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aaah thanks muslimah you are so right!!! :) I have to enjoy this time as much as I can. :)
Saima i am in Karachi, feel bad cuz u gave this whole amazing list of stuff for brides in Lahore hehehe but I m sure someone might have benefited from that infro. There is maria b here also so I might check it out
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whow all of you are getting married some time soon or are atleast engaged so gratz to all of ya ... as for me i dunnu when hahaha LOl far far atleast 5-7 yearz and i wish time can fly by for meh Lol
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I just got my bridal and reception outfits!!! I am so in love!!!! They are even more beautiful than I thought!!!! I feel like a princess in them!!! I always watch wedding shows on tv, and my favourite one is "Say yes to the dress", and I see how white brides cry when they put on their dress, so I was thinking, "do Pakistani brides cry when they put on their outfits?"....and the answer for me is "YES"...I was so overwhelmed, and emotional!!! But they were good tears!!
Congrats!!! :D
I love watching that show as well, so I can only imagine how amazingly excited and emotional you must have felt trying them on!!
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^hahaha so cute. I just felt like a little girl playing dress-up when I tried on bridals.
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I just got my bridal and reception outfits!!! I am so in love!!!! They are even more beautiful than I thought!!!! I feel like a princess in them!!! I always watch wedding shows on tv, and my favourite one is "Say yes to the dress", and I see how white brides cry when they put on their dress, so I was thinking, "do Pakistani brides cry when they put on their outfits?"....and the answer for me is "YES"...I was so overwhelmed, and emotional!!! But they were good tears!!
aweeeeee so happy for you!!!!! Where did u get them from??? i am sure u have mentioned this but i have forgotten :) SO HAPPY for u again :D
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heyyy allll, i am getting nikaah-fied in 2011. i was initially going to get married in 2012, but we have decided to do the nikaah earlier and now i am rushed with things because only a few months are left :(
i wish you all the luck and ask that you please pray for me too.
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hello to all honeey wali dulhans :)
I'll be a 2011 bride inshallah... date and month has not been fixed yet but somewhere in 2011 INSHALLAH... i was not SOO excited as i feel time is not moving at all :( .. BUT after reading this thread i am feeling butterflies in my stomach hehehehe... :) lots of things to do haan ( i didnt think about all the preparation except my wedding dress i have already made a separate folder for all the dresses i like for my jahez and shadi valima) :)
i was upset due to something ... but feeling much better now :)
wish you all the very BEST DULHANS
~~*~~mubarak ho~~*~~
if you decide any parlour,photographers just let me know as well
aww Farahsha Congratssssssssssssssssss!! My date is also not decided yet & seriously, Thanks to SAIMABshe started this thread. I was also kinda upset cuz of the whole leaving parents and everything. but i got so excited after this thread hehehehehe!! it is the best time of our lives and we should really look forward to it :))) cant wait for my weddin dress or valima dress heheh though I have got none preparation yet. My date wod be somewhere in first week of julyyyyyyyyyy :D
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I just got my bridal and reception outfits!!! I am so in love!!!! They are even more beautiful than I thought!!!! I feel like a princess in them!!! I always watch wedding shows on tv, and my favourite one is "Say yes to the dress", and I see how white brides cry when they put on their dress, so I was thinking, "do Pakistani brides cry when they put on their outfits?"....and the answer for me is "YES"...I was so overwhelmed, and emotional!!! But they were good tears!!
** awwwwww hugs So happy for yu :) I am sure you must be lookin so pretty in them!! what are the colors?? I wonder what feelings you must b going thru hehehe :) but congrats honeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!
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aweeeeee so happy for you!!!!! Where did u get them from??? i am sure u have mentioned this but i have forgotten :) SO HAPPY for u again :D
Thanks everyone!!! My bridal is from @YAS, its from his new collection, the white/ivory one, and for my reception, its from Rani Emaan. both dresses are so gorgeous! even more than I thought they would be!!!!
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aww Farahsha Congratssssssssssssssssss!! My date is also not decided yet & seriously, Thanks to SAIMABshe started this thread. I was also kinda upset cuz of the whole leaving parents and everything. but i got so excited after this thread hehehehehe!! it is the best time of our lives and we should really look forward to it :))) cant wait for my weddin dress or valima dress heheh though I have got none preparation yet. My date wod be somewhere in first week of julyyyyyyyyyy :D
Aww!!! Anytime!!! i love talking about wedding stuff, especially my wedding...so I know other brides will feel the same way! I totally get how you are feeling sad about leaving your parents. My wedding is in 3 months, and I am so sad and nervous now. I have never been away from my parents before, and now Im moving to another country where I dont know anyone!!! super scary for me!!! hang in there....and once Im married I will be back on this forum with tons of advice I can offer to anyone going through the stresses of planning a wedding!! I will also post some pics from the wedding!
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BEST OF LUCK ALL OV U
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** awwwwww hugs So happy for yu :) I am sure you must be lookin so pretty in them!! what are the colors?? I wonder what feelings you must b going thru hehehe :) but congrats honeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!! **
you are too sweet!!!! My bridal, believe it or not, I decided to go with white, so its white and ivory with dull gold kaam on it. and my reception one is deep purple accented with ruby red and emerald green, and the kaam is dull gold, silver, and swarovski crystals!! they are both gorgeous in their own way! Feelings are completly mixed right now...excitment, nervousness, Im scared, Im happy, Im sad...everything all together!!! but mashAllah, everything is coming together perfectly!!!!
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My honest advice would be, just stay quiet and wear whatever they give you. I know you'll hate it, and I know it's really tempting to ask your fiance to intercede on your behalf, but trust me, don't. You have the whole rest of your life to wear whatever you choose, but it's this time of your life where the opinion that they form of you will last a lifetime. If they get the idea that you're difficult and don't appreciate their clothes, as butt-ugly as they may be, they'll harbor some resentment towards you for that even if they never express it out loud, and your fiance might eventually get tired of fighting your battles for you. Just bite your tongue, wear them as nicely as you can and with a smile on your face. It'll pay off in the long run more than having a nice jora on a couple of Eids. Just trust me on this one ;).
I am not married and very picky about my stuff too BUT i think i would agree with your advice. I have seen how these things can affect your future relationship with your in-laws. BUT i really wish people understand that there is no use of giving someone a gift they wouldnt like. I am not saying dont keep your traditions or customs intact but you can strike a balance. Like the in-laws should take the bride to be along so they can collectively select a dress.
Also, this is a little bit off topic, but my sister in law, who is older then me and my husband isn;t married yet and my husband pushed for us to get married now. Our marriage was our choice and not families. I feel that my Mum in law might not like me because I am getting married before her elder daughter. Is that bad? I mean is there something wrong with it? I don't know how I would feel if my younger brother gotmarried before me
Well it depends on how old your sis in law is and why she is not married yet. But in general, most younger brothers would wait and that's the way to go about things unless there is a real reason to not wait.
Hello, ladies. I'd like to take this time to ask for some advice. Lately there has been some tension between me & the in-laws. I'd like your honest-to-God opinion on the situation. Caution: read when you’re bored. This post is very long!
My fiance's family is Bangladeshi. His mom doesn't speak much English or Urdu, so most communication between our families goes through my fiance's sister-in-law (SIL). Now, I get along great with the SIL- or so I thought, until recently. I thought she understood me & I could talk to her like a sister. Keep in mind that she's also a "bahu" of the house, not my fiance's sister. Now, I think it's safe to say that us pakistanis are kind of snobby about our clothes. Each one of us thinks we are a fashionista, am I wrong? I admit it, I am in the same boat. Even my mom can't shop for me, that's how picky I am. My fiance's entire family seems to have verrrrry different taste from anyone in my family. For the walima outfit & the clothes they are going to give me in my jahaiz, my mom and I are kind of scared of what we will find.
The problem started when I was searching for bridal outfits & didn’t like anything, but I absolutely FELL IN LOVE with an outfit that would not look as hot in any shade of red/pink. So I had it in mind for a walima outfit, but I couldn’t figure out how to ask my MIL if it’s ok for me to get that one. I was willing to buy it myself, but I didn’t tell anyone that. I only briefly mentioned to my SIL that I found a walima outfit that I really like, who assumed that this meant that I wanted to pick out my own outfit. This idea was just too unconventional for her. She complained about it to our MIL, and now their family thinks I’m being cheap & asking for them to buy me what I want, as if they just are a bank account. They think I’m taking the essence of the “gift” out of the whole process. Also, since my mom knows how different my SIL's taste in clothes is from mine, my mom advised me to give my SIL the contact info of a family friend who runs a clothing business b/c I love their stock of clothes. I would blindly trust anyone to go shopping for me through them. So I brought up the idea to my SIL one day & she got offended & never asked for the family friend’s contact info. She then called my MIL & told her that I want to do all of my own shopping, who do I think I am, when she got married she didn’t pick out her clothes, etc, etc. But I was only suggesting a vendor for her- not picking out my own outfits. Misunderstanding #1.
Also, my MIL has her heart set on a gorgeous jewelry set. My fiancé showed me the picture, and I absolutely love it. But it’s got rubies in it, so I was confused b/c rubies are red… typically the bride wears the jewelry her MIL gives her on the walima day, & I haven’t really seen ppl wear red on their walima. So I asked my fiancé if I was supposed to wear this on the walima (b/c sometimes you get jewelry in your jahaiz, so you don’t end up wearing it on either wedding day, right?). His mom said I could either wear it on the shadi or walima, but she wanted me to wear it on one of those days. Well, it’s red, and so is my outfit. I looove the set, & my family hasn’t gotten any jewelry yet, so it made sense to me to wear it on the shadi. I planned on buying jewelry to go with whatever the walima outfit would be. When my SIL asked me about it, I told her what I was thinking. She said there’s no way our MIL could have told me I’m allowed to wear it on the shadi b/c our MIL told her to get a walima outfit to match the set. Then, she lectured me about how disrespectful I will be if I don’t wear the set on the walima & how badly ppl will talk about me. I didn’t say anything, I just listened to the whole thing. I have no problem wearing it on the walima day, it’s just that I thought my MIL was cool with me wearing it on the shadi. She then told my MIL that I don't like the jewelry, which is why I don't want to wear it on the walima. And that she doesn't think that I am not going to wear any nice jewelry on my shadi day. (I don't know where she got these ideas from.) My SIL also misinterpreted like 10 other things from that conversation & called our MIL & complained to her about me. Now, how unfair is that? The way I see it, if she had a problem w/what I said, she still shouldn’t have gone to our MIL. I can’t even plead my case to my MIL b/c I don’t speak fluent Bengali. My fiancé is on my side about this whole thing, but I wish he didn’t have to be torn between me and his family. He is willing to defend me to the end, but I would much rather communicate on my own to my MIL to better my relationship w/her. I didn’t think I was out of line. I mean, it’s so common for girls to have a say in their clothes these days. But my in-laws have never heard of this before, so they think I’m being disrespectful. Ufff. How can I fix this?
You need to sit down with yr mil and fiance and have a heart to heart. Say all that you want to say to her to clear out the confusion and have your fiance translate it to her. I am sure she wl understand. You gotta work to fix this rite now.
I just got my bridal and reception outfits!!! I am so in love!!!! They are even more beautiful than I thought!!!! I feel like a princess in them!!! I always watch wedding shows on tv, and my favourite one is "Say yes to the dress", and I see how white brides cry when they put on their dress, so I was thinking, "do Pakistani brides cry when they put on their outfits?"....and the answer for me is "YES"...I was so overwhelmed, and emotional!!! But they were good tears!!
Awwwie. Good Bless :)
Congrats to all the brides.
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Im a July 2011 bride. Does anyone think getting my wedding lehngas in late January is too early? thats the only time i can go back home and get my outfits.
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saima your outfits sound gorgeous mashallah! can you post pictures? if u dont want to show the whole outfit, maybe just a part of it? i'm really curious about how the reception outfit's color combo will turn out.
maham- thanks for the advice. i've tried communicating & my fiance is really balancing the two sides well. however, i have settled for just looking ugly and hoping the walima night will pass by quickly. hah.
shafaaf- no, it's never too early to get your outfits, in fact, that's perfect timing. bridals take a few months to receive once u place an order. good luck!
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Im a July 2011 bride. Does anyone think getting my wedding lehngas in late January is too early? thats the only time i can go back home and get my outfits.
No. It's perfectly fine to place your order in jan.
maham- thanks for the advice. i've tried communicating & my fiance is really balancing the two sides well. however, i have settled for just looking ugly and hoping the walima night will pass by quickly. hah.
:)
Don't settle for it. It's your bloody right to be sure that you enjoy your wedding and wear what you like or atleast don't wear something you are not comfortable with. You should have talked to your mil about it, your fiance should be able to put that across to his mom too.
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oh i tried communicating and it just got messier. everyone was getting offended, and i still don't get why it is so wrong for me to go shopping w/my MIL. i can't change their firm opinions, so i just keep telling myself that it's only for 1 day & then it will be over. it's ok, i am now on a quest for a bridal outfit that will make up for the ugliness to follow, lol.
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GUYS....I need HELP.....Im getting married as I mentioned in 2011....and Im going shopping in Pakistan next month...AND I have no clue where to go to buy my outfits in Lahore???
PLease help me out...you guys know how stressful this is...and its my first time in Pakistan...I feel like crying...
Can you guys suggest anything else that I need to get from there that I can't get from Canada???
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Dude. Bridezilla, no stress, yaar. Lahore is the place to shop. You should get everything from there- clothes, jewelry, & invitations are way cheap there. Also buy your fiance's clothes, his family's gifts, & your family's clothes from there.
Inhale, exhale. Now start by making a list of all the things you need to get done for the wedding & pre-wedding events. That should give you a push in the right direction. And as far as bridals, 1st filter out the designers you like, then check out their boutiques in Lahore. InshAllah you will be alright. No sweat.
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GUYS....I need HELP.....Im getting married as I mentioned in 2011....and Im going shopping in Pakistan next month...AND I have no clue where to go to buy my outfits in Lahore???
PLease help me out...you guys know how stressful this is...and its my first time in Pakistan...I feel like crying...
Can you guys suggest anything else that I need to get from there that I can't get from Canada???
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
OK...calm down!!
Lahore is an amazing place to shop. First and foremost. If you want a designer lengha/clothes, there are so many designers to choose from in Lahore. All you have to do is go to "MM Alam Road", and majority of designers have shops there. Also, there is a place called 10-Q in Gulberg, and they have all designer outfits under one roof! There are some designers, like Sarah Salman, Zara Shahjahan, Kichoo (a guy who I met, who is sooo nice, and designs really nice clothes) who work out of their home. All you need to do is buy a bridal magazine when you get to Pakistan (Me and my Wedding, or Brides and You), and all their addreses, and phone numbers will be in there. Also, if you PM me your email address, I will scan the directory pages from my bridal magazines (I ordered some) and email them to you.
If you are not looking for a designer lengha/clothes....all you have to do is go to Liberty!! Trust me, that is the place to be!! you can get any kaam, any kapra, any design. They have some amazing kaam walas who can copy any outfit you give them a picture of. And even if you dont like anything in the magazines, or anything you have seen online, just go there, and they have their own stuff already made, and you can choose from that. Liberty also has shoes, jewelry, cluthes, chooriyan (although Anarkali is known for their chooriyan so check that out too).
Trust me...Lahore is the place to be for shopping!!!
Just relax, take a deep breath!!! And everything will be ok!!!