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But yeah i might not go for someone who has been divorced many times in the past because then theres a huge possibility that there is somethign seriously wrong with him. but one divorce doesn't mean the end of everything. i would give anyone a fair chance if they have the potential to be a good husband
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oye pyg - you are splashing anger every where !
hmmmm - makes me think - which website are you visiting for connection ? Tell me - I wanna check it out too!
Not for myself - but just to see if the 7 year olds DAD look familiar
(I am not a divorcee but I do have a 7 year old - and I gotta know where hubby spends his time - as he says he is at work late in the evening)
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OMG!!!
Hahahahahahaha!
Let me think. This guy, if I remember correctly, is from up north somewhere. I know. That’s helpful. Oh yeah!!! He’s in Ontario. I remember thinking, well that’s a double whammy. He not only is divorced with a 7 yr old child and hitting on a 26 year old (which I found so repulsive), but he is in another country. What friggin planet are these people on? You contact someone knowing they’re 26 and in the states, and you want them to become a second mother to a 7 year old when they’re only friggin 26 and you want them to move out of their country.
I think it was the fact that all that reeked of selfishness, that I was like…clearly, this person is in his late 30’s and does not have a clear head on his shoulders.
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^ lol - no pyg ! Stay out!
He is just looking for time pass!
Tell him you ain't that type !
I bet that Ontario-nian has a homely wife but he is still looking for time pass - so he has to come up with an excuse of being divorced!
Let his wife take care of him with some chappals!
Tell him you wanna meet him - find out his home address somehow!
and freaking send a mail to his wife!
hahaha
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Disclaimer: OK ... I have a 7 years old kid, I am in Ontario and I have never registered for any rishta site.
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Raising a child is a big responsibility and when it isn't yours along with your husband's, it takes a great character and selflessness to provide care and love to that child...unconditionally. It becomes even tougher if you have your own child. It isn't impossible, but definitely a great task.
I don't think you who has never been married should involve yourself in a relationship such as this. You are still young and very eligible to find a regular guy with no baggage.
Ladies, would you entertain the idea of marriage with a divorcee with a kid?
This matrimonial website I'm trying (shutup, no laughing) is crawling with divorcees with 7 year old kids.
I don't think I really dig that.
PCG, it depends on you and what you feel you can handle.
Is the child's mother in the picture at all? Joint custody or full? What does he expect from you? Does he expect you to be the new mom or his wife and the child's friend? Its not at all black and white and never will be...even if you marry a man with no visual baggage...doesnt mean he wont have any.
I dont think its fair to disqualify someone based on them having children. Some might look at it as an opportunity to do good.
You have to take the whole picture into consideration. Is he a good man that just had some bad luck? Or is he an opportunist looking for his next victim? Thats something you will have to find out on your own. Forget the child for a minute because he/she is innocent and not an adult. Do you like the guy? Are you attracted to him? etc etc etc
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^ I totally agree with PSquared. It's not so black and white.
Personally i would much rather marry a divorcee (who is a great man, and loves me) with a kid rather than marrying a never before married guy who makes me live in a joint family system with crazy inlaws. Thats harder to deal with than an innocent little 7 year old who deserves love and attention wether from his biological mother or stepmom.
Niksik, I agree that it's hard to raise a child but even your biological child can be hard to raise. Child doesn't care whether you're his biological mom. He would love whoever holds him, and read him bed time stories and tuck him in bed at night.
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If the man is willing to take his responsibility, and serve his wife with all her rights then why not?
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The guy who is divorced 2 times and has a 7 yrs old has every right to look for the 3rd wife. PCG on the other hand has every right not to be interested in such guy/s. Case closed.
Well we don't know the reason why those men were divorced. I don't think all of them could've been abusive. The fact the guy is raising the kid says a lot about him right there. Just recently a guy I know had a divorce mainly because the guy wasn't able to meet all her needs in the financial department. If the divorcee is genuine, has all the right traits then why not :)
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^ But If the dude has been married more than twice and all of his wives left him for whatever reason then there is something wrong with the picture - I wouldn't trust such man nor I would encouraged other women to fall for his lies.
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^ if he was divorced more than once, then yes I'd wonder too, but if it was once then no harm in giving the guy a chance if he is a decent, religious guy. However divorcees go better with other divorcees.
