Never marry an ugly old man or hag even for money gals/guys coz you can find rich young guys too ,trust me n believe in yourself.Okay now i know that was cheap:D
keep dreaming - no wonder why ya see more unmarried girls now then yesteryears !
if he is rich - handsome and young - he would be marrying a high street model look alike girl , instead of getting wedlock with avg razia - maria and sultana :)
I've seen this ALOT. I guess many men are pervs. A 36 year old wants to marry an 18 yr old. In my eyes this is sick.
I don't think it's SICK because an 18 year old IS an adult.... However, i would question the mental compatibility between an 18 year old and 36 year old and if it's a good match or not. But in the end its all their own marzi.
Most (desi) 20 year olds do not become dads, so its kind of silly to say someone 15-20 years older is old enough to be ur dad..
keep dreaming - no wonder why ya see more unmarried girls now then yesteryears !
if he is rich - handsome and young - he would be marrying a high street model look alike girl , instead of getting wedlock with avg razia - maria and sultana :)
Why not ,what you actually want you get in the end.
I'll marry upper middle class guy but never an ugly old man for money.Coz it ends up getting nothing....no love no money no understanding no marriage.
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i like this thread. there is a clear line between those who are pro-older and those are anti-older. the pros are the men. go figure.
btw a point i read here, about the whole mature men thing. you can very well find younger guys who are just as mature as the so called older males. heck i would think that the older the guy marries, the more immature and bacha he will act with his spouse, albiet might try to act as if he has the upper hand.
If a guy in 40 is still un married, it really does not mean that he is a failure. Sometimes its family obligations that make the guy put his family in front of him. A guy in 20's lose his dad and has couple of younger sisters would think of their marriage before he will think of his.
Then maybe its education that stopped him from focusing elsewhere cause he was pursuing his double phd or what not.
now why is he going for a girl on 20's cause he still deserves to raise a family. Girls are not in an ideal child bearing age when they cross 35.
Point is, let him look for a younger girl, you still have the right to say no but I dont think that you have a right to complain and accuse.
Exactly what I was going to post, obligations can do a number on people and they have tonput their own life, goals and ideas on hold while they tackle these responsibilities.
Now let me state something that some will not like. This is not the case of a 40 yr old who is still single because of obligations.
Let's say the guy is divorced, because of utter incompatibility or whatever, or he was happily married and his wife died. Not a loser, loner guy but a decent looking go getter type who finds himself single all of a sudden. Takes him a few years to get over the breakup or to accept his loss, and is looking to find someone.
If we even take the desire for kids out of the equation. Now he has to look for a match, of the women available, the numbers decrease substantially after late 20s.
And all those who are unmarried at 35 are not because of career or obligations or loss or divorce.
Basically, you have a smaller candidate pool, so it's hard to find someone, and a number there is single, well to put it bluntly, they are not good catches.
So the guy has a couple of options.
1-Keep looking for someone closer to his age group who he clicks with
2-lower his expectations and go with someone closer to his age group even if compatibility is dodgy or the spark is missing
3- go for whoever he clicks with, whether she is 35 or 45 or 25.
What would yousay to such a guy?
Btw happened to a good pal of mine, he was 33 when his wife died after comications with a c section after giving birth to their second child. Took him years to accept the loss, so at 38..what are his options? Especially with kids do you want someone who is single and closer to his agebutis a spoilt narcissistic brat? What kind of married life would he have? What kind of interactions would she have with the kids? Should he be focused on age or on the best possible candidate?
An older gentleman I know went thru the hell of losing his wife andthen being married to someone who was nowhere close to being a good match where the overriding rationale for the match was that she was closer to his age and unmarried. They divorced, and he later married someone older than him but single because she could not have kids, and they are happy together. Compatibility was the key. Age was secondary.
I don't think it's SICK because an 18 year old IS an adult.... However, i would question the mental compatibility between an 18 year old and 36 year old and if it's a good match or not. But in the end its all their own marzi.
Most (desi) 20 year olds do not become dads, so its kind of silly to say someone 15-20 years older is old enough to be ur dad..
That's true but it's not silly to assume that a person who's double of your age is fit to be your father, btw my cousin got married when he was just 21 and he's desi, also 15 years gap is still reasonable i think but not 20.
40 year old means half finished...The point is why would he want to marry(Exclude the case of salman khan)?:D
It implies to both men n women.
i like this thread. there is a clear line between those who are pro-older and those are anti-older. the pros are the men. go figure.
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well tlk noted the kid issue, biological clocks are a factor more so for women
secondly, as I noted the number of available single girls in late 30s is low and the quality factor becomes more of an issue.
The thread had a tone that a 40 yr old looking to get married is some playboy who has been screwing at each continent, and is now looking to get married.
We provided alternate views.
This is not to say that the first type don't exist, they do. But everyone's decisions should not be judged by using this type as a standard.
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I swear by me Lord and sword that I believe in dragons, fairies, unbiased Pakistani women and other mythical creatures!
Some double standard we see here in desi women - if it aint their score then it is sick , weird and God knows what not
but if it is - man its all fine and dandy !
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So what is the general consensus on a 40 year old woman who wants to bag a 20 something year old man?
Just want to know for future reference 
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start a new thread maroush :D
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times are changing really fast....even a 4 year age difference seems decades apart!
According to the statements stated here - it should be equally sickening; repulsive , awful, cloying, creepy, ghastly, grody, and hateful !
O yea vulgar and scuzzy too
Let see how many of your clan , come and call it yucky now !
times are changing really fast....even a 4 year age difference seems decades apart!
Age is just a number my friend :)
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^No it's not.
^No it's not.
it is appa je - as i have observed that couples within same age bracket argue and fight more :)
i like this thread. there is a clear line between those who are pro-older and those are anti-older. the pros are the men. go figure.
btw a point i read here, about the whole mature men thing. you can very well find younger guys who are just as mature as the so called older males. heck i would think that the older the guy marries, the more immature and bacha he will act with his spouse, albiet might try to act as if he has the upper hand.
hehe. :D
i think x2 put it best, compatibility is the key....everything else is secondary.
we can have all our generalizations but there's always a few exceptions to the rule. Not all girls who go for older guys are gold diggers or looking for a father.
Then again a 15 year old with a 30+ is kinda unsettling.
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Interesting to see some of my more religiously inclined friends here have an issue with it. The prophet (pbuh) was in his 20s when he married Khadija (ra) who was 40 I believe.
If that 40 year old looks like Demi moore, not bad.
Then again how many 40 year old women look like her (naturally)?
It is not now and it was not 1400 years ago.
What is not now, 15 year old with 30 y/o?