Re: Marry into family with a lot of Politics
If he pays 70% of the time…then that means you pay 30% of the time. This means he pays “majority” of the time, so why did you say in your original post that he “always” wants you to pay 50%?
Unless you mean that even though he pays 70% of the time, he is “always” talking about you paying half the time. Always talking about splitting the bill is not only annoying, it’s cheap.
It seems like you guys have already talked about marriage to some extent or you wouldn’t be hoping he’d change after becoming his wife. In that case…why don’t you ask him what his views on marital finances are to be handled. Cuz it doesn’t seem like you’d give this guy up easily even if majority of the members were to tell you to look elsewhere…cuz you’ve already developed an attachment to him. Sometimes that can cloud judgment. So, to get a more clearer idea about what you’d be getting into, ask him his views about finances, about whether or not wifey will live with in-laws, how he handles family conflicts, how he plans to handle conflicts b/w wife and family, does he believe it’s a wife’s right to work or does he demand that she work and provide (there’s a difference) etc, etc.