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She shouldnt tell the fiance. I dont think the other guy will tell, he is just trying to scare her, and even if he does tell and there isnt any evidence, its a random strangers word against hers. If she is seriously sorry for what she has done, she should repent seriously to Allah, and turn all her attention to her marriage, and making it work.
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Here is your break.
So tell me all those boys and girls who were in a serious relationship or who were engaged are married now ?
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^ What?
thnx bt i wud prefer a cadbury :p
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there is nothing like serious relationships except marriage .. .. .. all relationship before marriages are called your experiments. the more experiments you do .. the more dumb you are since you din get desire result in the very first experiment .. 
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These days marriages are easily broken too.
I hope it doesn't happen that the fiance/husband finds out his maal's past and returns it citing false advertisement.
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Eventually, she realizes this isn't going anywhere and that it's not right, so she breaks up.
you know, this goes in her favor. It was a mistake but she ended up realizing that its not a right thing to do. I dont think she should tell but if fiance gets to know about that through that guy (which I highly doubt) then I am sure that she should can confess and admit her mistake but should then tell her her the whole truth. I am sure that fiance would believe her more than a random guy off internet.
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There's a lot of speculation in this thread because people don't know the extent of the "fling". Was it just online, little flirting etc., or was it more heavy, with emotions being vested? You said they are in the same city, so were they meeting up? Without the details, it's hard to say what really went on, and what should be done to rectify matters. That's why I said before, let her conscience be her guide. She has to live with this decision.
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I'm surprised at the guys and girls saying it was in the past and she doesn't need to tell him. It was not a past act that happened before the couple got engaged. The way I see it, it was at least emotional infidelity - she CHEATED ON HIM - this was not a past affair that has nothing to do with him.
Doesn't the fiance have a right to know that she was cheating on him during the engagement? What if she does it again? If I was in his shoes, I'd want to know.
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Yeah, I didn't get the "past" thing either. It happened in the "present". But what "it" was still hasn't been properly defined.
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She should flip a coin. Head, she fesses up to fiance. Tails, she keeps quiet and continues to cross her fingers, toes, legs, eyes, and possibly her wedding plans (cross anything but her fiance).
Yes, that is just what she should do.
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lol @ 
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*lol if they've been in a engagement for some yearz then ..... who knowz the guy hasn't dated anyone ???;)... hahaha LOl .. k i'll stop jokin around now . so i think she should tell the truth to her fiance before he finds out from somwhere else *
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gosh all these people having flings left and right and sideways. they sure live on the edge.
and this is an actual person she fling-ed with.
don't want to judge her but who knows she might have had her reasons since i don't know her or her situation well enough to give her advice. but if her relationship was going all perfectly well no problems :totally angry: why would she risk losing such a good person to some stranger guy on FB!!!
it's done with but to be fair to her fiance that was good to her and never hurt her, she should tell him and if he breaks it off with her, she deserves losing a good guy like him. she didn't deserve having him in the first place. oh i don't want to judge her but she needs to see what she lost was very valuable. i mean there are men out there that are totally slimy and she had it good.
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I agree one of the above posts we don't know the extent of this relationship, she did mislead 2 ppl. amy be guys #2 really liked her and wanted to marry her and thats when she realized ooppsss, wrong number I am already engaged.
But again somethings for the sake of ones' and the other half's sanity better left unsaid, she can mention that she needs to talk and wait for a bit, if nothing happend then just let it go, if her fiance keeps asking her what it is about and this fling issue has died then she can make something up and get over it. it is better not to hurt the fiance if there is no need, but she needs to really get a grip on herself so that it doesn't happen again.
cheating is cheating no matter online, phone, in person, it is just not acceptable...but if this thing does turn into a big issue, she shold just thank god and move on.
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She was window shopping and she has the right to do so before she gets married to someone
Even when engaged? Well then this beats everything. Only a Zardari could say such a thing. Commitment and sharam go flying out of window.
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Since when do relationships succeed on lies??
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very interesting comments..
the thread is not about her being a cheater…but about the guy who she used…who is mad at her for that…
i don’t see any comments from ladies (e.g.All men are like that) like they pass when some guy’s cheating is being discussed 
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yea that’s right don’t bother reading my comment and a couple other ones that were saying the same:rolleyes: that she should let the fiance know and if he doesn’t forgive her, it’s something that she has to accept b/c she betrayed a good guy like him by using another guy just for a fling.
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I was talking about the majority and not yours and ‘couple’ of other posts..
.and the tone of the OP…how the thread is titled and subsequent ‘leniency’…
like ‘if she has realised..its ok’…and when some girl is cheated then same people say ‘leave the guy ASAP, he might continue this later’..
this place is full of double standards 
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