We are all human beings and humans make mistakes. We are dynamic and learning is a life long process. If your husband is so perfect, why’d he marry you? My 2 paisay..
no she is on vacation from gs …
yes Einstein, I know that I did wrong, that is exactly what I said in my OP. How long did it take before I realize it? I dont know. There is no one definite moment that I can point out, I was not maintaining a calendar or anything. Relationships are not about realizing things anyways. You just keep improving and becoming better and better husband, father, friend, co worker and what not. I know that 13 years from now, I will be even a better husband than I am now and will realize that there were probably few mistakes that I was making that I am not seeing in me as of now.
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Interesting read. Finally am sleepy after trying for 2-3 hrs :P LOL. Goodnite guys :-)
hahahaha, just so that you know i am not married 
But you may wonder why the hell am i giving relationship advise well i did lose someone due to my own faults and thus that makes my opinion null and void but …
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Desi parents and that dependency does throw a monkey wrench into things.
If problems came up in my marriage, it would be very difficult resisting sharing those problems with my family. My family and I are super close.
But here, we see the ex. of a woman who was patient with a husband who went through that spell, but I'm not so sure if I'd find a guy who would be patient with me, in a likewise manner, if I went through such a spell.
That's where I get annoyed with these sort of awww's. It's all adorable when a guy does this sort of thing, and yet nearly all of you would go off on a girl if she posted a similar problem. There would be no "aww's"
There would be a series of lectures of how grateful she should be someone even married her in the first place.
aww..this is so cuteee
A really sincere wife would support her husband in trying to bridge the gap between the new change** ... make it easy for his parents and him to accept you ... it demands a hell of a sacrifice ..** but all women who do it , compromise and sacrifice see the sweet fruit a little while later ...
What sacrifices does one make?
Jalpari, keep up the good expectation and willingness to have a strong marriage. We all are adults and it takes sometime for 2 adults to figure out the harmony that is required to keep a marriage going. But at the end, its all worth it.
How about this you reach the point of harmony and immense compatibility and then suddenly things start falling apart from nowhere, and unexplained misery surrounds everything. You wait and be strong and still nothing improves?
Sorry for flooding but that’s wrong. That would look gay lol
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ok thread moral is really good
lakin baat ik hee hai jo mainy X2 kay thread main bhi kaheee
her maslaay ki noy’eat mukhtalif hotee hai
app ka rawiya app ki wife say un dinoo kis had tak sahee tha ya ghalat asal cheez yeh hai …bawujood frustration k app nay tehzeeb ka daaman to thaama hee ho ga ..( jitna app ki nature ko mainy samjha hai ) …
ho sakta hay dosree poster kay sath mumala HAd say baahir ho
or her mard ki fitrat mukhtalif hotee hai .sooch ka andaaz alag hota hai
tahaam mera khiyal to yehee hai k ..jub ishq ka darya paar ker hee liya hay to ab Samjhota bhi ker hee laina chaeye
divorce kisi maslay ka hal nahi hotee..us kay bad dossray massaail shuroo ho ja tay hain
Desi parents and that dependency does throw a monkey wrench into things.
If problems came up in my marriage, it would be very difficult resisting sharing those problems with my family. My family and I are super close.
But here, we see the ex. of a woman who was patient with a husband who went through that spell, but I'm not so sure if I'd find a guy who would be patient with me, in a likewise manner, if I went through such a spell.
That's where I get annoyed with these sort of awww's. It's all adorable when a guy does this sort of thing, and yet nearly all of you would go off on a girl if she posted a similar problem. There would be no "aww's"
There would be a series of lectures of how grateful she should be someone even married her in the first place.
PCG i do agree with what you are saying, but u r not looking at the whole scenario, what he is trying to say that there are problems in every marriage and he did too, but they were strong enough as a couple to see through it, problems can be in any shape but one should not give in to the fact that this is not worth it, in this case niksik baji did not throw in the towel and instead tried to see what the real problem was and resolved it and for that NIKSIK baji u rock, it is a lesson to all of us guppies who are either newly married or are planning to get into one that "WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH,THE TOUGH SHOULD GET GOING" thats all.
That's where I get annoyed with these sort of awww's.
awwwwwwwwww
How about this you reach the point of harmony and immense compatibility and then suddenly things start falling apart from nowhere, and unexplained misery surrounds everything. You wait and be strong and still nothing improves?
How do you know that you have reached the point of harmony. There is no still point in relationships. They either improve or going down.
Now for the unexplained misery surrounding everything. That is just given in relationships as I said already. Relationships swing back and forth although swinging back is not as extreme as the time goes by. And no, you dont wait and be strong, you do something with positive expectations. Willingness to make it better is the key. At least one partner should have that willingness.
ok thread moral is really good
lakin baat ik hee hai jo mainy X2 kay thread main bhi kaheee
her maslaay ki noy'eat mukhtalif hotee hai
app ka rawiya app ki wife say un dinoo kis had tak sahee tha ya ghalat asal cheez yeh hai ....bawujood frustration k app nay tehzeeb ka daaman to thaama hee ho ga ..( jitna app ki nature ko mainy samjha hai ) ...
ho sakta hay dosree poster kay sath mumala HAd say baahir ho
or her mard ki fitrat mukhtalif hotee hai .sooch ka andaaz alag hota hai
tahaam mera khiyal to yehee hai k ..jub ishq ka darya paar ker hee liya hay to ab Samjhota bhi ker hee laina chaeye
divorce kisi maslay ka hal nahi hotee..us kay bad dossray massaail shuroo ho ja tay hain
Respect was always there. Tehzeeb ke daa'eray se to shayad hum dono kabhi bahar nahi nikaly. In fact koi Lara'ee Jhagraa bhee nahi hotaa thaa. Its just that I think I was not as sensitive towards her feelings as I should've been.
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I love this thread…the replies gave it ‘chaar chand’…totally made my day…
thank you TLK!
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iss main itna hansne kee kiyaa baat hai .. :pcg:
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hahahahah…TLK aint u tired of giving explanations now???
..am enjoying it:D..but i lik ur patience 
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^ I did not want to start a thread on me. I wanted to share an experience and let people talk about it. Yahaan to kuch loug mujh pe dandaa barsaanay lagay hain :(
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i say someone better answer my cot hooverdam question right now:mad: