So this girl I know [seriously], called up last night and told me about a wicked situation she’s in. She needed some advice:
She’s been engaged to this nice guy for a couple of years. He lives abroad; she lives in India. They are to be married next March. Meanwhile, she stumbles upon this random guy via Facebook [attn. Sheyn!!!], who happens to live in the same city as her, and they end up having a “fling.” Eventually, she realizes this isn’t going anywhere and that it’s not right, so she breaks up.
A few weeks later, she gets a call from this guy telling her that he didn’t know she was engaged all this time while they were “dating” and now he’s in the process of finding out her fiance’s contact information so he can tell him about her fling with him.
Obviously she’s upset and has tried to convince this guy not to do that. But he’s disappeared!! So she needs advice on whether she should just tell her fiance herself and accept whatever consequences, or should she just cross her fingers and hope that he never finds out.
[She’s aware that I’m posting this here although she doesn’t visit GS.]
tut tut tut very bad. she should have thought about the consequences and now shes in deep doo doo. tell her to just come clean. i' m sure her finacee would prefer to hear it from her mouth rather than the guys.
Well She messed up big time. If it was me (God forbid :() i would def let my fiance know and break off this engagement. There is no way this relationship can work, her past wl keep haunting her. She should repent for her sins and start fresh with some other guy def not her fiance she cheated on.
Argh. Wat's with people nowadays :@ What happened to loyalty? sharm? izzat?...
i dun think she should tell her fiance coz the other guy won't call him ..he is just trying to blackmail her so that she starts talking to him once again..but she should end all contacts with that blackmailer and wait and see...
If there is no physical evidence of this fling, like letters , photos , emails , recorded conversation then she should not worry about it. Otherwise she needs to come clean before the marriage.
P.S: You read too much of teen aurtain teen kahanian. :D
If there is no physical evidence of this fling, like letters , photos , emails , recorded conversation then she should not worry about it. Otherwise she needs to come clean before the marriage.
P.S: You read too much of teen aurtain teen kahanian. :D
Should the worry only be that the fiance may find out?! What about your own conscious?
Cross her fingers and hope he was just bluffing.....i dont think she needs to tell her fiance (oh I can see the chappals flying at me right now) IF she truly feels that it was a mistake and she will never do ti again... and yes I would say the same if it was a dude in this situation.
Bad move on her part BUT the person blackmailing isn't a farishta either.
ouch...I don't understand why ppl dig sh*tholes for themselves when there is no problem. Probably she should indicate to her fiance right away that she needs to talk to him about some issues but not over the phone etc...so even if this person ends up calling him, she can tell him she wanted to tell herself but didn't know how wagerah..
she is a not in the best of the situations, she should try to remain cool and work through it. How is her relationship with her fiance???does he love her or it is a just arrange rishta??
She should ask herself, if her fiance was doing the same thing, would she want to know? And answer that honestly, and not in some pseudo justification manner. Let her conscience be her guide.
Whatever happened has happened . You can never take it back . If she'll tell her fiance then I am sure he won't take her back . Even if he will then she'll be a doormat all her life . So I'll suggest that
she should repent and make a firm decision that she will never ever repeat it .
Will protect her younger sisters / friends etc from getting in to such situations .
she'll try to be a better person and an awesome wife .
If girls think that we men are interested in their past , then its not true , as long as they can be a good mother , a great example for other women, and a loving wife .
Should the worry only be that the fiance may find out?! What about your own conscious?
absolutely. what conscience has to do with it ? She made a mistake , she realized it was a mistake and she will not make this mistake again . She is under no obligation to tell anybody anything.
If girls think that we men are interested in their past , then its not true , as long as they can be a good mother , a great example for other women, and a loving wife .
