You sound like a woman hater who expects his wife to be his ghulam. Your examples and theories are so twisted...I am surprised such backward views are coming from you. I was hoping to be impressed with your intelligence and wit...or something...
The bottom line here is - its stupid to set yourself up for failure by having expectations of any sort from your in-laws. Do your best but expect nothing and be prepared for the worst.
The other thing is, I have a choice to make right now: sleep or reply in length to you. So, I am going to sleep.
Sorry, instead of accepting the imperfect world as you propose, and be defeated by the jahaalat so many women show by fighting/arguing/being indifferent/not respecting etc. just because they are MIL/DIL,…
.. “liberal/educated/ roshan khayal women” should try to stop it rather than saying:
We do not live in perfect world. It is too idealistic..So be it.
You sound like a woman hater who expects his wife to be his ghulam. Your examples and theories are so twisted...I am surprised such backward views are coming from you. I was hoping to be impressed with your intelligence and wit...or something...
The bottom line here is - its stupid to set yourself up for failure by having expectations of any sort from your in-laws. Do your best but expect nothing and be prepared for the worst.
The other thing is, I have a choice to make right now: sleep or reply in length to you. So, I am going to sleep.
Good night.
Show me where I said a woman should be ghulam of her husband or being women hater. :)
I talked about responsibilities of men and women both.
Glad to be able to help you.
A little thank you note won’t hurt a bit.
Reha/RV, Just read my posts again, the attitude of women against women is nothing but futile for themselves and gives a great chance to men and to so many level headed women to mock at these women. Can’t you see?
If you really are on women side then work on ending this silly behavior of in laws feud or even discrimination/prejudice, rather than condoning/accepting it.
We prefer to live in the real world. The world that has people like RV and I…not in a fantasy world where the MIL and DIL are getting on like a house on fire. Life is tough and it does not hurt to make this situation easier for both parties. So having minimal expectations decreases chances of disappointment as well as many other evils. The relationship will NEVER EVER be one that can be compared to our parents. In Islam, there is no mention of the ridiculous joint family system, MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, etc. No where do these people exist! So why shove them in a box they dont belong in??? It makes no sense. Apne maan baap ki jagah koi nahin lesakta.
Oh please. For the last few threads, all its been about is “women are dependent, mazloom and bebass creatures. they will always need a man and men are amazing and blah blah blah”. Someone has either inflated your ego to set you up or you really believe the things you write. I have an easy solution for you: dont get married to a woman.
Thats what we’re doing. The problem with men such as yourself is that you believe in backward thought…keeping a woman down will help our society function…aurat ko qaabu mein rakhna as they say. Thats what your thought process suggests. If you’re real and actually believe the things you say…its sad.
I went thru the entire thread, I have yet to stumble across any post that points at 'women against women'. I think, what both are trying to say is that your inlaws can never be like your own parents. Yes, you may love and respect them the same however, you may be less patient with them and vice versa. Your parents may be more lenient, less interfering and capable of tolerating more, your inlaws may be the exact opposite.
NO girl enters a marriage armed to take panga's with her MIL,SIL or anyone. EVERY girl enters marriage seeking peace, without discrimination or prejudice.
^ They load their guns, oil their danda's and sharpen their swords and teeth!
Nevermind......you people are angry right now....
I was just asking your take on if EVERY girl is always not looking for trouble.....then logically the problem is ALWAYS at the in-laws/"so called man's" side??
or alternatively......were you saying that NOT EVERY in-law/man enters marriage seeking peace, without discrimination or prejudice??
I was just asking your opinion.
What about the so-called MEN?
yes.....please also tell me what are your views regarding MEN/Socalled Men............
is this statement correct or incorrect??
EVERY in-law/man enters marriage seeking peace, without discrimination or prejudice..
EVERY in-law/man enters marriage seeking peace, without discrimination or prejudice..
I dont think you understand...you're trying to blame people here for issues which come from ALL sides. From in-laws when they're unfair to expect so much from a newcomer in their family. From husband for not being balanced about his parents and wife. From DIL who expects too much from her in-laws.
So, if ONE side from the three above took care of their part...what is wrong with that? There is an issue with that too now? You seem to think its all about the DIL being evil and the devil...its so strange to see that. Makes me question what on earth is going on over there and also grateful to be me.
